Onwards and Upwards!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Oh I hate boats too. I once went on a cruise to Norway and the sea was so rough I gen thought I was going to have to get off at Oslo and fly home!

I hope you have a good day! Xx

Good morning All. I hope everyone is well. And Happy St. Patrick's!
Yes, I got to sleep eventually, thanks Hush. I don't think I've had a full eight hours (or even six!) since the kids have been born. You sort of get used to it but I hate that 'foggy' feeling. Is your tooth still hurting?
I hope you feel better now kirk. Do you think it was the motion of the train making you feel ill? Probably that and everything else you've had to deal with in the last month has come to a head. Take care of yourself. That's lovely that your mum came to meet you.
Hello pizza I like your name! I've got two of those. Was the fish and chips good?
We have a really good chip shop not too faraway and the queues on Friday evenings are really long, up to about forty people deep. Worth the wait though.
I hope everyone has a good day and maybe a half of Guiness! 🍀

Good morning WTAFF.
I can understand wanting to get off and fly home.
I just do not like the motion even when it is reasonably calm.
I think the only boat I would like is a cruiser that sat in the harbour and you had friends on for drinks etc! In my dreams!

Have a good day. I hope your puppy will behave a little better today xx

Good morning Pisco. Happy St Patrick's Day!
I started my celebration last night as my tooth was killing me. So I had a glass of Irish Mist which is a Irish whiskey liqueur. I used it as I kind of mouth wash but didn't spit it out! It really helps.It is a bit easier this morning.
Glad you got to sleep eventually.
I think you can get used to a sleep pattern!

I hope you have a good day and enjoy yourself later!
The Guiness sounds good! Not as good as it tastes on draught in Dublin!☘
xx

Ha ha! I like that, using whisky liqueur as a molar anaesthetic! Good thinking Hush! I like your style. Yes you're right, too good to spit out.
Ah, yes, a gin palace in the south of France, or the Carribean. How lovely that would be.....

Thanks Pisco. Yes a gin palce would be good. Doesn't even have to be that far away!xx

Sorry or even 'Palace!' x

Good evening,
I hope all my MN friends have had a good day?
Mine has not been too bad. My toothache is bad again now.
xx

Hi Hush. my day has been ok. However, I'm worried about one of my friends. She got out if an abusive relationship last year and has been chatting to a couple of people online. One of the men has been very full on (think declaration of love after four days of chatting) and it now transpires that he has asked her to send him £3,000 (no idea what for). I think she is going to send it to him despite my warnings.

Hi WTAFF. Glad your day has been okay.
Sorry to hear about your friend. Surely she is not that gullible?
All you can do is warn her. Lets hope she doesn't do it!

There are some real rotten people about! x

Good evening Hush (and all).
Sorry about the toothache - and the worrying. It goes with the territory at the moment. Hope that you're talking about it in real life?

WTAF - is there anything on line about these fraudsters that you could send your friend that might help dissuade her?

Sending good wishes xx

Good Evening Louisa,
Thank you for your kind message.
I went out for coffee with a friend this morning and had a good chat.
She reckons that I am being far too nice and that I should go no contact.
I hope you have had a good week?
xx

Oh no your friend ( I promise ladies I won't give my lunch date any money 🙈) she must not send the money!!! Can you believe it my back tooth starting aching today , I bet I was grinding too hush last night in sympathy with you ! I have not had work done to that tooth , can't afford another bill !!! Having a chilled night , off to a wedding tomorrow as a singleton but like notonyour says I can't stay in missing opportunities , it's me ex friend originally but they are both our couple friends , so just because he won't go , it doesn't mean I can't ! Having my hair done , makeup contoured whatever that is and my nails done , what the heck I deserve it , I may come home after day reception but at least I will have been . Enjoy your evenings my mn friends especially our thread leader hush ❤️

Hi all, I've spoken to my friend. It's slowly dawning on her that this is a scam. The sad thing is she said to me 'I've just enjoyed feeling wanted these past few weeks'.

