Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

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We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

I think leather skirt and ankle boots sounds good, Waving, and am envious of your comedy show date ...

Yes, getting back out there can help, but I remember the next date I went on after MrCanceller cancelled our second date (!) was with the most pompous arrogant man. He was so full of himself and his own self-importance. It didn't help. I nearly, nearly, nearly texted MrCanceller on the bus on the way home, but luckily I didn't. I never did reply to Delboy's last whatsapp. He was asking questions that were putting the horse before the cart.

I'd love a comedy show date! Have a great time waving. Sounds fun.

Tilly I'd wonder if he has somebody at home and he's waiting for her to go away..... I don't knnow, maybe I'm very cynical but ime, most men are keener to meet sooner rather than later, and most women would prefer to chat a little longer than the man would ideally like to chat. I suppose it can be reversed without being suspicious though but be wary

Newsflash - I'VE GOT AN IRON!

He's off Bumble (I know! A real live man off Bumble - who knew!) he's 51 (my upper limit but hey ho) likes artsy stuff, has kids at uni, seems nice. And HE'S SCOTTISH! I love a Scottish accent. My Mr2015 was Scottish. Sadly he's in Edinburgh til Sun so can't meet this week but we are now chatting on Whatsapp.

WOOP!!!

I'm waiting for an impromptu date!

Oh I love a Scottish accent as well!

Alicia from the Good wife knocks back the wine at a fair pace doesn't she waving, so therefore it must be OK ish. I watch that show and I just think 'must buy bigger wine glasses'. My wine glasses are those miserable things from ikea that hold about 170mls of wine.

Gast who's coming at this time of night?
(love it)
Well done Handy

Date tonight was with a very sweet man but absolutely no chemistry there at all so a quick drink then made my excuses and left. Just lining up the next one now!

Hi guys! I actually finally have something to contribute to this thread, lol

So last week I had my first date from OLD...it was just a midday coffee meet. Unfortunately didn't feel a romantic connection in person, but we still had a nice conversation and it was pleasant. The experience definitely makes me feel open to doing it again (and I also realize the importance of trying to meet quickly. Had no idea I wouldn't feel anything in person as we were really getting along with messaging!). Am now chatting with a tradesman (though not sure exactly what he does) who seems nice enough online. Only exchanged a few messages so far but would definitely want to meet if it gets to that point.

Actually starting to have some fun!

Oh...and I've got my eye on a cute veterinarian but I haven't sent a message...just waiting to at least see if he also views my profile but I don't think he's been online.

Well I'm pretty sure I'm being blown off by one of my iron MRHR. He was very keen and we had a lunch date last week, he immediately said he wanted to meet again. Arranged for Saturday but he called off sick and he's been playing it cool ever since. Still days he wants to meet and responds to my messages straight away, but you just kinda know don't you?? Anyway, I'll not send him any more messages. My other iron MrTaxi is good chat, but doesn't seem my type. He wants to meet for a drink one evening this week. So might do that. Considering I'm not looking for a relationship I'm letting this business with MrHR bother me a bit too much.

Yay for your iron, Handy.

Waving, I hope both your DCs are okay.

I've been chatting to another iron, Mr Video, who has had me roaring with laughter. Think I will meet him just because of that! He's quite a bit younger than me though ...

I've a DATE tonight with MrIT!

It's a late quick drink. If there's a loo update it either means it's dragging on because he won't stop talking about his ex and her affair, or he's lush and I've stayed longer.

Let's hope it's the latter!

Waving I so hope your do are both ok, that sounds extremely stressful. Hope the op goes well.

gast you are impressive - another frog down eh?

Mr lovely-sounding Scot has just Whatsapped me saying good morning. Funny how I love that from him but from MrIT I found it irritating! What the actual??

Waving how sweet if you ti think of all of us when you myst be preoccupied with yr kids...
I wasn't with MrMusic that long, having already retrieved him when he ran off before ( I know I mustn't do that again - he has to come back himself if at all) but u just KNEW it wss the best relationship of my life...which maybe doesn't say a lot about my life..
Out to dinner, sharing mine off my fork, he'd made me yet another mix-cd.... slight odd moment(?) but thought I could discuss later when both less tired ..he got weird last half hr, strained look on his face when I asked what was wrong he said "I've changed my mind..." no coherent explanation....I can't explain the shock I felt...after how we were & all our plans (yeah I know - red flags. ..)

