Onwards and Upwards!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Hi notonyur.
I will try and set myself a goal for April. I will put my thinking cap on!
I am going to stay with friends and they are away In May.
My youngest needs to be here to look after the dogs. I cannot put them in kennels.
Also I cannot leave the house as not sure what would happen if no one was here.
My son is at a really important stage of his degree so doesn't need any more pressure.
I am not afraid to travel alone. I just cannot go away at the moment. It is only a few months to wait and looking forward to it is sometimes the best bit!
I hope you enjoy your trip away with your grandson's football team.
Take care xx

Hi pizza,
I have just explained to notonyur why I cannot go at the moment.
I am not sure whether one of my son's is in contact with his Dad.

How are you doing today?
Take care xx

Good morning Hush & all,
I like the idea of a target for April.
Might I make a practical suggestion re your house. Maybe you don't have to put everything back or up before having it valued - maybe you could clear some stuff instead and minimise what you need to put back up??

I have been learning (the hard way) from DD about ridding myself of clutter and it pains me to say that she is right. I feel so much better when I look at an ordered room with just a few nice pieces in it. It goes against the grain - I am from the clutter generation - I have looked at things and thought ' but that's worth something' - but the reality is I'm never going to get round to using it / wearing it / etc.
There's a very irritating book (which daughter gave me for Christmas and I still love her!) called 'The Life Changing Magic of Tidying by Marie Kondo. Although the writer is bonkers, it does have some really insightful points - and one of the things she suggests is that you look at a possession and ask 'does this bring me joy?'. I thought that was complete rubbish BUT have found myself looking at bits and pieces and asking myself that question - and lo and behold - out it goes. It's quite therapeutic.

So..... that's my thought for Tuesday.
And yes to treating yourself. Hair, nails, facial - anything that you may not normally do that's just for you. for Tuesday.

Yes, I bought the Konmari book for myself at Christmas. Have got rid of loads of stuff and had a load more I was going to sell...but it's still sat there in boxes and I can't be bothered, so off to the charity shop again this week!

Hi Louisa,
I am going to have a go at clearing some stuff instead of putting it back up.
I know I need to look at getting some of the clutter. As this house is full and there is no way that I will move somewhere bigger or of equal size to this.
There is also a lot more stuff in the garage and loft! Doesn't bear thinking about!
I will take a look at the book you mentioned.
I will also make a hair appointment as I am overdue again!

I have done quite a lot today apart from being on the phone and on MN.
I have walked the dogs. Bathed the older one, which is a challenge in itself!
Made a boiled pineapple fruit cake as my sister and brother in law are coming for coffee tomorrow.
I am just going to go and clean my shower room.
Hope you are having a good day. I hope your wee dog is doing well.

xx

Hi pizza,
Glad the book worked for you too.
I have lots of stuff I was going to sell on EBay but I don't seem to have the inclination!
I hope you are having a good day?
Take care xx

I had my darling GD for the day, that always cheers me up.

Evening all

Well, I need a kick up the arse. Was thinking earlier about the text XP sent Sunday saying happy Easter and replied. Told him not to text again but at the same time told him how hurt/upset/angry etc I still feel - went onto 2 pages. All his reply was 'sorry'. Not sure if he's sorry for sending the Easter text or for the way he has made me feel but either way the tears are back. I feel so stupid now - all of my hard work undone.

Hope everyone else has had a better day.

Don't beat yourself up pickmeup, it's done now , I have done the same in my past and then spent days of wasted negative energy on regret. They don't know what to say to us but sorry doesn't come anywhere near 😢

Thats good pizza. I expect she kept you busy xx

Thanks for that Kirk, you're right. I can either beat myself up or forget it and start again from scratch. I'm going for the second option :) x

Hi pickmeup.
Kirk is right don't beat yourself up. You have done it now. An empty sorry does not help after what they have done! You are not stupid you just have feelings! If you cry that is a good thing. It is a new day tomorrow and you can have another smiley in your book!
Chin up! xx

Evening all. I'm on a massive spring clean.
I'm so glad that you are all here being honest about your feelings. I go through exactly the same things over and over in my head, and I really do feel that I've lost the plot! I least I know I'm not alone. Thank you. X

Hi Pisco.
Hope the spring clean goes well.
I think a lot of us have lost the plot on here. Not surprising really thanks to our husbands/partners.
I have wanted to message my dh for days but where will it get me and it will just fuel his ego.
Hoping that we can all have a stress free evening xx

I am chilling watching bake off creame on bbc2 In bed ! I have a sticky toffee pudding shouting at me in the fridge , my son is watching football in his room and he has just changed all my bedding for me ( he knows I hate changing bedding ❤️) we may need to share it later with cream 🙈

kirk you have all the best ideas!

Glad you are chilling Kirk.
I am watching Holby! I don't expect you watch hospital dramas?
I like the sound of the sticky toffee pudding apart from the fact that is my dh's favourite. Wow what a good son changing all your bedding for you. I think he deserves to share the stp with you. Ice cream with it would be good too.
Enjoy xx

Reading all this I have motivated myself - tomorrow will blitz the house - tidy and clean and daffodils in the windows!
It's building ourselves up piece by piece. I'm a number of years ahead in terms of loss and recovery. I am by myself which is not what I had planned or hoped for BUT I am quietly content - happy even.
Sleep well all.
xxx

Yes hush you know me so well , no hospital dramas but I do love one born every minute (on 4 now) then my favourite new programme first dates ( getting some tips ! Not )

Good Evening Louisa,
I am glad you have found motivation on here.
I think i will buy myself some flowers tomorrow in remembrance of the person I lost very recently.
I am glad that you are quietly content and happy.
Sleep well.
Goodnight xx

Hi Kirk. I hope you enjoyed one born every minute?
First dates! Interesting!!
How is the sticky toffee pudding?
Goodnight xx

Yes son and I enjoyed it with cream as no ice cream , only managed to watch one born as its my favourite first dates so saving it for a fed up period to cheer me up , I either want a baby or a man !!!! Good night ladies , hush I text you today but I think I have the wrong number ? Xxx

Louise love your post , we are all good enough all together on our own but we have peace of mind , that is special no more wondering when ??

Hi Kirk, Glad that the sticky toffee pudding and cream went down well.
Both babies and men are hard work. Maybe babies grow up though!
I have sent you a text message so you have my correct number.
Good night.
Sleep well xx

Good Afternoon. How are we this afternoon?
All well I hope?xx