Onwards and Upwards!

[Hushabyemountain98]

Good morning. Welcome to my new thread. I hope that all my MN friends will join me and maybe a few new ones!xx

Hello All,
please please will one of you sort this weather out, I honestly think that if I had two nice warm, wind free bright days in a row I might be back to my usual self. Hey ho!

pickme well done for the will power not replying to that text, I must try and learn from that. At the moment I still really crave attention (from HIM) although Saturday there was no contact for the first time since her left 4 weeks ago.....and I didn't contact him ( until Sunday, I'm weak).

pisco I could no more than go out for the evening than I could fly to the moon but I will be going to Aldi on Wednesday so will wear my new make up then!!

Hush Hope you have a good blow out with the dogs!

Love to all x

Bless you pizza , I lol at you could fly to the moon , I know exactly what you mean sometimes that brick wall is to hard go climb , Aldi is good enough ❤️

Morning all

Weather dreadful here too so I don't envy you taking the dogs out Hush.

Not much planned for today, DD had a clear out of her mountain of clothes yesterday (it was either that or buy another wardrobe and build an extension to put it in) so we have my 13 year old niece coming by later to take first dibs before we bag the rest for the charity shop. It was lovely hearing Niece squealing with excitement when DD rang her last night so looks like I'm in for a 'girly' day and fashion show later.

Hope you all have a good day x

Hi Hush I think you were right before when you decided not to contact him. Xxx

Hi Kirk,
Thank you for your message.
I have just taken my youngest back.
So I am back with just the dogs again.
Not a nice feeling.
I hope you have enjoyed seeing your friend.
Take care xx

Hi pizza.
This weather is awful. It has brightened up a bit though.
Trouble is it is so muddy again where I walk the dogs.
They get filthy.
I hope you wear your new make up to Aldi. It is good to look good.

Take care xx

Hi pickmeup.
It wasn't too bad taking the dogs out apart from the mud!
I hope you enjoy the fashion show this afternoon.
Maybe you will have a laugh.
Take care xx

Hi Chicon.
I think you are probably right about me not contacting him.
But it is so hard.
Especially as I know he is away with her again and I am sitting on my own again crying.
Hope you are having a good Easter Monday.
Take care xx

Hi Hush. I'm sorry to hear that you're feeling blue again. It must be difficult after all the hustle and bustle. Today for me is the usual endless rounds of preparing food, clearing it up, laundry. Then repeat. Trying to motivate the small people to do anything. Hey ho. X

Hi Pisco.
Thank you for your message.
It seems like it is all or nothing!
Now the house is empty again.
Not how it should be!
Yesterday I did lots of cooking, clearing up, laundry and driving.
I hope you manage to get your small people motivated.
Enjoy the rest of your day xx

Well, thank you to whichever of you changed my weather!! I have managed two stints in my garden equalling about an hour and I feel so much better for it.

Hugs to Hush, I bet we're all scattered across the country so a very long armed hug to you!

Hi Pizza,

Glad your weather improved so you managed to get things done in your garden.
We keep getting heavy showers.

Thank you for the hug xx

Hugs to you. I am in London. Managed to cook a nice lunch yesterday, today have cleaned out the gutters - something the kids haven't really grasped yet! One more day of bad weather then it's going to get better. I'm happy not to be in Brussels right now. Sooooo ... Hush, what about a good resolution for April? Something to take you forward into your future? is there something you can think of that you definitely can manage - you've got till Fiday to think of it! I'm going to have to do Lent over again because the cake-eating has been pretty bad! but my actual resolution for April has to be to get shot of my old car. It's sitting on the drive here in London and it's dead. It's old and it's can't cope with sitting here and not be driven very often. Poor old car! So I'm going to promise you that I'm going to deal with it by Saturday April 30.

Thank you Chicon.
I am glad you are in London and not Brussels at the moment.
Good that you cleaned out the gutters. I hope you are right about the weather.
The sky is really dark again, it's going to pour down.
I haven't a clue what to say about a good resolution for April.
I will give it some thought.
I hope you manage to control your cake eating.
I hope that you manage to deal with getting rid of your old car.
I have loads of stuff that I need to do but they do not get done.
I have stuff to do that I am dreading. I know that I need to do them otherwise it will all creep up on me and then I will be thrown into a panic.

I hope you have a nice relaxing evening after your productive day.

