Am I making too much of this? sorry may be tmi...

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I have been seeing a guy for a few months. In general he is quite affectionate and tactile which is fine, but I don't like it when he uses a very "light" touch, I find it tickly and annoying I have told him this several times, but he still insists on doing it, and actually seems to do it on purpose as he thinks it's funny to wind me up. It's starting to piss me off now.

In bed he is usually great - very unselfish and skilled. However this morning he had ahem been stimulating me manually and brought me to orgasm. I thought it was pretty obvious that I had come but he carried on so I attempted to push his hand away, however he carried on. (He is 6'4" and strong) he then moved me into a different position and I thought perhaps we were going to have sex, but again he continued rubbing away and tbh it was uncomfortable and I really didn't like it. So I told him to stop another couple of times but he had me held quite tightly so I shouted for him to stop and heaved him off me so that he was in no doubt, he then tried to move me into a position to have sex but I wriggled out from underneath him and said no I didn't want to, and he stopped trying. I rolled over and lay there in silence and we have gone about our day as if nothing has happened.

I am wondering wtf did happen? He is meant to be meeting my dd this afternoon for the first time, but I don't know wtf to do now... Am I overreacting?

I can't believe I have a perfectly timed spa break to get over it! I have never been on one before - what are the chances!!

Perfect! Now you can forget about this loser.

I am still feeling quite sad this evening. I like other posters and probably most women have been in more "obvious" abusive situations before and I didn't think it would end up happening to me again. I feel a bit foolish and sad. I honestly thought he was one of the nice ones.

My mum and dad keep asking when they're going to meet him. I haven't told them I am breaking up with him. They will ask too many questions and probably blame me for being fickle/too "fussy". They are desperate for more grandchildren

OP, I think you have handled it brilliantly and in away that suits you.

You have protected your DD and yourself and that is sooo commendable! There are a lot of people (men and women) that would not have been so insightful!

Onwards and upwards to you . Oh and an unmumsnetty hug! X

Don't be sad - you really dodged a bullet - be happy you recognised it wasn't ok and you've saved you and your daughter a whole load more unhappiness

I think you handled it really well. You never know how a break up will go face to face to I think on the phone with a friend there for moral support is a really good idea. Try not to feel foolish. Remember some of these men are experts at hiding it for a long time before they let the mask slip. And as soon as it did, you've acted on it and kept you and your dd safe. It's hard to do that sometimes and you should be proud

He knows he's done wrong. That's why he left.

I got scared reading your story but you have doubt?

I hate the light feathery touch 99%of the time, just makes me feel all creeped out. The other thing, totally unacceptable and I'd probably finish it if he genuinely knew you'd finished and was ignoring your no's.

Very sensible way to handle it.

I would have handled it exactly the same way.
You were brave to stand up to him, and I can only imagine the relief you felt!

Stand tall, op. You should feel proud of how you dealt with this crap.

Well done

How are you feeling now op?