what the hell do I say to that!!

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My husband says (during an argument) that we aren't really married because we didn't consummate our marriage by having sex!! Therefore if he divorces me the judge will do it straight away without even talking to me or considering my side of things because he will tell the judge we didn't have sex that night!! Apparently we are not legally married??

Start divorce proceedings now. The sooner you get that going the safer and more secure your children will be.

www.gov.uk/how-to-annul-marriage/when-you-can-annul-a-marriage

You cannot divorce until you have been married a year.

You can try for the annulment. I'd do it quick, as at the moment there is no way that he can claim you have had sex (though he may try). If he is being awkward and trying to claim you have had sex you could go for a legal separation until you can divorce. It may be expensive but can show that it was a short marriage and cut the risk of claims on you. www.gov.uk/legal-separation

With a short marriage you are unlikely to lose much.

btw I am not legally qualified and you should check about potential claims he could make.

Go for annulment - but find someone who knows what they are talking about ASAP. It gives you more choices. But if he thinks he could do it, why not you?

I'm in France, and my ex apparently annulled our marriage after 2 kids - but I think its a religious annulment, and as I have never received anything official about it I seriously doubt he really did it. I think he thought I would be hurt by it, but as we are divorced anyway I really couldn't give a flying fuck.

I think you qualify look at this page

www.gov.uk/how-to-annul-marriage/when-you-can-annul-a-marriage

Its only £410, so cheaper than a divorce too. I suspect he'll be entitled to jack shit as well. Sounds like a winner to me. The procedure looks pretty simple, the kind of thing you can sort out in an afternoon.

I would in your shoes, vile man. I'm betting he hasn't considered that if he can annul it, so can you!

He gave you a great idea there. Annul the marriage and let him chew on that. Keep your house safe from him. He sounds awful

what the hell do I say to that!!

Off you fuck then, cuntychops.

So sorry, OP. You're well rid. What a complete an utter twat.

what chicky said ^ with bells on!!

Hi you great lot,

Saw my solicitor today, I am going for annulment because stupid box as text me the following "what kind of wife are you anyway you haven't had sex with me for fucking months and you know it made me miserable, but you dont care, you never loved me did you" so solicitor has printed it for me and asked me to keep the text which I will. Proof in the pudding that we haven't had sex he also text later after I thanked him for agreeing to any lol due to the fact I am not in love and we haven't made love. He replied saying "well il tell the court we have and then it's my word against yours" lol stupid idiot!! all printed off and in my file, solicitor is preparing my case and sending it to a judge by Friday, should be completed within 3 weeks. I re done my will and am assured my property and savings are protected, he is not entitled to jack shit other than half of the money in our joint account. I have several accounts but the joint one he is entitled to half. Unlucky that the joint account is where I filter money to for bills, so seens as bill date was the 14th of this month we currently have left 18.60 so he may have 9.30 by all means lol!! What a bellend.. She took a copy of the bank balance on today's date as today I requested annulment and is sending that to judge too.. Also he has no idea and will be called to attend court where the judge will inform him and when he lies in court about us having had sex already, my evidence will be presented to him where he will receive a big snack in the face he will have swore an oath to tell the truth to which he will be caught red handed and will get himself in trouble.. Up to him to be an honest human being, not my responsibility anymore.. Thank you all very much xx

Gutted today cost me £645 though but that's nothing compared to the thought of being married to that foul man for the rest of my life!! We will have contact though as children but on my terms and I have expectations he has to meet which if needed my solicitor will support me with on the future. Been a hard day though but at least all my assets bar £9.30 are protected.. Xx

Sorry for some wrong text in here, typing in mobile.. I must look as though I'm a right dummy lol xx

My god, he must be thick as mince to put all that in writing to you. Should be an easy ride for you

Exactly.. Phew!! Also came out of solicitors and thought fick it I'm booking a holiday for me and my babies so I did slightly skint now though haha never mind I'm good til pay day, lucky I have my other accounts xx

Quick, send the £18.60 to the electricity company against your next bill.

This is one of the most satisfying threads I've ever read on MN. I'm sorry he turned out to be an asshole. But bloody well done woman

congratulations

Wow! Great stuff OP.

Well done. Stupid bastard man.

Great stuff op! Wouldnt it be great to get a photo of his face when he finds out he is awarded £9.40!

He can refuse to divorce you as much as he likes, but it really doesn't mean that you can't divorce him. You can. So do.

I am sorry he's turned out to be a cuntychops, rather than a knight in shining armour, but now you know, and can act accordingly, and you will know better than to expect much good of him which will be far more helpful and less upsetting in the long run than constantly being let down by him.

Take this opportunity and run with it. Mourne if you need to, don't lock emotions away, but remind yourself that things will be good for you in the future and you will have a far better and happier life without him being in it.

I fucking love this thread now. You sound so empowered OP I love it. Best of luck. Keep talking to us.

Well done OP.