Am I making too much of this? sorry may be tmi...

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I have been seeing a guy for a few months. In general he is quite affectionate and tactile which is fine, but I don't like it when he uses a very "light" touch, I find it tickly and annoying I have told him this several times, but he still insists on doing it, and actually seems to do it on purpose as he thinks it's funny to wind me up. It's starting to piss me off now.

In bed he is usually great - very unselfish and skilled. However this morning he had ahem been stimulating me manually and brought me to orgasm. I thought it was pretty obvious that I had come but he carried on so I attempted to push his hand away, however he carried on. (He is 6'4" and strong) he then moved me into a different position and I thought perhaps we were going to have sex, but again he continued rubbing away and tbh it was uncomfortable and I really didn't like it. So I told him to stop another couple of times but he had me held quite tightly so I shouted for him to stop and heaved him off me so that he was in no doubt, he then tried to move me into a position to have sex but I wriggled out from underneath him and said no I didn't want to, and he stopped trying. I rolled over and lay there in silence and we have gone about our day as if nothing has happened.

I am wondering wtf did happen? He is meant to be meeting my dd this afternoon for the first time, but I don't know wtf to do now... Am I overreacting?

Good for you

Well done for getting rid of him.

It is hard to spot the warning signs and to be honest I had no idea about the tickling (but will watch out for it now).

It's always tricky for the first few months of a new relationship as of course you want it to go well and for there not to be problems.

You can cancel the spa break or take a friend.

When he was carrying on after you had told him to stop, was he stimulating himself at the same time? I am in no way condoning what he did and he should have stopped but I wonder if he was caught up in the moment?

Why would that be relevant?

So relieved you've dumped him.

for you Hashtag
I hope you're feeling relieved. Glad you've got a RL friend who will be able to support you too.

god reading your op made me feel sick please get this man out of your life, i've been in this position and it doesn't go away, it just eats at you.

*and now i have a lot of anxiety around intimacy

Well done op on getting rid of him.

Well done for getting rid! xx

Well done OP. Much love to you.

When he was carrying on after you had told him to stop, was he stimulating himself at the same time? I am in no way condoning what he did and he should have stopped but I wonder if he was caught up in the moment

When I was young, in the early 1970s, young women were always being warned not to bring a boy/man to the 'point of no return'. The comment above sounds like the same kind of idea. I haven't heard it for ages. People don't have a right to force sex on each other, no matter how excited or 'in the moment' they are.

Well done to you, Hash, and I hope you are okay. You dodged a bullet here.

Well done you! You have done the right thing

When he was carrying on after you had told him to stop, was he stimulating himself at the same time? I am in no way condoning what he did and he should have stopped but I wonder if he was caught up in the moment - yeah, cos when they are 'caught up in the moment' their ears stop working, and they cant stop in case it explodes or something.

I thought all women knew that. Sex is something that is done to them rather than with them, and it is all the man's pleasure that counts. Can't stop that.

Hope you are ok OP. You did really well and it can't have been easy

Yep. And when they're 14 and having fun with a tissue box at hand, then hearing their mum's/brother's/friend's footsteps approaching the bedroom door doesn't interrupt them or stop them at all because, you know, once they start, they HAVE to keep going or the world will come to an end.

Plenty of reasons why a man can and will stop if needed - he just has to care enough.

Sorry I haven't been back, my friend came round and then I picked up dd, and now I am over at my mum and dad's getting dinner. As soon as I get a moment I will try and post a bit more

Hi - quick update. So when I got out of the bath I got dressed and decided to speak to him. I felt so anxious I was shaking and felt sick. So I know many of you will think I am a wimp, but I just told him I was not sure that now was the right time for him to meet dd. Funny thing was he was absolutely fine about it, really understanding. I just didn't have the guts to confront him properly. He asked me what was wrong as I was shaking and I said I was getting a migraine so he left to get the next train. I felt better just as soon as I had got him out of the house. I am going to call him and have it out and properly end things, I just couldn't face it today while he was there. I called my friend and she came straight over. I didn't give her all the intimate details but I just said I asked him to stop doing something several times but he didn't and was quite forceful about it. She was obviously horrified and we had a cuppa and a chat. She has said she can be around when I get the guts to make "the call".

Well done. Keep going, tell him he's out and don't see him again.

Well done. You said you were getting a migraine and he got the next train? Did you ask him to go then?

Yeah I said that as dd was going to be back this afternoon and I was having second thoughts about them meeting as I thought it was a bit soon, would he be able to use his ticket to go back today? He said he could transfer it and he totally understood. He was actually very nice about it. So then because I was getting a "migraine" he decided he would get the next train rather than a later one.

Oh right!

Good luck with ending it. I wouldn't feel bad about doing it over the phone.

Perfectly handled, op. Well done