Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

Yeah, I know, I was just teasing!

For me, men have to be either tall, or broad, or ideally both. I'd much, much rather a man be a bit podgy than skinny. Probably because I am an tallish and not exactly skinny myself.
ExP (DS's dad) is only 5'9" but built like the side of a barn. Very boad shoulders.
Mr2015 is 6'2"...swoon. I had to stand on tiptoes to kiss him..major turn on.
Birdman is 6' and slim. He does have the prettiest blue eyes though.

Yes, it's a thing isn't it?! I mean, I looked at OnlyIron's profile and laughed at some of the comments he'd made, thought he looked attractive and then I moved on, thinking, oh, pity's he's so tall. I had thought, that won't work/happen/ or he wouldn't reply. Then a while later, I got a lovely message from him.

Before that, I'd gone through the pickings, lowered the height criteria, messaged some smaller (but healthy, active, attractive looking men) and I hardly get a reply. It's an eye opener. All of these years I thought I had a better chance with the men who are hardwired to reject me because of Darwinism.

I'm 5,4 and haven't met a guy shorter than me and I can imagine feeling weird about it if I did but how likely is that?

Dated 6,4 guy before and I felt tiny and wasn't a factor in my level of attraction for him, his feet were off the end of my bed.

I'm into broad shoulder strong legs kinda guys with long hair

I have a tendency to go for taller men at the moment as well. One reason being that exh was 5'8 and I am 5'7 and he always had a face on if I wore heels as it made me taller than him. Well since we split I invested in some gorgeous skyscraper heels and want to wear them! One guy I met (remember the sex midget? ) was about 5'3 and I just felt so uncomfortable as I towered over him in my shoes so the taller the better for me

Help, I have a major dilemma, been chatting again to the divinely handsome London and he's asked me to cancel my date on Saturday night and see him instead. Pros are:
He's hot!
We talk/message every day and seem to get on. I'm meant to be going out with Sparks who hardly ever messages me and I don't really feel any sort of connection with him; I think I agreed to meet him because it was better than nothing and I thought I'd see what happened.
I get to see him sooner. He asked me outright if I was on a date on Saturday night and I couldn't lie. I don't think he's too keen to see me the day after a potentially hot date so might postpone for a week, which would be Valentine's Day (I can't do the Saturday) and I really don't want a Valentine's Day first date.
Sparks outright asked me if I was up for a bit of fun so I know he's not after a relationship and I'm not sure I can really be bothered for someone who doesn't make me go phwoar!

Cons are:
London is coming from, well, London so if he comes for the evening he'll need somewhere to stay. That kind of means sex will be inevitable and whilst he says he doesn't just want a one night stand, I fell for that with Teach (who doesn't even merit bold type anymore!)
It seems rude to cancel a date because a better offer came up, I already had to postpone Sparks once because my ex was being a cunt about childcare.

But given a choice I'd much rather see London, haven't made any firm plans with Sparks yet but said I was free.

What should I do, wise women?

That is a proper dilemma. On one hand it seems like a no brainer to see the one you actually want to see. On the other, being at the beck and call and changing your plans for an iron....

Mmh tough one Gast.. I think cancelling on Spark to please London may be seen by him as jumping though the first hoop he presents and that would not be setting a healthy vibe around that first date. But I understand the appeal.. Can't you insist on seeing him another day? Even if you end up cancelling Spark? I think he may be keener to be on his best behavior if he knows you saw another prospect before him, which gives you the upper hand..

Just starting out. What best site for East Anglia and what are the rules?? Xx

Hi Cleo ! Welcome. Rules are up thread, in Gast's OP. Re East Anglia, I have no idea.

Popcorn situation empty update: still no news since I sent the text yesterday evening. I should really take the hint, shouldn't I? I am going over every single possibility of what might have happened and even thought he might have lost his phone since he has not been on whatsapp since yesterday lunchtime. But he is online on OKC. SLAP ME PLEASE.

What if I told London that Sparks had cancelled on me?

You don't owe sparks or any of them anything but I wouldn't be so eagerly cancelling for London either.

Sounds like you will get more of what you want from London so go for it, is there no way you can meet in the middle and plan to stay separately if you don't want to fall for the one nighters situ.

Go with I haven't heard from sparks scenario and cancel.

See sparks gast.

Jolly, maybe Popcorn lost his phone while it was still logged into OKC.....or maybe not.....

Gast it would be better to see Spark I think, if only to take the pressure off seeing London. You could definitely tell London Spark cancelled on you or maybe even say he asked to move your date to Friday or Sat lunch so turns out you are free? I suck at lying

Tanya I wish but this story doesn't seem very convincing though.

314, please hand over your rejected guitarist, I could do with a distraction.

I was really hoping everyone would tell me to ignore the rules and go for London. I can't summon up any enthusiasm for Sparks at all now & that's not fair on him I can't see anyone during the day on Saturday as it's my son's birthday party. That's why I really want to go out on Saturday night, if I have to spend the afternoon in my shitbag ex's company I want something to look forward to!

No, not really Jolly but it sucks to accept rejection. Outlandish tales are more palatable!

Sorry Gast....what wise advice would you give us if tables were turned.....

True, but I think we all know what I'm going to do don't we

Yep, cancel Sparks, have actual sparks with London!

Follow the rules gast
Also, lol at sex is inevitable your honour! Bless me Father for I have sinned and it was...... inevitable

Joking aside I wouldn't give a thought to where a man I'd met once was going to sleep later that night. A hostel? Ymca? let him figure that out.