Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

Bear told me something when we were skyping the other night. It was only later that I thought, wow, that really does prove he is commitment phobic. I'll pm you handy.

I can't think of a more emotionally communicative man to be honest

I know. I know. Cufflinks totally the same. He has just been amply demonstrating it by text. He has really really made me laugh, including about tonight's disastrous date.

He has suggested meeting on Friday. After the last fairly grim few weeks, I'm seriously thinking 'fuck it' and doing it.

Oh lordy.

Go for it handy!!its my motto
Re my Fwb offer he's changed his mind incase we get emotionally involved...
Lol I have to laugh... I cant even give it away!!

But, it's not that cufflinks won't have a relationship, it's that he wants to be able to have several?!

He wants to be free to flirt and have sex with whoever he wants. That's the bottom line.

He's been totally upfront about it, I'll give him that.

Yeh. They're so honest.
Hmmm.

Oh I've had a great one tonight he says he's an actor in the porn industry he's 6 ft 3 blonde ,great body, blue eyes yada yada no pic. Do I want to ask him any questions about his job he's really open and happy to talk about it. When I said no it's fine tell me about you and what you like to do outside your job he vanished obviously a guy of 5 ft 2 living with his mother trying to get his rocks off sorry pal ain't happening.

Have got an iron tho mr driver he's Irish got that dark hair blue eye thing going on and makes me die laughing meeting him week on Saturday no childcare til then.

Oh no waving :-/
Did he have you back to his house, you had sex, and then he wanted you to leave?? Bit shabby. Not surprised you got dressed in a huff.

Hope it is all smoothed over soon. Sounds like he panicked under the implied significance (??) Of you staying over. He has no problem leaning on you when he needs you though.

chatty eeeeeooooow @ mrporn. Yuck. Call me old fashioned I guess!!

I hope it looks better this morning Waving
He and 314 Bear do remind me somewhat of MrMusic... :(

Oh Waving I agree with 314, he's got all scared because, obviously, staying over after a night out = a big white wedding and blending both your families . Idiot.

Meeting MrM tonight, will try and do a loo update.

chatty a porn actor - but no picture? Why the hell not, it's not like he can be shy ...!

Oh no waving :( been following you and Soho too. Hope it does seem better this morning and he messages you back to say sorry.

My date was fine, he was a very lovely guy but I can't see it going passed just a bit of fun (if he wants). Don't seem to even be able to get that!! I've only had 4 hours sleep and more than I should have for a Tuesday night!!

Really wish MrHr would get back but he's gone quiet, not even been on whattsapp since he last messaged me. Wonder if I should just say hello today??

What strange behaviour from Soho, I'd be mightily pissed off by that I think.

Would that be the first time spending the whole night? I thought you'd done that but might be wrong.

Ladylou glad your date was enjoyable, sounds better than mine. Will you try and engineer a bit of 'fun'?

Can't believe I spent the evening messaging Cufflinks. Am now back to square one there...

It's like they know it's slim pickings out there Handywoman!! They leave you to look for needles in the haystack for a month and then come back to see how firm your resolve is after a month of emotionally illiterate men / smelly IT bods/ sleazes/ weirdos/ bores/ men obsessed with their x/mother.. then they appear like a mirage in the oasis!

Bloody hell 314 - that's the nail on the head right there.

It's not exactly a boost to one's self esteem, is like they are saying 'haha you think you can get someone decent - hahahahaha'

Waving sounds like the alcohol was a big factor.

waving
When things are smoothed over id risk showingva bit of reasonable exasperation that he has no problem leaning on you. I think it's a bit shabby to lean on somebody, chat from another continent, have a great night out, but expect them to pick their clothes up off the floor and go home in the middle of the night!
I did that to fake buddist but he lived ten minutesvwalk away and i didnt want my kids to see him. I wouldnt have suggsted he go home in the middle of the night if it'd been just us in the house!

Ill pm u from work waving. It is just v identifying.

Sounds like too much alcohol! I dont want an audience if i am unwell either!

When things are smoothed over id risk showingva bit of reasonable exasperation that he has no problem leaning on you.

I think that this is a good idea, if only to find out if he acknowledges it.

I've just sent MrF off to work about 30 minutes late. He's got me eating out of the palm of his hand. He's like a RedMapleLeaf Whisperer. I am completely besotted.

Waving...i would of hated that end to the evening,hope you get some answers today
Red...im so delighted for you.

Oh I can imagine waving...
What's he playing at?strange behaviour??

Hmm. What do others think about the other thread (the one waving just linked to)?

I tend towards RobinsonsSquash's perspective.