Do men fall in love?

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Or at least in the same women do?

Just reflecting on life really now I am older.

They appear to be able to move on quicker?

Now I think about the men in my family I would say they all love in the 'female way'.

I suppose I am lucky to come from a family where divorce is quite rare though. Of those who have divorced - one was the wife who no longer loved (definitely not the husband), the other the husband was a bastard but tbh, I don't think the wife was upset because she felt she had lost a great love iyswim and then the only other one the dh had to walk away due to dw health issues but he definitely still loved her and has never formed another relationship

My husband absolutely without a doubt is head over heels in love with me.

His dad's also head over heels in love with his mum over fifty years later. He is completely devoted to the woman and it's so lovely how well he has looked after her through illness.

My brother in law (dhs brother) is in love with his wife more I'd say than she is him.

I actually know loads of men who without a shadow of a doubt are in love with their wife's.

My step mum died really quickly, took my dad over four years to start meeting new people so it's not always true about men with deceased partners moving on quickly.

Vince . I would admit to being a deep thinker and have observed many men and just on the whole don't believe in the ' o they are just repressing it, there's something so much deeper going on in their heads' theory, well not with most of them anyway.

I haven't read the whole thread but before I start I'd like to point out that the type of person you're referring to is available in both genders.

I feel like the generation I'm in (early 30s) has seen the huge surge in Internet use, social media and dating sites. Which means these types of people are in their element when it comes to finding someone else. I don't think it's a case of not loving, more that with the ease of access to even chat to someone else who's interested, it makes the breakup easier. Some people get very flattered by attention from the opposite sex and lust takes over their thoughts along with the excitement.
I've watched so many friends go through this social media/online dating and I'm quite glad I'm not single and haven't been for a long time!

30. Yes good point made.

Of course they do. My widower fiancé talks about his wife and you can hear the love in his voice, his eyes twinkle and he starts to smile.

Moving on quickly isn't a barometer of how much you loved, it's just how people cope. I move on fast because it's far more effective in improving my mood than moping and pining.

Another example. My mum was my dad's first girlfriend. They split after 35 yrs. 10 yrs later he hasn't been out with anyone else because he says he still is in love with my mum.

of course they do

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I'm new and I may be getting the wrong end of the stick, but can I just check: are we seriously asking whether possession of a penis makes a human less capable of as deep an emotional bond with another human as he might, were he to have a vagina instead? Really?

Speaking as the owner of what definitely looks like a willy, I can state with some certainty that some of us do experience that elating, gut-wrenching, amazing, terrifying, brilliant, awful feeling that you are so close to someone that you feel she's a physical part of you, and you think about her every moment you're apart, and even when she thinks she's not looking particularly good you find her almost heartbreakingly pretty, and you fall in love with her all over again every time you're together, and she has made such a profound impact on your life that it'll never be the same again. And some of us may not feel that way. Chaka Khan may be every woman, but I'm not every man. I really don't think we're all the same.

Right, what's the next subject? "Do Women Really Watch Dave?"

No. All the poetry, films, music, songs, literature, psychological studies etc relating to love were all written by women. The problem is that women don't always show that they would be happy for men to love them because of 'the rules' and also in case they seem like a creepy stalker, so women have to make do with men who just like them a lot and so therefore are risking less. Men who really love women are usually arrested, or get really bad colds from standing outside windows in the rain/ piniing away/starving in attic rooms, and drinking whisky to allow them to both forget and enjoy the frightening feelings pounding through their drink-freed bodies

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Yes of course men fall in love!

Chaka Khan may be every woman, but I'm not every man.

I find this strangely profound. But that may be because I've been up since 5 am and have only eaten a rather nasty cinnamon swirl all day. But we should definitely discuss whether women watch Dave. I definitely have a vagina and I don't.

The men I've had relationship with have always taken far longer to move on than I have. But then I've always gone for 'nice guys' rather than chasing arrogant, self involved tossers.

Men fall "in lust" quickly but fall in love much more slowly. I don't think men really get over relationships quicker they just miss sex and this causes them to start dating again quicker than some women would.

Yes of course we do

But everyone is different on how they deal with there emotions and what they show to the outside world and those they love

Doesn't mean we don't hurt inside and feel emotional pain in the same way women do, it's just gets displayed differently

Zombies- if you say so

just on the whole don't believe in the ' o they are just repressing it, there's something so much deeper going on in their heads' theory

That's not at all what I meant

ok sorry Vince

This is a genuine thread just thought it would be interesting to hear different opinions?

As I get older I think a few things are true.

Women tend to fall in love quicker or more often. For men I suppose there is a genetic pre-program to have variety and for us to settle down.

Men don't talk about their feelings as much, so they can fall out of love with you without you really realising.

Men tend to move on by seeing someone new very quickly.

I do think they love as much as as deeply though.

Brabit well that was honest

Yes they do have the same feelings and I as a female move on fairly quickly from relationships it's not just men who are like that

Oh don't be ridiculous, of course men fall in love. It's almost like they're human or something .

All the poetry, films, music, songs, literature, psychological studies etc relating to love were all written by women.

What a load of bollocks!

en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_in_adults
It's Wikipedia but it's not bad.