waving hold strong. Don't contact Soho even though it's hard. By the time you get to 21 days, you won't want to half as much. I nearly whatsapped that ''why you're still single according to your myers briggs personality type'' article to H the other day. I just found it so funny. But I stopped myself luckily, he mightn't have interpreted it in the same spirit I was sending it. I was thinking, oh look can we both see ourselves in this and laugh with no hard feelings?, but he might have thought, "poor pie, so weak, texting me, pathetic, I hate weakness". Hard to know... maybe that's unfair on him.
I must do nmtz today waving. It is long! that's why I haven't the patience to run through circuits 1 and 2 twice. I do the rest though. Later. :-|
Working the room you say!? I find that hard. I'm not shy, but I would find working the room hard. I must get on with ordering that book and davina's fit in five. Off to amazon now !
Taking the ''perceived challenge'' aspect of what MH advises very seriously, borntofolk I'm going to do it differently this time! I'm like you, and have so often thought, well if the other three feel right then why play silly games, but I think we have to, a bit, or at least, exude an air of ''i have not decided yet''. So, I have stopped emailing mr canceller. I was enjoying our messages a lot, but I think it made it seem too much like I'd made up my mind about him. That it ''was a yes from me" and, it would have added to the pressure on the date. . Which is not for a whole fortnight! "We tried to bring it forward but weren't both free on a Saturday until then. I also worried that if we continued emailing because we were meeting in two weeks it'd be a bit like walking down the street and seeing somebody you know coming towards you. Do you look them in the eye smiling the whole time until they pass you!? or do you just wait until they're ten feet away, and then smile and nod! And then of course, if the second date doesn't go well, it'd feel rude to stop emailingl! I must be absorbing MH because I sent the email before I read your post. I must look for the whole episode on youtube. I told him I hadn't fallen in to this pattern before (ie, out dating) and that I'd like to meet up in real life and see how the date goes (ie, this is not a done deal). I hope I'm not fucking this up........ it'd be the first time :-p
also born the MH speech to give to an IDWAR can be adapted accordingly for men you've only met once. Don't do anything on his terms.
Mind you, I had a dream I turned up for a date and the date had moobs. Is that a warning. I am not attracted to men with breasts.
Handy good luck later! what ya wearing? Are you going to go with your hair like Cameron Diaz's in there's something about Mary?
all the brave souls on tinder and bumble I'm saving that, that's my last reserve card!
threefrazzledfandangos and The Detective It is so hard to break away from such a long habitual relationship, because you're made to feel that you're being cruel and cold and heartless not to keep giving endless chances, more and more chances... But they only want you cos suddenly they realise other men might consider you. BRIEFLY, they are viewing you how a stranger would view you but the moment you gave the second/third/fifth chance they go back to the familiarity that bred the contempt. Sorry for projecting there, I don't know what your relationship was like, but I'd advise staying free if you've got free!
tanya your new iron sounds promising, has a date been arranged?
gast I know, the suggestion to be friends is so patronising I always think. H suggested to me that we be friends, that I could contact him as a friend. I'll pass on that. I have friends. If (unlikely) I ever get a text from him, I'm going to do a denton and say ''who's this?''
ocelot and jolly yes, I only have one iron on the go and our date, though arranged, is not for ages. I need to 'fan' a few conversations forward towards a date. But some of the men who messaged me recently, I felt like asking, did you get a woman to write your profile? because your profile is good and then you send short answers with no questions.
ladylou enjoy the wedding! I'd far rather meet somebody in real life! I think months of OLD does make you a bit cheekier with the eye contact, so good luck! And, I think the only poster we've totally lost is Red, and she met her mr foaf in rl!
scarftown that's funny! calling himself a dick!!! you didn't disagree i take it.
steadyhand I think that that message three weeks later could be because he thinks, ''she's figured it out now''. So HE from his position of holding the cards thinks that it's ''safe'' to message you now because you KNOW he doesn't want a relationship. Such a crappy way of communicating it though and it should be communicated before the sex. He doesn't deserve a reply.