what the hell do I say to that!!

[fireflys]

My husband says (during an argument) that we aren't really married because we didn't consummate our marriage by having sex!! Therefore if he divorces me the judge will do it straight away without even talking to me or considering my side of things because he will tell the judge we didn't have sex that night!! Apparently we are not legally married??

He's being ridiculous. I assume you've done it since?

Jesus; that means me as well...me and dh were so sloshed we didn't get round to it until two days later

And the moon is made of cheese.

Did you know gullible isn't in the dictionary?

Are you in the UK?

We haven't had sex since getting married because our baby was born the day after and I'm still sore now due to 80 stitches. Been married 2 months. I googled it for a giggle to shut him up but it actually says this bull crap on there?

Yes uk

I think a marriage is voidable if there was no sex, but not sure what happens if you had sex before as you clearly have.

Well non-consummation is a thing, though I've no clue what it means as far as legal marriage status nowadays.

But it's having sex at all after marriage, not the night of the wedding...

I think, technically speaking, as you haven't had sex since the wedding it could be annulled. But he's a twat for saying it.

Hmm surely it has to take into account situations like this. I mean it's not as if you didn't want or refuse to have sex with him.

I'm more curious as why he made such a comment tbh...,

How would it be proven though?

I'd tell him to go for it

www.gov.uk/how-to-annul-marriage/when-you-can-annul-a-marriage

Yep a marriage can be annulled if it hadsn't been consummated. I've no idea how to annulment process goes though.

He's turned into a bastard since we got married!! He can have his divorce.. What the hell was I thinking!! Having a pop at me because I couldn't have sex with him!! I weigh 8 stone and had a 10lb baby, I was ripped to shreds.. God I feel miserable!!

I'd go for it, he seems like a douche. Saves you divorce costs down the line.

To be honest I'd be more bothered about him saying that than how much chance there would be of an anullment...

Someone I know had their mattiage annulled for this reason. It's a lot more complicated than your husband appears to think.

Wow ....
Are you ok fire?

So he is throwing his toys out of the oram because he hasn't had sex fur two months? And this because you have had a really hard time giving birth, to give birth to HIS baby :(:(

Yep he does sound like he has eco a a real twat v

You can get an annulment however it's like a regular divorce and he'll need to give evidence to the judge under cross examination...

It won't be easy or free.

And I'm sure there's more to the law if you have consummated the relationship just not in the marriage period.

Let him apply for his annulment will save you a lot of abuse and heartache by the sounds of things.

Well he may be correct, which would be incredibly lucky for you.

Take your chance and say Yes please!

Awww bless your heart. What a twat!!

He's correct, ditch him.

I'd snap his hand off.
I believe you CAN get a marriage annulled on these grounds, so it wouldn't be divorce. You can just move on and forget it ever happened.

He sounds bloody awful.

Congratulations on your baby