Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

[MyGastIsFlabbered]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

waving I couldn't face Jillian this evening for some reason, so I did Kelli instead

fitness blender 37 minute hiit workout

It says 41 minutes but at least four are just cool down stretch

Yes, I'd do that too, protect yourself.... No harm. It's early days. He is a nice guy who likes you but he was away finding himself ten days ago. I think you have the balance right. I attempted to protect myself with H and it still hurt when he ended it. So no harm to just hold back a bit. Or does that take all the joy out of it?

Oh dear - now feel too full to exercise though it always makes me feel better - I've found tennis quite good as a temporary relief from heartbreak :)

314 who am I to talk? Here I am telling you that the new iron is most likely not interested in someone with kids and I've just agreed to see him Friday night! The banter is off the charts good and I think he's very good looking.
Ah well. Cheeky little date never hurt anyone.

waving I am taking notes and watching carefully. In summary.

You like him. But that freaks you out slightly
You equally aren't sure if you are ready to settle down (vs) continuing to have fun and date
But you don't want to let him go because you get a degree of comfort from it and what happens if you let him go and nothing better comes along?
Plus the sex is great.

I will be in your shoes one day, have no fear!

Too sassy, I always enjoy the first date. It's a chatty drive by with a glass of wine. So enjoy it!

Yes Sassy it does make a lot of sense. That is pretty much the approach I am trying to inject into my dating life along with a dose of bitchiness. I was far too naive when I started three months ago, I think I can actually count myself lucky I have not got that hurt yet. Well baring the Popcorn disaster of course. I lost nearly a month with his shenanigans and probably a good few opportunities since I did not really keep on dating. That'll learn me.

I am pretty much all booked until the end of next week but I think I will make an effort to squeeze Theatre in. Not sure about TinyMrGrey, I guess I will just keep on texting and see if he calms down a bit plus he has insider info on a job I have my eye on..

Dear god what is it with some people. Every couple of hours I've had the same message from some guy on OKCupid 'wud u let some one cum up u who always used a condom'... I don't know if I'm more offended by the content or atrocious spelling. He's blocked now anyway. Shame as he looked quite fit!

I have 3 dates next week:
Pier I was chatting to last night. We're meeting for tea and cake on Sunday

MrHappn and I are going for a drink on Tuesday.

J1 and I are going for cocktails on Friday.

Still waiting to hear from Foaf so no idea if that's going to happen.

Slightly annoyed that Para announced at the weekend that he's back with his girlfriend, nothing was ever going to happen there but I did enjoy our late night smutty chats!

Hi all,

I could do with a little dating advice. I met someone online he is very sweet but I know I'm not attracted to him. We have plans for this weekend which I really wanted to do with him but as I don't think I fancy him and its valentines weekend I don't think that's a good idea as there may be expectation there.

He is quite full on and texts me a lot each day and started calling me baby after only 2 dates. It takes me a while to become the familiar with people and prefer things to build UK at a nice gradual pace instead of quickly jumping irk acting like we are in a relationship.

Anyway how am I going to tell him? I hate stuff like this and don't want to tell him but also think it's unfair to spend valentines weekend with him.

Help

Do you think that a romantic relationship is possible?

Ugh did a huge post and lost it.

waving I hugely admire you for putting yourself out there. I keep thinking if I find the right person then I'll be fine with some form of commitment when in fact I know that if someone mentions the 'R' word there will be a sassy shaped hole in the nearest wall.

I think I'm turning into a man.

Can I just say that him not messaging you is NOT ok. scot and funboy have both been texting minimum twice a day....if that dropped off then I'd drop them off. I'm definitely turning into a man.

gast your updates are epic. Which site do you get these on?

314 thanks, hoping the loo update will be good.

slow I don't think it's fair to go into a weekend date (especially on this weekend) without letting him know that romance isn't on the cards. If that's how you feel.
How's about you say, listen I'm looking forward to this weekend but I don't want big expectations. Can we just hang out as friends? I don't want romance right now.

Gast how do you do it? Should we all move to Brighton? :)
I've trawled through so many profiles & can't find any even to message! There was one 'Happy' who lives quite far away who has said 3x (!) on POF in the last week or so that he will email me but hasn't....slim pickings in yr 50s in Yorkshire...

Waving I think it shows you on WhatsApp just because yr phone is on - it doesn't need to mean you are actually active on WhatsApp.

I know what you mean. I want respect, in a relationship thatcis midway between casual and serious!

Found a few people to message last night but i havent even checked the site to see if they have replied yet.

Yes i sometimes realise that i have whattsapp open, havent sent a message for hours but when i exit out of open apps, i see it was open. But my phone is only a samsung

How !ong is he going to Amsterdam for? Doesn't he work?!
But I think you can't tell him yr cross - unless you are in a serious relationship with him - which, from the above, yr not sure you want to be?