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Step inside the dating thread, 95

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MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH · 19/01/2016 09:44

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin
  3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens
  5. Trust your gut instinct
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  8. If it's not fun- stop
  9. Loo update is mandatory
10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will
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TooSassy · 22/01/2016 19:36

gast so did MrCs bit even contact you?? If that's the case, delete and block pronto.
What are you doing with teach tomorrow? Dinner/ drinks? Have you thought about what you're going to say re the irons?

born it was a great date. The in date message was a very nice touch! Re facebook, none of these guys are coming near my FB (although haven't been active on it since separating from ex). I have pics of my kids there and it's just not happening.

waving did you hear from soho?

1968 welcome. I'm on Happn. It's keeping me fairly busy with 2 good dates and another one warming up.

eloquent looking forward to the Loo update.

red and 314 you know what? After last night, if I find myself in that situation I'm going to call them on it. And say listen, I love our dates, but it goes quiet in-between and that throws me. Is there a reason we don't stay in touch between dates? And wait to see what they say....
red how many dates have you had?

prizey yay on Mr Ad

sothat my response would be to run a mile. People who can't be alone are huge red flags for me.

handy ooooo. How you feeling about seeing the ex best friend? Yup Scot has been messaging all day. Pilot sent me a good morning pic (uber cute of his dog). Mrfrench checked in. As did mrimpromptu. Wow. They all messaged. Go figure.

Anyone aside from eloquent on a hot date tonight? I'm already in my Jim jams! Grin

TooSassy · 22/01/2016 19:37

gast did MrCS *not (not bit)

Custard314 · 22/01/2016 19:40

Handy you are right. My relationship history not great. Not used to healthy relationships. All of mine have been mistakes. Or abusive. Or experiments. Or "a break from being single". Yes, i told myself that when i went out with fake buddist broke artist guy.

H is the one who has had a series (no idea how many) normal relationships.

So i will wait a while. Get on with my other 'projects' (not men) & see if i acclimatise.

Right. Hair. Make up. Dress!!

Custard314 · 22/01/2016 19:42

Well phrased sassy. Maybe ill end up stealing that precise phrase

MyGastIsFlabbered · 22/01/2016 20:22

Nope not a word from MrCS. I'm tempted to see if he contacts me at some point in the future so I can give him a piece of my mind. I know I should block really but I can't yet.

Teach is coming here tomorrow for wine, curry and a film and shagging. Not sure if I'll mention the other irons, will play it by ear.

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 22/01/2016 20:31

It sounds like he's fairly committed (if he's not going to sleep with anyone else) without the label of 'going steady'. If you can bear it, I'd just keep going as you are and before you know it he'll be in love with you, but I can understand how the not knowing would drive you crazy.

RedMapleLeaf · 22/01/2016 20:42

I'd keep it going waving and see how it develops over the next few weeks.

sassy it must have been about 6 to 8 dates I reckon. I'm home now after a few days' work away. I've eaten, I've read comments on here, I've heard from MrF and generally feel a lot more chilled out. Happy to see him tomorrow and see how it goes.

SoThatHappened · 22/01/2016 20:45

sothat my response would be to run a mile. People who can't be alone are huge red flags for me.

What is it that is the red flag. what does it say about them?

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RedMapleLeaf · 22/01/2016 20:48

what does it say about them?

He'd rather have anyone than no one.

SoThatHappened · 22/01/2016 21:03

He'd rather have anyone than no one.

And be prone to stringing people along i guess and overlapping.

eloquent · 22/01/2016 21:06

Quick update. He's sweet. Maybe too much so.
Might just have him tonight haha

eloquent · 22/01/2016 21:09

And I had batman knickers, a fwb stole them.
It really got him going...

RedMapleLeaf · 22/01/2016 21:17

Wow, good loo updates!

MyGastIsFlabbered · 22/01/2016 21:28

I have batman, Star Wars, Wonder Woman and batgirl knickers!

But I have dark pink silk ones for tomorrow!

RedMapleLeaf · 22/01/2016 21:29

I'm sulking about tomorrow. I'm going to deliberately buy some massive grey ones especially.

MyGastIsFlabbered · 22/01/2016 23:49

Why are you sulking about tomorrow Red? Have I missed something?

Custard314 · 23/01/2016 01:07

Blimey. Waving. Men. Fgs, it's scary of course, but as I tell myself when I panic, there are two outcomes, it works out, it doesn't work out. probably gonna be the latter but if it doesn't work out, I'll be perfectly OK. Why do men complicate things so much??

Custard314 · 23/01/2016 01:22

Just re-reading the 'not read to throw in my lot with you comment''. Wow. I reckon this is how a lot of men really think............ they like you, but if they are with you they might miss their chance with rosie huntingdon whitely.

such excessive caution though. Is it just me, I never expect anything to last more than 6 months, so such a high level of caution seems excessive to me.

WavingNotDrowning · 23/01/2016 02:21

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RedMapleLeaf · 23/01/2016 04:05

Have I missed something?

I'm just being silly and need to give myself a good shake. I'm fine really.