Take care xx

Hi everyone, and big hugs to everyone feeling low in spirit. (xxxxxxx)

I have a garden full of people as my 3 eldest all have birthdays this week and they've got their friends over for a BBQ and swim. I haven't been out to them though because Im not feeling very sociable. Im going away with my grandsons football team tomorrow as the team Granny and Ive had ironing to do as well as packing. But there is also the fact there's a lot of new faces out there and Im just not in the mood. Im quite happy to sit here in front of the TV as a lady of a certain aged who's happy to have a glass of wine put in her hand every so often and be fed when the food is ready.

And I know it must seem as if my lot spend a lot of time here but the reality is that we built this house for extended family living and entertaining so my son, and 'us' , would never be lonely (even before I ended up on my own) and there would always be people around us. It works for us and is nothing unusual here

Tomorrow Im away for 5 days with my grandsons football team as the team Granny just in case the wee ones get homesick. It seemed like a good idea 2 months ago when I agreed to do it but Im enjoying my spring cleaning and to be honest I'll be happy to be home and back to the cleaning next week.

Husha - stuff him and the OW being away on holiday!!!!!! Please think about going away on your own holiday - Im more than happy to go with you.!!!!

Right. Thats it. They're all in the pool and Im off before anything of theirs comes off !!!!!!

Hi notonyur.
Sorry that you are not feeling very sociable tonight.
At least you have a glass of wine and hopefully some food by now.
Have a good time away with your grandsons football team.
You are good doing your spring cleaning.
I am planning on getting away to stay with my friends when my youngest finishes University. Thanks for the kind offer.
I was going to contact my dh as I had some very sad news last week and I was going to tell him. I spoke to my eldest and he said not to as it will just give him the opportunity to get at me again.

I hope you get a good nights sleep.
Take care xx

I'm so glad it's Tuesday tomorrow. At least some semblance of normality will resume.

Hush - how are you this evening?

Hello WTAFF.
I am glad that you are happy that it is Tuesday tomorrow. Back to normal after the Easter break.
I am rather lonely. Just something I have to learn to live with I guess.. Thank you for asking.
Xxx

hush. You will get through this.

Hush - sending hugs, you will survive and get stronger day by day xx

Thank you WTAFF and pickmeup. I just hope you are both right. What is the alternative? Xx

Whats the alternative?.Think we have all thought of that Hush.
So you start thinking of You.Start by being good to yourself.
The little lux things you always denied yourself.
Because You always put husband, family first.
Start to put You first.Take time for yourself.
Hair, facial,massage.Whatever.
Learn to be good to You.
This is your time now.
Dont always come on or join in Hush,but I am thinking of you.
This is a learning curve for us all.
Starting to appreciate ourselves.
Accepting we will have good days, bad days.
Getting stronger bit by bit.xx

Husha, Im sorry you're so lonely and life is treating you so hard.

I like the idea that you set yourself a goal for April because I have a feeling that you'll be really pleased you did , and it will spur you on to do something else. Then slowly slowly you'll see you're well on your way to piecing together a future. Because you see, thats not going to happen on its own and at some stage you're going to have to start making it happen - and setting a goal for April is one of the ways you can do it.

And Im glad your going away with friends but why are you waiting, or why do you have to wait, till your son finishes Uni? You do know it's ok to go away before your son finishes, and that it would be really good for him to see that his mum's ok? You wouldn't be deserting him, you'd be showing him look at me - Im feeling a bit better now. Its what our children need no matter how supportive they are or how big a role they play in our life if we're fortunate enough to have close family. And its not easy to do, I know because Ive got on planes and thought to myself - what the hell am I doing? But it was what we needed as a family because after so many years of nonsense and having to be helped along by the children, because its what families do in bad times, I had to show them - its all going to be ok, so much so that Im away on an adventure. Ive done so many things I haven't wanted to do but I knew that if I don't get up and do this, or try this, Im going to fossilise on the sofa sooner rather than later. It was what we all needed.

You have so much out there just waiting for you Husha, but you're going to have to make it happen - one little bit at a time.

Good morning Time,
Thank you for your message and support.
As you know it is really difficult to put yourself first after all the years of putting everyone else first.
My worry is what I have to do here.
The house needs stuff doing to it, as does the garden. The house needs to be valued but I need to get the bedrooms sorted etc. After our building work was done nothing was put back up. Like pictures, clocks, curtain tracks, mirrors etc as a certain person knew what was going to happen. So all these things are around the bedrooms and our snug.
Form E is supposed to be completed.
My dogs need a lot of grooming.
I am behind with everything.

I will make a hair appointment before I start to look like one of my dogs!
I am going to lunch with a friend this week.
Sorry for the negativity again.

Take care xx

Wise words from notonyur, yes Hush, don't wait for your break away, go as soon as you can. Are your sons in contact with HIM, can they not passed on the sad news?