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Roll up, roll up, it's dating thread 96

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 02/02/2016 18:09

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin
  3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens
  5. Trust your gut instinct
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  8. If it's not fun- stop
  9. Loo update is mandatory
10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will
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WavingNotDrowning · 07/02/2016 21:41

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Mag314 · 07/02/2016 21:44

H used to tell me "you're cute". Does that mean pretty? I suppose at my advanced age cute implies a certain youthfulness. clutches at straws

WavingNotDrowning · 07/02/2016 21:44

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Mag314 · 07/02/2016 21:45

waving and bear told me I was "quite wholesome really"

I might as well put up a photo of miss jean brodie

DeeDee47 · 07/02/2016 21:57

I'm 49 this year and I've lost count of sex pests! One 20 year old last night that wanted to make me an interesting offer!!I have a 19 yr old daughter ffs!
Oh Mr R&B wanted to drive 300 miles to my home for sex last night!!! And we've not met yet!
As for mr finance he is still messaging,but no talk of meeting up as yet😐
Catty sorry about teacher
Waves to everyone else and welcome newbies

WavingNotDrowning · 07/02/2016 21:58

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cleowasmycat · 07/02/2016 22:04

My profiles specifically say I'm looking for a relationship in a certain age bracket but I keep getting messages from really young or really old guys. Hmm

cattychatty · 07/02/2016 22:06

Thanks everyone. Men are odd creatures it's a shame we like them so much

cattychatty · 07/02/2016 22:10

I always get filth I don't even have a picture up and never send a photo until I feel like the are one of the good ones but I'm quite (very) large busted and as soon as they see that it's like they turn back into teenagers

BatshitCrazyWoman · 07/02/2016 22:34

I'm 51. Blonde. Big boobs. Perhaps that's it. My profile is quite 'prim' - perhaps that's what they like?!

ocelot7 · 07/02/2016 23:16

Just lost a whole message :( & too tired to write it all out again - maybe tmrw....
Brief answer Folk no I didn't get a response to my email.... :(
Should have been marking tonight but went to pub quiz with friends instead to avoid more overthinki g

Mag314 · 07/02/2016 23:41

I have no boobs to speak of really. 32 b and I wear a lot of navy.Auburn hair. Pale as tipp-ex. Green eyes.

I'm trying to see a pattern here. I have had so few pervy messages that it astonishes me. I must have a perve deflector

Mag314 · 07/02/2016 23:59

I know, I do sometimes think, shall I just give up? Can't I just be happy being single forever? It is quite scary to think that I might spend the rest of my life chasing an emotional connection with a decent man I can sleep with. I'm not sure why it's so hard.

RedMapleLeaf · 08/02/2016 07:15

Just a quick message to say that I'm still here, still reading the thread and still madly in love with MrF. Have been far too busy with work and play and feeling as though I need a little time set aside on my own.

Men are odd creatures it's a shame we like them so much

I love this.

TooSassy · 08/02/2016 07:18

And just like that red restores faith in mankind and relationships! Grin

Happy Monday everyone!

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 08/02/2016 07:32

Ah Red you give us all hope!

That reminds me, a friend of mine has given my number to a friend of his who may be interested, maybe I'll get my own MrFoaf! (With my luck I doubt it!)

London is done I think, we were chatting and he said 'we should have done blah' so I said 'maybe another time' he's read the message, been online since and not replied. I'm not devastated, just fucked off that some men are apparently incapable of honesty.

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WavingNotDrowning · 08/02/2016 07:33

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choccyfiend78 · 08/02/2016 08:00

Hi waving I'm 37 and my profile clearly states that I am looking for a relationship but it doesn't seem to make a difference! It just really pissed me off how some random bloke assumed I would dump my son on someone else for a couple of hours just so he could get his end away! We had only been chatting since the night before!

Mag314 · 08/02/2016 10:41

Yes, Red's mrF does give me hope! i need to be braver in real life. more eye contact etc..

No other contenders, and anyway, they'd all seem really mediocre compared to H. Now I have to wade through older, fatter, less attractive men who aren't interested in me either.

MrCanceller hasn't replied to my last message but I'm not sure that that is a good one to pursue anyway. We got on very well that one time we met up, but whatever he's looking for, he didn't want to pursue that ''click'', he wanted to find (speculating here) either a younger woman, or a woman without children... or maybe even a woman with older children who would be like him, free. It's all so complicated.

But, I'm feeling OK today. A little flat still but I can feel my old equilibrium returning. Partly because I'm not waiting for a scraps of communication in between dates.

ocelot7 · 08/02/2016 10:47

314 I feel the same: reading about Red & other feelgood stories - like "I think I am being flirted at" on MN engender hope but I sure would like my share of karma like - now!
But also agree re scrolling through legions of older, fatter, duller, balder profiles... :(

WavingNotDrowning · 08/02/2016 10:53

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ocelot7 · 08/02/2016 10:57

Lost message again - b*** kindle!
Waving lovely message-interesting man worth another look - weight can change... My lost love is overweight but it didn't stop me fancying him...

Mag314 · 08/02/2016 11:02

I would enjoy your party and also message those men waving - you don't have to race to suggest meeting up. Often the conversations die a death long before it gets to a tentative suggestion to meet up in RL. But maybe I would say that, the way I'm feeling right now. But then, H and I had the talk Confused over two dates, where we both said we weren't looking for anybody else, so I would have felt dishonest messaging somebody else. I even left it til the day after H dumped me before I replied to MrCanceller! (And that's already died, for the second time now, so really, I am put off by his half-heartedness)

Mag314 · 08/02/2016 11:03

ps, and that mrcanceller sent me an email, so it wasn't like I was checking back on POF

BornToFolk · 08/02/2016 11:06

Sorry to hear that ocelot Flowers

waving Do you think you might be able to fancy him? Probably worth chatting with him a little bit to see if there's a spark?

314 Glad you are starting to feel better. I know what you mean about waiting for the scraps of communication...it's almost a relief when you know that you're not going to get any, so no need to stress about it.

red Lovely, lovely, lovely! You give us all hope!

I get minimal filth. The only place I really get it are on OKC and then only just a polite "would you like me be my sub?" kind of stuff. I do look v prim and proper in the profile pic I use most often though. The guy I was messaging on Tinder on Sat night did tell me I had a filthy mouth but that was mostly because I misspelt "count" in an unfortunate way...

I am still distinctly lacking in irons. Not sure what's going on with Mears. He's a funny one. He replies straight away to messages but with one word answers. I'm going to leave it and see if he messages me now I think. Shame as he is very hot!

I did get a Tinder match this am and he messaged straight away telling me I was gorgeous which has got to be a good sign, right?

Has anyone tried speed dating? A friend wants me to go with her. I have reservations as a) I am shit at first impressions and b) the age range is 25-38 and I'm nearly 39...But it's on a night I don't have DS so may as well go and treat it as a laugh and a chance to practice my flirting skills on some younger guys!