Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

The rules have helped me though 😊

Just realised that that's liz. I look nothing like her! if only. I just googled images.

Red thanks, yes, I am reminding myself of a couple of things, it didn't work out with Miss 32 because she wanted children, and he doesn't want more. So clearly he's well aware of the pitfalls of an age gap relationship. Also, he messaged me not the other way around so he's aware I'm close(r) to him in age. Also, he tells me he finds me attractive and he kisses well. So, clear the head of thoughts. Actually, he's the opposite of B. He doesn't over think things. He just thinks ''what do I want? can I get it, sort it out, do it''.

I need somebody who is a cross between OnlyIron and Bear. Can I bring them both to B&Q and say ''mix these two up". And also, a third man, who is certain he actually WANTS a relationship to counter Bear. Mix a bit of that in there too.

Cross post Handy I laughed at your post. En Vino Veritas. Maybe I haven't looked hard enough to earn the right to complain. No, wait, that doesn't sound right! I can complain! Have another.

Am I allowed to ask again cos I already ask and both said there was no one else in the picture and that we were both looking for a relationship. Just got an invite for a date which def will not end in bed due to circumstances, but 2 weeks after first sex. Confused and obsessing...

Sorry, MrsGraham, I'm confused....the same guy has asked for another date, but not for 2 weeks? If so, how regularly were you seeing each other before the sex? And has he given any reason for why it'll be so long?
It's good that he's still texting, but I can see why you are worried.

Jolly any news from Popcorn? Did you come up with something wittier than "hey, how are you?"

Have now had too much wine and nothing useful to add except thanks gast for starting the new thread I am so dating the thread - the thread is my Iron!

Right - bed......

Folk still no news from Popcorn.. And he is online on OKC so I know he is not that busy.. I did come up with something which I thought funny.. Oh here is a thought: maybe the fucker has deleted my number and does not know it is me since I did not sign??!!

MrsGraham I apparently suck at following my own advice but it looks like this guy is best left alone. He knows where you are if he ever wants to meet up. Ditch if you can.

Ha ha handy You know where you are with the thread! No mixed signals. I'm dating the thread too.

I've been lurking for ages and I feel like I know you all which is why I wanted to post.... everyone seems a lot wiser than me :)
I dont feel as though any terms of mine have been broken as such. Just that there's a 2 week gap when previous to sex there were 2 weekly chaste ish dates that he instigated and paid for. I've offered to pay and have had no chance to ask him out /pay as he's always got in first.
Then we slept together and an arranged date was cancelled last weekend due to his hangover ('raincheck' offered but no reschedule) then this sort of coincidental date on Sat... which may involve a wedding evening party (his friend). Im 10 years older than him which he said he doesnt care about

OMG. I just had to come on here and tell you all that London just sent me a non-cock photo, and he is absolutely gorgeous. I wish I could post the photo on here just to show it off. It's a totally OTT posed shot but damn it looks good.

Going for a cold shower now!

Hi wavingnotdrowning

Il call him Mr Fabby as it's close to his name but in real life I use his middle name.

We spoke on whatsapp frim October-Dec before we actually met, I don't think there was any expectations and we talked daily with ease.
Since then have maybe 4-5 casual dates and meet ups and amazing sex.
He does live about an hours drive from me so distance and work/life is a big factor.

We don't qualify for ltr for various life reasons but it and he is amazing and I'm sure he enjoys me too

So is why I don't think I qualify for dating thread but I do enjoy it so and helps me keep level headed.

I'm amazed at how some of you manage to find so many men that you are attracted to. I'm registered on POF (no photo because I am still waiting for the decree absolute) but have so far only managed to find three men within a 50 mile radius that I could potentially be attracted to.

The first one I contacted said he was offline for the time being and didn't seem to want to talk. The second one was happy to chat but came across as a bit unbalanced or unhinged so I stopped messaging him and the third one hasn't been online for a month so I decided not to contact him.

So it's not looking good for me but I'm still looking.

Waving, you may like Soho being in another country at the moment but you'll probably feel differently when you see him. When are you seeing him?

Wait til u can put up a photo.
u will get more messages then i think.
i had a dream last night that OnlyIron posted a thread on mumsnet about me (and some other women he was involved with)

I want ti tell onlyiron that i dont like valentines day. I want somebody to be communicative and affectionate every day.

Laugh it's possibly because you've got no photo. I must admit I tend to ignore any profile without a picture. I'm not divorced officially yet but I've got a picture up.

It's London's eyes which are really striking so cutting his head off wouldn't really help!

I'm not sure it's worth posting a photo as there are only three men I'm potentially attracted to. I suppose new people join all the time so that could always change but I certainly wont be holding my breath.

Gast, you're not short of men you're attracted to are you? All I can say is good for you!

Who, why don't you tell him you don't like Valentine's day? I don't like it either so I think I would have say something. Valentine's Day makes me cringe.

I have low standards! No, that sounds bad, as long as the picture isn't a no-no (by that I mean someone I can't imagine ever being attracted to) and I like what they've said on their profile, I'll usually chat and see where it goes. Sometimes attraction isn't instant.

I've also had a hell of a lot of non-responders to messages I've sent. It really is all about numbers I think.

ive got two one who is modeling himself off sex in the city and the other with tattoos a lot of tattoos he loves showing me pictures of his tattoos he hasn't actually sent me a penis shot (which makes a change) but ive seen lots of his squishy (non tattooed bottom ) ive seen so many penis shots its unreal even mr big himself sent me one unfortunately it auto saved itself to my phone!

so what are the rules about meeting up? big wants to meet up now and even tattoo guy is making hints about it ive only been talking to them for a few days?

Waving, I think I want sexy and funny rather than good looking. If I could filter those men out I would. At the moment I'm looking at men around my age group (50 ish) but I'm beginning to think I should start looking at younger men.

I've only just applied for the decree absolute so expect the divorce to be final within the next few weeks.

I have low standards!

Gast, please don't take this the wrong way but some of your posts make me laugh. As long as you're enjoying yourself which you seem to be most of the time, who cares? I mean that in the nicest possible way. No point in sitting at home and moping is there? You go girl!

I should have said I prefer sexy and funny to good looking but ideally I'd have all three!

Morning!
I agree with gast. Of course, the first thing you see is someone's profile pic and if something grabs me in that (not necessary that they are stunning, but nice eyes, or smile or just something I find appealing) then I'll check their profile and that's what usually does it...or not. It is a numbers game, which is why I ended up on so many bloody sites!

laugh It's probably worth contacting someone even if they haven't been on line for a while. People dip in and out, especially on free sites like PoF. Worth a try! Also, I found on PoF that it was really hard to search for people and had more people messaging me than I messaged, if that makes sense? So, get a pic up and see what happens.

Add me to the list of non-iron having thread daters! Although I haven't given up on Birdman yet. I didn't hear from him yesterday but that's not unusual. I know if I messaged him he would respond but am going to try to hold back and let him come to me, for my own sanity.

And in MrEloquent news...he's never had a profile pic on WhatsApp but has just added one. And he seems to be much more active on there which suggests to me that he's chatting to more people. Which makes me think that he's getting lots of Tinder action. And I know that this level of interest on my behalf is far from healthy...so I think I am going to have to try messaging him one last time and then try to move on. Just still not sure when/how to do it.