Financial control - Part 2

[AngryMo]

Just starting new thread. Hopefully can kickstart it with details of my CAB meeting.

Likes grumpyoldblonde's thinking. Adds - "Again?"

Perhaps his colleagues and friends are being given the impression that he is already separated, hence holiday, and minimal domestic 'outgoings' towards your family?

What a bastard! Glad you are getting him out of your life

Arghhh so bloody annoying ! A normal parent who's being away for 3m and when kids are off school for two weeks and he's not working and he can afford it ....., would catch train/flight to make their Easter or say hop on plane met you X for weekend or here £100 for few days out over Easter. The fact he rather sly go off on holiday spend money on himself and not even give you an extra tenner for 3 eggs or enough buy decent Sunday dinner just !!!!!!!!!

The fact he failed to mention he's going is even worse. What if there was emergency and you needed to know where he was??? But we are not suprised because that's how selfish he is!!!

I would so post thank you do X friend or mum for bringing eggs over (hoping someone will) or the kids woulnt have had any!!! That would be fact. That's not saying he's miserable bastard, that leaves people to read between lines.

Seriously what bottle of his expensove wine are you having later??? Only fair!!

Oh and you have been doing an amazing job of looking after kids and everything for 3m 24/7 with no support. Yet he deserves a treat!! He really dont care about you or kids or how hard you work. All about him and how well he's doing, earning and self rewards.

sends paint so toddler can be left unsupvised with his wardrobe accidental all over the floor

He is so like my STBXH honestly!! My solicitor has given me good advice and try to portray yourself as whiter than white. Remember everything you write could be read by a judge so stay factual and polite that is it.

sorry in a rush but you are well rid of him!!!! You will be fine!!!!

Was feeling creative Mo think deserve crown for the day :)

De lurking Mo just to say well fucking done.

Akire I bloody love it!!!!

I am feeling an amazing sense of relief right now. Even though I actually don't even know if he has received the message yet because he's too busy sitting on a beach somewhere drinking beers. I hope he gets it when he's drunk, passes out, forgets about it and then it hits him all over again in the morning together with his hangover.
Or maybe he'll just delete it. In the meantime though, I'm telling his family myself. If they know before he does it's hardly my fault because he's not even told me he's away.

Well done Mo, I totally agree with telling his family on your own timescale. Don't protect him from the honest truth of his behaviour any more. It's not your shame, it's his.

You can now ring up and start claiming tax credits as a single parent!!!

£££££££££££££££££££££££££££££

don't post it, but I like,
Here, take a look at Knobby on holiday, again,which he omitted to tell us he was taking. Another jaunt, while he is such a tight wanker, he hasn't even allowed his children an easter egg.
So guys this is why we now are officially separated.
Hope he get's sunburn on his bald patch, & apparently his growing beer belly. (He can afford beer, funny that..........)

I am officially single too, yay! I must be giving off the single vibes because earlier today as I was waiting for something, an old bloke started chatting me up but we had a nice little conversation and after asking me if I was married, he actually asked me if P was a good hubby. I told him straight, nope, he loves money more than me...but anyway it turns out this lovely old man's wife left him (and his two kids) for another man and he brought the kids up alone. He was a sweetie really and his story touched me. There are so many great, caring people out there. But anyway even though I'm on the market again now we won't be going on a date

Mo, you are an amazing woman! One day, you will meet a chap who deserves you.

Stbx is indeed a total tosser. He doesn't even try to pretend that he's interested in you and the children. This latest stunt is just jaw-dropping. It must be so hard not to respond publicly to that news.

Do tell his mum, and get that nice juxtaposition between yet-another-holiday and no-money-for-Easter-eggs firmly embedded in her brain.

I don't think it's single vibe I think it's happy relived I'm freeeeeee vibe! It's great when you have touching conversations like that AND good practise to say me Im Single/seperated!

I'm going to be back on rollercoaster emotions...can feel a bit of a come down starting now. I've emailed his mother.

Bound to happen, suppose a lot of it today has been holding on for a response from him. It's been how long now 10h ??

Yes about that. Nothing yet.

whays your plans this evening? Any company? Have you told real life friends for support yet?

That's the thing, until you take over control of your own life, you're going to continually be living waiting to see what others are going to do that affects your life.

This is the start of the process of being master of your own life, of not waiting for the next email or phone call and living with that pit in your stomach.

Hang in there. Expect that you'll be on that roller coaster for a while longer yet, then you'll be freer after.

Your doing amazing mo. Lots of ups and downs to come but it will all be worth it.

OK. for the PIL, they will be in contact.
Cold truthful account. no tears, no brow beating.
Just say this is what it's come to.
He is happily holidaying away, allowing you 89p pp per day. Why the fuck isn't here with his kids if he has time off ?
enough

nota, they may say he has already told them you are both having trouble... & be agressive & cruel.

(you)

So pleased to see you have taken control of your life. You have made the decision, not just left as a passenger of (ex)P in his life that doesn't feature consideration for anyone else. You have taken control. I think that might throw him.

And it might cause him to retaliate, but it doesn't matter, because you've decided to separate from him and that is your decision and whatever he says he can't change that.

You're in control; you'll get child maintenance, you'll get something out of the house. The rest doesn't really matter and will work itself out in a manageable way. You're in control of your life.

Go Mo. Good luck.