Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

Thanks guys :) She's in my halls at uni! We have a mutual friend & we saw a film together with some of their friends on Sunday, I kissed her during a drinking game & she's been round here twice. I think she's into it....I hope. She is stunning though and I am not, I know it's so unfeminist to think in terms of leagues but I feel like she's totally...in another league.
at the moment am waiting for her to get back to me on FB and I am trying to get on with an essay but it's hard!

Humble sounds like a nightmare, I hate tension with parents. and I know the feeling of hating that you're letting it get to you too.

ooh no I'm not a man! sorry!
insomnia :( that sucks

Wow this thread moves FAST!

velour welcome

My lunchtime is with mrimpromptu tmrw. Quick drink flyby meet.

scot is evening. Post work drinks and dinner. Looking forward to it. We've been messaging a little bit and it's just so easy with him.

french is texting.

waving just send the text. You're leaving it late to cancel! Do it!

Sassy, you try taking a week out of the game, I'm properly confused about who's doing what with whom!

Aye, Waving, he made me laugh last night, even though I am struggling a bit this week, and is just an easy-going, natural sort of a human. Not as tall as I'd normally go for, but neither is Bee. Apparently short-arse artists is my type at the moment!

TooSassy cheers! very impressed how you manage to juggle so many, is this OLD? am intrigued by the dating world, especially as I don't really do proper dates

going for a drink with her later, yay, but not pleased with myself re: what a flap I got in waiting for her to reply! pathetic! am running on four hours' sleep tho. do like the fact that I feel a total absence of wanting to play hard to get or anything like that, she's very comfortable to be with.

Oh we all get in a flap, Velour! Putting yourself on the line, and then having to wait for a reply is actual torture. I'm reasonably confident Stripey is going to come back and say yes, and I know he has a job (he's a trainer in an arts charity) where he can't just go on his mobile when he feels like it (not like me, though I do work hard...), but I'm still anxious!

That is NOT what we advised, missus. But bravo in keeping an iron in reserve!

my resolve lasted all of 2 days. I was talking to my brother about it and we reckon it's kind of an addiction for me. I definitely shouldn't be dating, but it's like I can't function without male attention, no matter how insincere.

I've just remembered Teach borrowed a CD from me-am I desperately clinging to this as an excuse to contact him or should I ask for it back and maybe ask him wtf he was playing at, or (most sensibly) write the CD off?

Plan to ask for it back in April.

Why April?

Y Gast,I'm the same,it is an addiction
I've joined e harmony,my excuse it was cheap,it will last till April,I dont have to respond
I personally would write the cd off

Just a bit of emotional distance gast. The landscape will look very different in a couple of months.

waving I suggested the less stinging message. It's what I would have done. I'd prefer that to the fact that I've met someone I like more than you (which is how I would feel if I got a message like that)

gast write the cd off. He was an utter twunt with your emotions. You think he'd even return the cd? Seriously no cd is worth contacting him again.

velour all 3 are very early stages and I don't message a lot so it's fine. I have another 2 crushes on Happn and they haven't messaged me so am leaving them be

Write it off. You know you are using it as an excuse to contact him and you know that that's only going to lead to pain and misery. Buy yourself a new CD and chalk it up to experience.

waving don't feel bad! You let him down gently.

tanya I just had a minor freak out that Stripey is someone I had a date with before Xmas but just checked OKC and he's deleted his profile so can't be him. Has that ever happened? Two people on this thread dating the same guy? How weird would that be?!

Nope Gast write off that CD. Add the fact he stole it from you to "the get angry list". (he clearly had zero intention of returning it IMO)

Still no news from IKEA who has read the text (thank you whatsapp). Looks like "slap on the wrist" came out as "punch in your face". Oops. Actually don't care.

Haha Folk, to the best of my knowledge I am the only Edinburgher here, so I think our Stripeys are not the same!

Oops, I think you slapped a little too hard jolly! Sounds like he needed it though...cheeky so and so...

scarf I'm in the SE, looking for guys 36-45 ish.

Just had a though with regards to the whole "seeing FB page before things progress too far" thing...you all know that if someone is in your phone contacts (ie. if you've been WhatsApp'ing them) then they come up on your "people you may know" bit on FB right? I only found out a couple of months ago after a guy I'd met on POF and had been chatting to on WhatsApp sent me a message saying "you've just come up on my people-you-may-know so I've just given you a good virtual stalking!" Cue much panic on my part...but my FB profile is pretty well locked down so only friends can see any more than my profile pic and full name.
Anyway, just thought I'd mention it in case anyone did not know...it can really help with a little pre-date research!

Oh, definitely not the same guy then! Couldn't get much further away really I hope yours replies soon!

red I'm 44 and since I moved back to be near them, I've become more dependent on them, to pick up my youngest from school 3 days a week and also, they gave me a lot of money towards my house. I'm very grateful for that, but I shouldn't have to do what my Dad thinks I should do forever because he gave me money towards my house should I? I mean, I'm very grateful and I regularly let them know that. I shouldn't have reacted to my Dad's phrophecies of doom and gloom wrt me driving. I should have taken a deep breath and counted to a million in my head.

waving so mrwriter's a gonner?! I think it's nice the way it was left. let him believe that. Nobody wants to know they were in losing second place.