Do men fall in love?

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Or at least in the same women do?

Just reflecting on life really now I am older.

They appear to be able to move on quicker?

HelenaDove - Women like sex too you know.....or are you one of those men that think they shouldn't

Absolutely not, I am 100% behind any woman who wants sex

To quote Sex and the City's Mr Big in response to pretty much this question: Abso-fucking-lutely!

I also watch Dave, by the way

I am not a troll btw just a question I thought needed asking?

It makes sense as sarcasm if you know that Lanark is male, which I didn't when I wrote the post.

Nope.

Makes sense if you assume that Lanark is someone who (rightly IMO) read the OP as being a fucking ridiculous question.

I had no idea of the gender of the poster. Just saw it as obvious sarcasm. Because obviously. Because asking if men fall in lvoe the same way women do is RIDICULOUS.

Trills why is it a stupid question?

I haven't read the full thread but yes, men fall in love! My husband tells me every day week that he is in love with me and the funny thing is I can see in his eyes and also how he IS, that he tells the truth.

That's sweet I was hoping for more posts like that!

Its a stupid question because you are on a predominately female forum asking females how males feel.

Ok

I think Lanark just spoilt it becuase he was projecting/assuming what others thought of him.

Men in my experience fall in lust very quickly then love follows.

I think those who enjoy relationships move on quickly along with needy people who can't be alone and those who don't need another person to feel happy along with those who don't want a repeat of the last relationship try to work on themselves stay single.

yes, i want, being a fuck buddy is one of the wifely requirements, but i have just learned another. Some males seek out a woman who agrees beforehand that he will be a SAHF--so the wife can work and do most of the other wifely duties , as we all know from mn and rl. WOW they don't want much ,do they? Hands up how many women will apply for that job? Guess it counts for zippo now that the woman's body grew the baby and she 'pushed her/him out of her body , which then has to recover, while she feeds the baby with the same body . Equality for some men seems to equal = he donated his sperm , so he has equal rights and he can be a SAHF while the woman who did all the work of making the child can go and earn a living for him. Such LOVE! And when the woman has had enuf of this wifely slavery , well she can pay maintenance to the SAHF. That's how the menz have turned the goals of feminism against women. Backlash? You bet . And they still feel hard done by!

I find that it's men who fall in love and then they try to trick women into doing it too

Filling...Misandry, really? I am no clever clogs, but even I know misandry doesn't exist and is just used by fuckwits. Come on, now

I was really asking if men fall in love the same way as women Sorry but I don't have sons and no close male relatives to go on

I think men do fall in love the say way women do. My husband loves me, I can see it in him when we're together.

I hope my hubby loves me because otherwise he is spending a lot of money on flowers .... maybe he just wants Tesco to have better profit forecasts

Yes men can fall in love. Yes men can feel a love so strong that they would literally die for that person without hesitation. Yes men can he hurt beyond measure.

I know from my own experience feelings I had and way my heart was broken in such a cruel way. The love that I felt so strong and made me feel so happy nearly destroyed me in the end. Wounds I don't think will ever truly heal.

LastGirlOnTheLeft - Filling...Misandry, really? I am no clever clogs, but even I know misandry doesn't exist and is just used by fuckwits. Come on, now

So misandry does not exist????

Can I respectfully suggest you change you name to LastGirlInLineWhenTheBrainsWereHandedOut As you correctly pointed out, you are no clever clogs

I think falling in lust is very easy but falling in love is hard.

Men and women can both obviously fall in love but men do seem to move on more quickly when things go wrong. I am like this and have been described as cold. When I finished with my last ex he cried and if anything it just hardened my resolve that it was the right thing to do.

He was a Doctor and had a great career trajectory wanted to marry and would wistfully talk about our future DC. It was just a bit too much for me, I found him soppy. I have dated a few men like this my women friends all seemed to pine for this kind of man but not get them I certainly didn't but they seemed to make a bee line for me.

I do wonder if I attracted them because I was so disinterested, thrill of the chase theory.

A week later I went on a date with another man, it happened to be the man I married. The first time he asked me to marry him I said no and forget that right now. Took him 3 proposals. He says though I'm incredibly awkward it makes me always interesting.

I believe they do. When I was a young student I worked part-time as a home carer and met several lovely old men who were heartbroken about their late wives. Very touching. I've got male friends who have suffered badly after a relationship breakdown.

I think the idea that men 'move on' quicker comes from completely different social norms for men and women after relationship breakdown, although that is changing. Women are still expected to grieve more; the idea we're the more 'emotional' sex still persists. Post children, men are simply 'freer' to go out and date again (92 per cent of single parents are female). Also, even in today's day and age, more men than women have a higher level of independence outside the relationship - hobbies, well-paid employment etc; all things that enable people to 'move on' more quickly.

It's a silly question because it presumes that we all recognise and agree on "the way women fall in love".

In order to consider whether men fall in love "the same way women do" we have to believe that:
a - there is a particular way in which women fall in love
b - we all agree on what that particular way is

Anyone who has spent 5 minutes on MN would be very naive to expect those circumstances to be in place.