Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

I'd just message him and say either that or that you just need some time away from dating to focus on the family (that may sting less).

Re hols. Don't know. Torn between sun and ski at the moment. Sun is winning though as I'm not sure I have the energy to face the DC's and me alone on our first ski trip (although I'm desperate to get them learning young).

I fully respect Lacoba's feeling that this thread isn't for her. I don't think she needed to leave on the basis that some of us really subscribe to WMLBs (I certainly don't) but nevermind.

I want to hear more about sassy's two dates!

I'm seeing MrF tonight. At last.

Ah have lovely dates Sassy and Red

Still undecided re friend's husband. I've not seen her for ages. Just texted her to see if she's free to meet. It may be that they've split and she hasn't said. If not I'll be very

Got really sick of POF and OKC so I hid my profiles, just as I went to do it up popped a chap who is now messaging me on Whatsapp - I'll call him MrMovies. manic day for me - work work work then straight to parents evening then choir..... And I've got a stinker of a cold

Roll on bed time!!!

Looking forward to hearing about your two dates😏
I'm probably not,well I know I'm not,but I could just chat,a friend reckoned the paid sites are better,don't like pof,and both my disappointments were off ok cupid
Good luck with your date red
And handy good luck with mr movies

Ooh, that has the beginning of a good story Handy, this could be the one.

I too have work, work, work today so I'll be on here all day

After my break up it was really important to me to spend time on everything other than men. I took care of my health and my friendships and became really, really familiar with being alone until it became comfortable. It's difficult because it's not something I want to lose now, and I have to make very deliberate efforts to preserve those. They were so hard won.

Morning ladies,

sorry for ducking out for a bit, it's been a tough couple of weeks and my resilience has taken a major kicking. My ex-H's brother died on Monday afternoon as well, so I'm trying to be as supportive as possible, and we're trying to figure out how best to tell our girls, so not a fun time.

In the meantime, however, the dating thing has picked up a little. I came off completely for about a week, then realised I am so lonely and I need to be seeking adult company, and I do want to meet someone, so it has to be OLD really.

Went back on OKC on Saturday - was scanning through absent-mindedly, then thought "I know that person...". One of my (male) friends who has recently started seeing a man. I clicked on his profile without thinking, and very soon after, his name appeared at the top of my FB chat list (which generally means people are stalking your profile). So I'm a bit..... I knew he was bi, but wouldn't have thought for a single second he was interested in me (super intellectual, lovely human, but ridiculously brainy), and I thought he and his new beau were happy.

Anyway, I got chatting to a younger (by two years just) man that I had chatted a bit to just after Christmas, and he asked me out last night, but I'm not sure.

Last night I got chatting to one, let's call him....Stripey...that I had nice chat with my first time on OKC. He seems really lovely and funny and the chat is flowing nicely. I suggested a date this morning, so we'll see.

Waving, glad to see you are still swooning over Soho! Gast, Teach is a cockwomble.

How come you're not sure about the two-years-younger man tanya?

can I join in?
I haven't slept properly since saturday night as I can't stop thinking about someone I've met. We started talking properly on Sat but have seen her around since Sept, DTD yesterday & she is so so lovely. After she left I spent four hours trying to do counting exercises for sleep & drifting into daydreams about her instead. Bit scared by how much I like her actually.

tanya tough news about XH's brother's death, good courage :)

Welcome velour, tell us more! How did you meet her? Does she seem equally in to you?

Every time I feel strong feelings for MrF I plan a 'date' with friends or family, just to bring a bit of defences balance to my life.

Red, he's not as articulate as I would normally go for, not currently working (I think due to MH issues), and I think it would be more work than I can really deal with right now. He seems very sweet, but maybe just not for me. The flow of conversation with Stripey is more akin to what I had developed with Bee. Not that I'm using Bee as a yardstick or anything. But I completely am.

Thanks Velour and welcome. Don't be scared, enjoy!

Morning all, thanks sassy. I texted my mum this morning and she ignored my text so i know she is cross with me that i fought with my dad. Argh. They are a united force giving me the cold shoulder at the moment, and i should be stronger, i shouldnt let it get me so anxious!! Mummy and Daddy are cross with me, naughty me. I will see my dad later. Dreading it.

But this is not dating news!!
H texted me twice this mrng and two dates planned so i feel relaxed about that TG.
and im afraid the whole WBLBy vibe is totally for me!!! I have a personality type that hates to ask a man for any thing i need to remind myself it is ok to have a bar!! If you are sleeping with somebody it ought to be acceptable to ask he very question tha will reassure you. I am a person who needs to remember that1! Not forget it!!

Aye, while I won't read WMLB, I think you just have to take from it what suits you. Glad about H! It's nice to see things do work out sometimes!

Humble do you mind me asking how old you are? My life took a huge leap forward when, at about 30, I just stopped trying to get my dad's approval. I just stopped trying to get him to like me. It was like the brakes came off my life and I hadn't even realised they were on.

tanya all seem like good reasons to not take him up on his offer.

Pie, I don't have contact with my parents, haven't seen my dad for 23 years, and my mum and I had a massive falling out last March because she didn't approve of me ending my marriage. Life is so much easier without them sometimes!

Aye, Red, I don't have the resilience to 'carry' anyone right now. If anything, I need a bit of support and looking after!

Absolutely, I had a couple of men approach me and I just found myself thinking, "I don't want a project".

Exactly my thinking. So Stripey is very much the frontrunner, as he feels like an equal. We'll see if he agrees to a date or not!

Hello all!

Welcome back tanya! I am sorry for your loss. Completely agree with you and red on actively spotting and avoiding "projects". Sometimes that just will not do any good to both parties involved.

I just sent IKEA the "slap on the wrist" text for suggesting that date 2 could be at my place. I told him that "that stop is way further down the dating road than where he is currently standing. But I would be happy to go out with him". Will see if this is another win for the Bitch.

I am still messaging MrFondue-the-goofball and I think a date is in order. MrTheatre, who got the first bitch treatment, is appearing keener than ever, and even complimentary - talk about shifting gears. So that is two good irons for me.
Others are early stages, no hitting off yet, but I kind of like the look of MrKite and MrFrisco looks like he could be a "safe bet", you know, perfect on paper and maybe boring if anything.