Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

Gast let him have the CD, If you contact him, he'll be flattered, ''oh this girl is more in to me than I'm in to her, it's such a drag guys''.

He was a real chancer. A taker.

Jolly I don't think that it was a slap down too much, I'd definitely have sent something like that

Sounds tricky Humble but of course there's no obligation to have to do what they tell you. I must say I have a pathological aversion to owing favours or being in someone's debt.

Why do I always get ready far too early?

UPDATE: IKEA has joined MrTheatre in the apologetic naughty boy corner! Which brings us to Bitch 2 Boys 0. I am enjoying taming the beasts, who knew.

Good luck on your dates Red and Sassy! Anyone else?

I did not know about the FB/Whatsapp thing but after running to my phone to check it turns out it only works if you have synchronized your contacts on both apps. Which I have not. And I did not give FB my phone number so I guess I am safe ish bloody tech.

high fives Jolly

Stripey said yes to date, yay!

Good for you Jolly!

I had an exhausting day fighting with both parents in the end but I think they've backed down a bit now. I have had to earn the labels 'brat' and 'silly' and 'tantrumer' in the process but they will not discourage me from driving so. Exhausted grown up daughter - half a point, Martyred parents - half a point.

Nothing new to report so I feel too boring for this thread. HOWEVER..... I don't think H and I are tugetha forevva

Good news tanya

Red I always do that too!

waving is it bookclub tonight? gwan ya mad thing. I'm only jealous cos I wasn't cerebral enough for my book club. I liked the wine and the crisps.

Go Jolly!
And yay tanya! Do you know what/when yet?
And also yay 314 for arguing down your parents.

I've had a lovely early evening out with DS, just put him to bed so I'm going to have a bit of "healthy me" time and do my meditation and a bit of knitting. No word from Birdman but I am honestly not stressing. I'm sure he'll be in touch at some point.

We're talking cinema and wine, either next Wednesday or next Sunday. :)

Can I send Teach a message saying:
Actually I don't hope you find what you're looking for, I hope you get knob rot'

Obviously I won't, but can I imagine doing it?

So my resolve lasted not long at all and I've been chatting to Geek tonight, it's all been very gentle, very different to previous chats, nothing smutty, no dirty photos or anything. We're tentatively talking about lunch next Sunday but I won't be drinking so as to keep my wits about me. Any tips for keeping things slow and calm?

Woo this is quiet in here!?

Gast yes you can definitely imagine sending that text! Or actually do it still, better to not engage at all. Focus on Geek. Perhaps try the "don't want to rush into anything/I will be taking this slow" approach?

It is OKC kondoing day in casa Jolly: I am sorting out my messages, shamelessly blocking everyone I do not fancy talking to. And scrupulously checking their profiles beforehand. Which lead me to discover that MrFondue is apparently just after casual sex. Written all over his profile.. Mmmh. Didn't see that coming. But since the messages are so far off the sex track, he is going to be my next target for setting out article 3 of my new T&C: shagging may not be casual and may only happen at the earliest of 1) established, mutually- agreed-upon exclusivity or 2) fine print me jumping his bones against my better judgement.

Now. How do I do that? I mean this is not exactly first date material. Is it? Not sure "taking it slow" is going to cut it there.

Morning all

What did I miss? I think red is the only one who was on a date last night. Mine are both today.

waving was the text a soppy one?
gast no, absolutely no messaging that man. An asteroid could be about to hit Earth and you still shouldn't message him. He is absolutely not worthy of any part of your time or thoughts.
314 so what's the latest? Are you getting a car?
tanya yay to date!! Any idea what you're doing?
jolly your updates are keeping me entertained!!

So my 2 dates are today.
1st date (lunchtime drink) with impromptu
2nd date (post work drinks and dinner) with scot
french is trying to see me too but pushed him to next week.

scot appears uber keen. Asked me a very odd question which I thought was weird this early on but I equally think it is his sense of humour, will quiz subtly interrogate more this evening.

How is everyone else?

Too oh lovely, two dates, compare and contrast viel Glück

I saw the same girl last night & am meeting her for coffee today. It is vv hard to get work done & concentrate! If things stopped right now I would be pretty upset, I think, which sounds a bit unhealthy perhaps. I just have no idea what she's thinking. She keeps saying I'm sweet which is nice but I mean, you find your puppy sweet, you know. Plus our mutual friend actually also has a crush on her so we've had to be discreet & I feel bad (I am not very close with this friend at all but we meet up once a month or so).

MyGast wear trousers and a top with complicated fastenings, channel your inner Merkel, she's very cool and collected

Jolly I don't mention the fact that they won't be getting sex any time soon, I just don't have sex with them. If they bring it up then I tell them straight that I'm not after something casual and besides I don't rush in to sex. Men either tell me they can respect that decision or they tell me they feel the same. I've never had a man say, "righto, in that case I'm off".

Gast do not contact that man, don't give him the pleasure.

Sassy please provide updates on your dates thank you, as I have nothing but work today.

I have just got back from my first night at MrF's. Had a fabulous time, and a bit of a heart-to-heart over the meal and then lots of snogging in a pub.

Tread carefully there velour, don't let her know how much power she has.

I promise I won't contact him again, I absolutely promise. But thinking vengeful texts does make me smile.

Why does the world of OLD seem to be split between bastards I really fancy, and really nice guys I feel no spark for. Surely there must be some middle ground? Geek seems very sweet and genuine but his picture doesn't really do much for me; I know photos can be deceiving though.

Before i bottl and dont confess, spent 3 hours taljing to bear on skype. So easy.
Great preparation for dinner with h.
:-/
Sassy yes definitely gettingva car!

Three hours?! With the video thing turned on? What did you talk about? (Or shouldn't I ask?)

Morning all!

gast compose all the vengeful texts you need, just don't send them! Comfort yourself with the thought that if this is how he treats people, he's going to end up old and friendless and alone. And probably with knob-rot Geek sounds like just what you need right now, gentle and sweet and non-smutty. Try to enjoy getting to know him and chatting to him, and see what happens from there.

red glad your date went well! Snogging in the pub sounds bloody amazing.

TooSassy Good luck with your two dates today (you playa....) Am intrigued to know what the weird question that scot asked was...

Jolly does rule 3 have to be explicity stated? Can you just not shag them? Unless the fine print applies of course!

waving I admire your resolve re Soho. Cos you are clearly smitten and it would be very easy to step into the caring, girlfriendy type role when he's down but giving you both some space sounds sensible

velour hi! You also sound smitten! Hope coffee goes well today. I can understand your concern with the "sweet" thing but sweet can be lovely (see below for evidence) Having said that, trust your instincts if you think there's a bit of an imbalance of affections.

So, Birdman finally got round to messaging me at 11.30 last night, when I was already half-asleep. At some point I am going to have to have a word about not messaging after about 11 as I really need my sleep!
Anyway, bad news is he can't make Friday Good news is that he was very sweet and apologetic about it and keen to meet up soon, so we may do something Sat night if I can sort plans and babysitter out. But if not Sat then we'll definitely meet at some point next week. And yeah, he was just very sweet in general, and that seems to be working for me at the moment...