Do men fall in love?

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Or at least in the same women do?

Just reflecting on life really now I am older.

They appear to be able to move on quicker?

I always find it amazing that when a woman sees a men who they were in love with a few years later, they think oh, he' s depressed, unsuccessful tired of life and lonely, and instead of thinking 'wow, he really was in love with me, and able to only really love one woman' but instead think 'oh bollocks, men don't feel anything,' I thought he was going to be a brilliantly successful popular family man who loved children, his family, and friends, but actually he is rubbish, thank God I'm with a successful popular family man' and don't realise how important love is to men.

I am actually quite shocked by some of the views on this thread. It like some women have never talked to or met a man. Its like you are talking about an alien species.

Of course men fall in love. Why do you think so many men wrote love poems and love songs? In fact probably far more than women.

I think men and women do feel and express love in different ways though. Men moving on more quickly after the death of a spouse or divorce I think is because women are more self reliant. They don't 'need' companionship as much as men. I think it is true that men who have experienced a successful loving relationship want to experience that again.

Lanark2 what are you going on about - would u like to explain further? I hope love is important to men? I was hoping to be convinced otherwise by starting this thread?
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The trouble is that when men are low after a break-up, predatory women prey on them and drag them to their beds so that men can cry in their sleep next to them. This is often misinterpreted as 'moving on' but in fact this won't happen for years, when a text that takes all the lovelorn man's emotional strength to type gets rejected with a breezy 'I'm happy now, cheers' instantly deflating years of damaged self esteem, hope and longing..

Sorry but I think the question is shallow, as are many of the responses. You would almost think women don't have sons or brothers or fathers who experience falling in love! Men definitely fall in love and some of the best love poems and songs ever written have been done so by men. Is the war between the sexes so bad, that some women have forgotten men have feelings? Men do value different aspects of love higher than women do and vice versa, and react differently to loss. This results in misunderstanding, but they do love. Just from a different perspective.

Go home Lanark You're drunk

Nooo I just love her soooo much...sob...I ..just. I have fiver get me a gin and put 'walk on by' on...pleeeeesssse pleeessse

Of course men fall in love. Very much so. I think there is something about men not having other friendships and gentle love which make them jump quicker into relationships when women can often get this sort of support from friends and family. X

Well I think ElHirsuto hit the nail on the head, of course they can.

A total sweeping generalisation probably based on unfortunate experiences to suggest otherwise.

Am am being serious in amongst thehurt jokes...

For the record I am totally in love with someone just now, who is going out with someone else (who is a bit controlling lol) and younger than me... I see films and think of her, see kids and wonder how we would be with them, and just remember tiny things she said, or challenged me on or realise she noticed something deep about me I was hiding and just fnd myself smiling. So yes, men fall in love, even if it's not reciprocated..

Lanark2

I'm confused. Were you being serious when you said this:

No. All the poetry, films, music, songs, literature, psychological studies etc relating to love were all written by women

Cos you know that statement is nonsense right?

You are aware of Shakespeare, Burns, Donne etc?

As to the general question.

My Grandfather adored my Grandmother. My Dad worships the ground my mother walks on.

My DH and I have a more equal relationship but he has loved me for more than half our lives.

I look at my little boy and he has an astonishing capacity for love.

I suppose I was talking about 'actions speak louder than words' kind of love. As the word seems to be said a lot but actions often seem to be otherwise in many cases.

Some nice posts on here with examples of that though.

Lanark - "put 'walk on by' on...pleeeeesssse pleeessse "

"Roberta Flack singing "The First Time Ever I saw Your Face" does it for me.

Then again so does Supertramp's "Its Raining Again" but that my public school upbringing.

My then boyfriend fell in love with me in August 1968 at exactly the same time that I fell in love with him.We had a long, squidgy courtship and have just celebrated our 40th Wedding Anniversary.

How about 'your so vain' song

Love?, you mean that sort of deranged state of mind human beings suffer from;?.

All I know is that, after 14 years of marriage, I give my EX husband a month, tops, before he's moved a new woman into his house. Not because he needs someone new to take away the pain of our break up, not because he has unexpectedly just happened to meet his soul partner by chance, but .purely because he cannot bear to be on his own, having to do his own cooking, cleaning and laundry.
That is why men can move on so quickly.....because they can't be arsed to clean and cook so need another woman to do it for them.

IWantmymaidenhead Do not be fooled. The amount of old, lonely or sometimes not lonely men I have heard say 'She was a good woman she was, if I'd had the sense then that I have now...'. or 'I told her my ex got less and she was a better woman....' Etc etc. I have heard it too many times to be convinced that a man who breaks up or moves on quickly doesn't actually suffer greatly in silence.

sure some men at some point in their lives may fall in love, but mainly it's a self deluding female behaviour. The reason men seem to get over 'it' more quickly is because they want to replace the lost services . It is what we do for them that they miss rather than us ourselves. The automobile is an amazing invention, as is the airplane, etc but the most useful invention is the WIFE. Love the way you put it Iwant!

That is why men can move on so quickly.....because they can't be arsed to clean and cook so need another woman to do it for them.

And they cant do without someone to fuck either.

SoThatHappened hmm that's nearer the truth;!!

Lanark are you a bloke

I think he mentioned having a willy, so probably