Step right up, it's dating thread 97

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We don't half get through these at speed!

The Rules:

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize-they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches (aka WMLB), and take from it what you will. 12. Don't serve up moose burgers on the first date (although this is still in debate right now)

tanyadm yes I live in Edinburgh.

Oh, me too!

Whatsapp is the worst. Nothing makes you act more like a psycho than knowing they're online and not responding to your messages.

I'm ill today. Sick as a dog. Hoping to be well enough for date tomorrow.

Good luck to all those off out tonight.

There's a part of me that's sad that Teach hasn't been back in touch, it's been over a month since he said he wanted to just be friends (& then never contacted me again) but it's for the best.

Yet another of my irons has gone quiet claiming illness, what do I do to these people? I've decided I'm not going to contact him, he's got a week to be ill and then I'm done if he's not been in contact.

Oh we should share and compare Tanya ;) well my guy text me earlier today to say his kid had to go to hospital but he'd be in touch when he knew what was happening. I do believe the world is doing its best against me ever getting a shag again!!!

Anyway I'm off to a fabulous wedding reception tonight, you never know???!!!

I'm not going to contact him, I'm mostly okay about it so why reopen that?
My kids have driven me nuts all day, I'm about to hit the wine.

Another Saturday night home alone :( what a waste! but I can't get any enthusiasm for the men viewing me on POF & my one "iron" Happy just an occasional penpal it seems... I miss MrMusic too much it stops me from getting interested in other men...but another man is the only thing that could help... I am also reaching for the wine...

I'm joining the "frustrated by naughty kids / hitting the wine" bunch. No real motivation for man-looking either. Too knackered.

I told XP (who left me 2 years ago and then came and went until last April) that I'm going on a date. He has DS tomorrow and kept asking what I was doing.

The shit has truly hit the fan. Despite leaving me 5 times, and telling me he didn't love me and that he just sees me as a mother now, he's told me he's still madly in love with me, thought we'd get back together soon and have a couple more kids. Fun night. I'm trying not to think about any of it or my head will explode.

Oh my goodness, TFF, what a nightmare.

Is EXP with you Fandango? Has he said he won't have DS if you are going on a date?
hope you are okay...

He's gone. No he wouldn't do that.

He was heartbroken. But I've had 2 years of being heartbroken and am just now getting back on my feet

How have you left it with him?

Told him it was too late. That I don't love him any more. Too much has happened.

And new date hasn't even text to arrange drink tomorrow. I'm taking some painkillers and going to bed.

Can deal with life tomorrow.

Thanks Waving.

I'm fairly certain it's one of those situations where if I said okay, let's get back together, he'd completely back track

We were together 11 years though and have a 3yo. So it's not exactly pain-free.

Fandango, he's headfucking you.

Twatface has spent since last August begging me to take him back, over and over and over.

He just met some girl, and dumped her after a month. Apparently he got it all wrong. He didn't love me. He didn't want me back. He just thought he did. 'I used to love you, but I dont now'. Funny how on the 13th January he was still trying to get me to forgive him.

Then when it suits him, he's decided that no, he just thought that was what he wanted.

I'm so glad I stayed strong, in the face of everything, if I'd have crumbled and taken him back (because that would have been easier in the short term) then he would have made a fool of me yet again.

Don't let him fuck with your mind. He's frightened you are moving on. He doesn't want you until you tell him you have a date. He's being a dick. A total dick.

I joined tinder 2 days ago.

How the hell does this thing even work? I have NO clue what I'm doing. I feel so old!! (I'm 31 FFS!).

Can I join the pity party tonight? It is cold out and decided to come home early (8 am yoga class tomorrow and did not feel like crashing a birthday party of a right douche I barely know - look at me getting all grown up..).

Detective it does work but you need to get yourself a system or you will run out of likes. I swipe left on anyone shirtless, displaying a dead or sedated animal, having just one photo, emoji overkill or using any kind of YOLO related quote. Lots of matches but not that many interesting convos so far.

All my irons are a bit quiet at the moment, including TinyGrey. I had a good banter going on with two guys from Tinder yesterday, we will see if they try anything in the coming days or were just bored. I am also testing the waters with a guy I have a 99% match with on Okcupid. He seems perfect on paper. And hot. I expect them to be a bit more proactive in the beginning of next week, if at all.

Hi all, it's true what you say about them coming back!! A guy I've been chatting to on Tinder who disappeared 3 weeks ago just whatsapped me a hi! What is wrong with these guys, there are def a different species to us! I know it was him but I replied with a "who's that" lol

Well MrCS has stepped up his game a little, he's initiating contact more than he used to. Still see him on POF but I can't really complain seeing as I'm on there!

Denton I love that you replied 'who's that' - you are brilliant

Just got back from night in London (with work folk) working again tomo (boy I'll be tired) went to a busy restaurant. There was a big work party (different organisation) full of twenty-something men. Felt v old. But had fun with colleagues.

Cockapoo date tomorrow (ok technically today). Am not going to be on top form but am very much looking forward to it. He text me tonight telling me to stay out late and be naughty. He is sweet.