Financial control - Part 2

[AngryMo]

Just starting new thread. Hopefully can kickstart it with details of my CAB meeting.

:) I have a glass of what's Mo is on

Bottoms up, Akire!

I would get a Creme Egg and post a picture of that with 'my children's Easter Egg! Better things next year I hope!' and a happy Easter message.

You'll need to decide at what point you block him on Facebook - do you have a friend who could monitor his profile for anything incriminating? He will delight in winding you up.

This not engaging malarky is bloody hard

Yes, it is. Much harder than engaging.

IMHO facebook is vile. it causes so much meant or unmeant hurt? All the community getting a picture, a Happy Xmas, photo of your lunch, a photo of your holiday, I think photos of children occasionally is passable, but all the time ????
it's all faceless, showing off........ like who gives a f......
Sorry !
Anyway, I hope you did mange to buy your Dcs a small egg each out of your budget. do not Skype him. You can't force him to care about your children.

By the way, if he was trying to repair the damage he could have sent flowers & eggs by interflora

I dare say more people than he expects are thinking "Isn't he supposed to have a family somewhere? Why isn't he with them?" but not saying so. And most of the rest couldn't really give a shiny one what he's up to. They're too busy posting their own. So I wouldn't worry too much about the FB community's perceptions.

Not engaging, hard though that is, is necessary because you have a plan on the boil to which you don't want to give any clues. If you were playing poker with the bugger you wouldn't wave your cards about and say "ooh, look what I've got". He might be briefly miffed at your strong hand but he would be better able to counter it. So just carry on working on your Mona Lisa smile whilst playing the long game. He'll find out soon enough.

Happy Easter Mo well done resisting urge to post. Sending lots of chocolate x

When I finally reply - in few words - to him, I'm tempted to add even though you say you don't want us to split up, you never even said you love me.
If he's just playing a game, and has already fed me lies, I wonder why he can't lie about that too. He knows that people use flowers and chocolates in an apology yet he hasn't even done that - and you'd think this is the perfect time.
He wants me to stay - yet has offered me absolutely no incentive - what would be in it for me?
Anyway what's the point analysing him...fact is he only loves himself.

Blimey, the temptation to ask "Whats in it for me?!" when he says he doesnt want to split up would be huge!

You are doing so well not engaging, I dont think I could be that strong, and then I would hate myself afterwards!

Bogeyface expressed the sentiments I'm thinking. What does he think is so good about your marriage that it's with you staying?

The only thing he can come back with is for the sake of the children, and we all know our marriages sets the example of what our kids believe a marriage is. No way you'd want them to see yours as acceptable or desirable

How do I do extra large caps? Because I want to say FFS! Just found a message from him from around midday saying he's out an extra 50 in if I fancy taking the kids out for lunch. Easter Sunday at noon he says this? Really???? I already had the lunch prepared by then and I don't think four people can just turn up anywhere without a booking today.
This.is.laughable.

Oh wow, how generous of him, Mr Bountiful

Yes I'm very impressed that you're resisting the urge to post on his FB 'Happy Easter everyone' post with "Thanks, will pass on your Happy Easter to the DC".

You are doing so so well Mo. You should be very proud of yourself.

He seems out of touch with reality. Perhaps he is ill?

hahahaha !!! will he check if you have spent it ??? better take it out of ATM pronto, if not he will deduct next month... Cretin

Use it for tomorrow. No comment. Keep £10 back for new vests...

And here comes the charm offensive. Clearly this £50 is what he thinks it will cost to keep you in the marriage.

I agree that get it out of the bank ASAP!

£50 that is so derisory it's laughable.

KOKO sooner you can block him on FB the better!

That's what I'm worth: £50.
I am dealing with this right now as a spectator, almost like you guys, now I can see him for what he really is: what will he do next? His actions are totally laughable. I'm not even angry! I'm almost finding it funny.

Wow. Fifty whole pounds (and yes I would check this won't be deducted from next week before "going mad" and splurging it).

No need to acknowledge he's done this.

I was going to reply but actually - what for? To say thank you? Pah.

Exactly, usual stance on communication required. Nothing unless it regards the immediate welfare of the kids.