Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

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We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

Good luck on your date Ladylou,cant wait for updates
Welcome Beth,sorry about the dumping,I was dumped in November
Hang on in there,things can change overnight good luck with your upcoming dates
A guy I've been messaging since December has offered me a fwb situation,and I'm tempted,as long as we are clear at the start it can work,and he has said it would only be till I found my Mr right.
One other iron,who seems very keen,but his spelling is awful,and a smoker!!
Dont think I can put up with either

Thank you DeeDee, I feel really bad about it but I would find it hard to date someone with poor spelling and grammar. One of my dates was a smoker, said in his profile 'occasionally' but it's several times per day and it did put me off...

314 re h and the holiday vid the fact he has a YouTube channel is in itself amusing (no offence to anyone, I just associate that with 12 year olds)

Welcome to BethNoir

Ladylou have a good date. I'm decidedly unexcited about mine (poor poor guy).

You may be pleasantly surprised handy😉

I suggestd 7pm wednesday to delboy and he's come back with 6pm sat.
bit of a weird time. I dont know whether to get a babysitter or not.

Go for it 314!

Right. It is arranged. Ill get a babysitter. I think it will be ok so long as he's not scary-looking. He looks a bit angular looking. Like somebody designed his face with a t-bar. And he is not only bald but the top half of his head seems massive. Still though, easy to talk with. We shared an aporopriate amount of our life stories and get each other's humour... so. It will be goid for me.

Mr canceller still emailing with not so much as a vague suggestion to ever MEET up again

Loving...designed his face with a t bar😁
Mr builder was bald,but he was hot!
You wont know till you meet.
Strange the ones that are happy to email and never meet😐

Yeah there are many e- penpals out there. Personally I have two of them. One has been messaging since Dec!

T-Bar!! Haha!!! There still may be something lovely about him face-to-face though.....

DeeDee47, i met mrcanceller last august!!!! Ive not seen him since then. He cancelled the second date that id really been looking forward to because of work. I was underwhelmed by that. He emailed me six moths later to tell me he only has one job now ..... at first i thought he'd suggest meeting. Now, i am not so sure. Im being a bitch tonight, mocking H for having carried a few extra pounds, DelBald for having an angular face. Good job im perfect :-p

Strange behavour 314
You'd think he would of stopped contact if he dident like you?
We can all have a bitch at times
Oh dear mr speller/smoker wants a date
But has his kids every other weekend and lives with a nan with dementia
I'm not being a bitch,but again I ask why are they on here??seems a warm guy and messaging lots😐

I think he likes me, and from the position of being comfortable in bed with his laptop on the duvet cover, he is happy to send humorous and clever emails. Oh we're both so witty, it's a real volley. It's Advantage Mr Canceller though. But maybe I'm better at real life, because he said earlier today that he thinks it's too cold to go out, he's only dying to get back in to his big bed at the end of the long day at work (it was cold at work) and relax with the radio, tea, biscuits and 'other accessories'. He doesn't sound like a man who's absolutely to dying to get out, on his own or out with a woman. Very comfortable in bed with the lap top on his knee. Which is where I am now, so maybe we'd be a match made in heaven :-p

Well deedee if he only has his children every second weekend I guess he has more freedom than I have. I presume he could leave his grandma on her own. Is it is Mother or his Grandmother!? What age is he? He must be young to have a grandmother still alive.

yes handy sounds like it's inevitable that we end up with a pen pal in the mix!

This is what I have to show for 7 months of OLD

One ENTJ alpha male who played the part of a boyfriend

One very scruffy vegan who said ''i don't want a relationship but we're both adults and we should enjoy the physical intimacy that would go with our emotional intimacy'' and who as unavailable as he was, has now moved 200 miles away. But he did send me a viber sticker of a rose :-p ''i'm so blessed''.
and ...one pen pal who doesn't want to get out of bed til the clocks go forward.

The rest is too insignificant to mention.

Top me up Alicia

Top me up Alicia should become our thread motto! I've not seen any Good Wife though, will add it to the list, when I get through all 9 series of X Files.

Oh dear 314, he definitely sounds like nothing more than a penpal.

I messaged a guy last year who was a widower. We were getting along well enough but he never suggested a date, so I bit the bullet and suggested meeting up but the earliest he could offer was 2 months away! I understand that it must be tricky being completely on your own with kids and that babysitters are not always easy to organise but come on, if you can't get out of the house, how do you think you are going to date? I called it off after a few weeks (!) of messaging.