I rang him 3 days later - he'd been off work ill, said he still felt connected to me was hurt too but refused to talk about it beyond he didn't like to be out of control of his emotions & "I know myself!"....

Morning all!

BIG NEWS. So, last night I was feeling really good. I had a nice day out with DS and friends, was making plans with other friends and just generally feeling pretty good about life. So, I decided to message MrEloquent (quick back story..."met" him on Tinder late last year, had a couple of v intense days of messaging, really connected in lots of ways, planned to meet up, then he backed off, saying he wasn't ready for a relationship. Have always wondered "what if"....) I'd been planning to message him for a while but held off because if I wasn't in the right mood I would be upset if he didn't respond.

So, last night I did a "hey, how are you?" WhatsApp message, then immediately archived the chat and told myself that I wouldn't hear from him and mentally drew a line under the whole thing. And I really did. I felt a bit meh but generally fine. I also archived my chat with Birdman and a couple of other old irons. Drawing lines and moving on and I went to bed feeling pretty relaxed and happy.

I woke up this morning still feeling relaxed and happy. Which is actually really good as my anxiety tends to be worst first thing, so I definitely felt like I had done the right thing.

And then I got a message from MrEloquent Just a "I'm fine thanks, how are you?" but I really, honestly was not expecting anything at all. I haven't replied yet, am at work and then busy with DS this afternoon/evening so I'll send something witty and interesting later on when my brain has had a chance to settle down a bit.

I am going to heed all the advice that everyone gave me on the last thread about this and move very carefully but I am feeling pretty good that he replied.

Sorry for the epic "me, me, me" post...needed to process it all a bit. Will catch up properly later. Happy dates to those who have got some tonight and hope your DC are OK waving

Hello everyone new and old

Just checking in. My irons I had both blew me out at the weekend so feeling a bit flat especially with all the valentines rubbish.

Have just rtft and my goodness Gast I'm impressed. I wish I had as many dates!

I'm still swiping on tinder and getting matches but they either don't message at all or send one naff one. Please tell me it's not me??

Anyway, my skin is much thicker than when I first started this OLD so it's not getting me down as much. Why does it have to be so hard?

As I write this I've just had a message from tinder so I'm going to check that out.
Good luck with all irons/dates this week!!

MrLovelyScot is in Scotland til Sun which is tres annoying as in child free all week this week.

So we've not arranged a date yet, which is OK by me as I don't need to fess up quite yet that I'm really not free at all next week . Dont want to get into weeks of messaging though, so may have to bite the bullet and arrange a sitter....... Although I've barely seen my kids recently.

I've got a date tonight :)

ladylou enjoy your date!

waving two dc in A&E, and your xh showing up? You did well to get through that with only wine to calm your nerves! Enjoy your date tonight too!

mom2k yes, nothing counts until after you've seen them in real life I think!! It's nice to know that they can string a sentence together, but it's no more than that really.

handywoman what a waste of a childfree week! I have a childfree week in about 6 weeks and I would love to do something with it.

I just whatsapped del to suggest meeting up for an hour tomorrow night. He suggested coffee and a phone call and I didn't respond to that yesterday so now, no reply to my more pro-active suggestion to meet for a quick drink! he can either say yes, or he can say no. I really don't mind.

MrCanceller sent me quite a moany email this morning. It's cold. work work, blah blah blah. I don't know. He can be very funny and very clever but I think he's possibly also a bit..... passive, a bit moany? I don't know. Maybe I should give up.

I found this clip on line that H made of himself and a friend on holiday. He weighed more then and he looks like a fat whale on holiday in a grubby t-shirt. It helped me a lot. I'd love to link you all to it but it only had about three views and now it has 5 and I think he'd know something weird was going on. Actually, will he get a notification that I viewed his video? It's on his youtube channel. I viewed it logged in to you tube with my gmail address. Holy fuck that would be embarrassing. Me laughing at his fatter belly 2 years ago. He'd have the last laugh.

Hi everyone,
I'd like to join the dating thread! I got dumped mid January and have signed up with OKCupid, Tinder and Bumble - so far I've had two dates with one guy and one with another but I'm not that keen on either of them and don't think I'll be seeing them again. I have another date on Thursday and one next week (I'm a teacher so trying to fit as much dating as I can in to half term!) I've done online dating before and previously I met someone straight away but not this time so I'm feeling a bit demoralised