Hi WTAFF.
I am glad that your friend is seeing it for what it is!
I feel really sorry for her though. I am sure that there is a genuine, kind man out there for her. She just has to find him xx

Good evening Kirk,.
Sorry to hear about your tooth coming out in sympathy with mine!
I hope it gets better without work on it!
Enjoy the wedding tomorrow. At least your ex isn't going.
I hope you enjoy your pampering session. You deserve it.
That sounds grand, thread leader!
Thanks Kirk.
Nighty night!xx

WTAFF ahh your friend , how vulnerable are we all , I can understand her though xx

Hello all, glad to hear your friend gave you some good advice Hush - it sounds to me like she's got a point!

Thanks Chicon. I think my friend does have a point.
I hope you are OK? Xx

Hush, How would no contact feel? Could you manage it?
It would be a way of taking some control back for yourself. Let him communicate via your solicitor rather than contacting you when he feels like it. Worth a thought. xx

Hi Louisa,
That is what I am doing. I cannot deal with him anymore, as every time I get a bit stronger he either comes or sends me an e mail and then I am upset all over again.
Xx

Hi Hush, thought I'd say a quick hello on your new thread. Hello to everybody else as well - some familiar names there.

I agree with what other posters and your friends have said about no contact. I have done this and find it really helps; it's the only way I can deal with it all. The thought of seeing him, hearing him or speaking to him just sends me into a tailspin. He is complying and has only sent one or two texts to let me know if he is coming to collect something. I make sure I am out. He doesn't come in when he picks up DD2; he parks on the street and she goes out to the car. It is the only way I can cope with it and I found it a lot better knowing I don't have to see him or speak to him.

I started the ball rolling with mediation and they have said they will make contact with him. If he does contact me wanting to talk finance then I will just refer him to the mediator. There is nothing else he needs to speak to me about and the kids are of an age where we don't have to thrash out contact arrangements. I must say, I found it a huge relief speaking to the mediator and finding out that they will do all the contact with him.

I got a text from him a few hours ago saying he would like to come and collect some stuff from the shed at the weekend. I just replied "Yes". I will go out so that I don't have to see or hear anything. Isn't it insane that it has come to this in just a few short weeks? There are times when I don't think I'll ever get over the shock of it all. To my DH: may your sunbed tan fade, your cosmetic dentistry drop out and your ear hair grow like feckin' Rapunzel's.

Keep going Hush. You come over as such a kind and caring person; he is the one who will lose out ultimately.

Hush and every one: aren't teeth the worst and why oh why is it so expensive to fix them!? (rhetorical question).
Pisco Hello, Yes my small cod and chips was yummy but too big a portion, I was a bit intimidated by a huge man waiting by the counter that I forgot to ask for my pickled onion. I am really NOT the sort of woman to get intimidated normally but the next village is a bit rough and I'm, obviously, not myself yet.
Kirk Do let us know how the wedding goes, I'm sure you'll look fantastic, although I've never heard of 'contouring'.
I met him for coffee this afternoon, it was quite pleasant, just chatting about this and that, and then he told me he was going to be moving into her flat permanently and paying half the rent etc. ( he's been just dossing there since I forced him to leave, he had intended to share a house with a male co worker). I told him that he still has belongings, mainly presents from me ( antique clock, a clock and a couple of other knick knacks) that he needed to move, he was happy to do so and thought I was being helpful; in fact I was being Passive Aggressive because I know these items will always remind him of me.
I feel perfectly fine tonight and not at all fazed by the development.
A good night's rest to all of you.

Good Morning Tartan,
Welcome to my new thread.
I think no contact is the only way to go. As you said the thought of seeing him, hearing from him or speaking to him sends me into a tail spin!
I am not sure how he is going to take it.
I have told him!
I am glad it is working for you.

I do not know what is happening about mediation yet!
I do not want to keep contacting my solicitor.
I realise that she is not a marriage guidance counsellor!
Plus time is money.

Do you trust him to just take what he has come for?
It is insane that it has come to this in just a few short weeks.
My husband is a stranger. I know lots of ladies on here say that too.
I feel like you do that I may never get over the shock of it all.

How is your DD coping with all this?

Thanks again tartan. Please take care of yourself. I am sure that we both deserve far better treatment than this. Good luck xx

Good Morning pizza.
I think toothache is awful. The thing is it seems to be reasonably ok during the day but by the evening it is driving mad!

You are a better person than me. I couldn't have sat there having coffee with him especially when he told you he was moving in with her permanently. I hope he removes his things soon. I am glad that you felt fine and not at all fazed by the development.

I hope you have a good day. Take care xx