6pm Sat is a weird time, too late for coffee, too early for drinks. Worth meeting him though, if you are getting on. And some people just don't photograph well.

I replied to MrEloquent with something upbeat and chatty. Quite pleased with it actually! No reply yet but that's fine. I wish I'd turned off WhatsApp read receipts/last seen months ago. It gets rid of so much stress.

That's it for me. Nothing from Mears, no new matches but I've been messaging friends all day long and not really looking. I'm quite enjoying a little lull actually. I was thinking that if, by some miracle, MrEloquent suggested meeting up, I'm not sure when I'd actually be free as my next few DS-free nights are all booked up with friends.

Oh, and I asked for a refund from Zoosk and they told me to get stuffed! It is the worst site though. Keeps recommending me men that are too old, too short or too far away. Or all three.

Hmmm
He's 41 and she is his grandma😨
Oh we are doing well,
🍷 please!!

I avoid widowers. No way. They always make it clear that there are BIG shoes to be filled. Bah! no way to that! I'd like somebody who thinks, hey, what we've got works much better, we're way more compatible than my last partner/wife. ykwim? who wants to be living up to Rebecca :-p

ps, got another funny email from mrcanceller, in it he says ''meeting up would be nice''. I replied, and merely as an aside, jokily asked him if he was ready for that. ''take your time'' I advised.

Oh god. MrIT. Oh God. That was awful. Beyond awful. He smelled awful - terrible aftershave in copious amounts. Was visibly disappointed when I didn't recognize a quote from Four Weddings and a Funeral (?). Then we started sort of chatting tentatively, all ok (although I knew I didn't really like him). He told me that he uses his middle name as his name 'because grew up in London and that's what you do' (first I've heard of it mate) it later transpired his parents moved out of London when he was 18months old!!!!!!!!!!! Then he started some teenage magazine questionnaire 'ok so what's your favourite food' 'whats your favourite holiday' and frankly it was all down hill from there. I wanted to slap him. I bailed, made my excuses and left after less than an hour. Got home all and

then, whaddaya know, Cufflinks has texted. And now I'm SSSSOOOOOOOOO HAPPY

Oops.

Oh boy, sounds like torture. Well done for getting through it. My Dad is always known by his middle name but I thought that was a Scottish thing. I wouldn't remember any quotes from Four Weddings and a Funeral!

How long did you spend with him? Obviously you can't leave the second your run your eyes over him and breath in, so, how many tortuous minutes beyond your initial impression did you force yourself to endure? The teenage interrogation sounds awful. Like a French Oral exam. I hope my date with DelBald is not like that. Oh boy.

Glad that cufflinks texted!! Have you been out with him before, but ages ago? SOrry that I can't remember. He seems like one of the old names! Practically part of the furniture on this thread.

oh less than an hour. Ok, sorry, skim reading. What excuse did you give?

will I use it myself on Saturday

I spent about 50-55 mins with him. Took about 2mins to decide it was a non starter. It was painful. I declined a second drink and made up some problem in my job that needed sorting early in the morning. It was flimsy and blatantly fabricated but I didn't care.

Yeah so Cufflinks. He of the charming, lovely Scottish non-monogamous man who I declined to take things further with. It bloody annoying becuase he is very easy to get on with. It is he who is 'perfectly capable of a relationship' blah blah blah remember? He is my Bear.... it's so bad that he's been in touch, we are currently amidst a flurry of texts. But it's really cheered me up.

Oh dear. There's no hope

Oh no handy as my friend says that's another hour of your life you've wasted
But onwards and upwards with cufflinks

314 😁 at mr cancellor taking his time

Hi all, haven't been on for a few days, but thanks to whoever mentioned Bumble, had never heard of it before, so checked it out and added my profile. Started chatting to a young guy, will call Mr Prop.......as he works as a prop man on a big TV show, apparently! Thing is he's 20 years younger than me lol! The other flaky guy I mentioned before, pages back, comes and goes, and at the moment has gone! Sent me a message saying have a great weekend away, with 5 kisses, and I messaged on Sunday eve asking how his weekend was and no response! Can't be doing with time wasters....lol...

Sounds like a lucky escape HandyWoman ! I've managed to arrange another date for tomorrow evening on OKCupid, with a stand up comedian, I would say that means at least he will be funny but I'm keeping my expectations fairly low...

ah yes. I remember now. The attractive male with options, perfectly capable of having a relationship, but who weighs up those options and decides to stand stubbornly on the periphery of a relationship. Bear is like that. I can't think of a more emotionally communicative man to be honest. He'd make a good bf. He just won't go there.