Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

Thanks all for helping me figure Theatre - I could not quite put my finger on it, but yes it is definitely the "am superior" thing that was weird. Oh well. He did say the "unoriginal" thing in a jokey way and asked what I thought if the "lidl" movie, but I am not in a hurry to answer now (movie was definitely on the sappy side).

Other iron - MrFondue - is quite goofy and just sent me a list of random facts about him. Very funny and refreshing, I think I will focus on that one.

Sassy fingers crossed for your date to go well! I remember going to meet Popcorn and thinking "fuck it at least I will get a cocktail out of this". We all know how that turned out but date 1 was great, so!

314 I think it is perfectly ok to do that, provided you do not throw him a five course meal with wine pairings. Keep it simple, get him to help out and you will not deliver the moose burger Or better yet, get him to pick up take away? Or bring the wine?

Lunch date was actually just what the doctor ordered. He was charming and funny and snapped me out of my funk pretty easily.

My only concern is that he is looking for a level of commitment / free time that I just couldn't give given his children are much older and mine simply aren't.

We shall see.

Sassy! sounds good! I know what you mean about the different ages of children/ levels of freedom, but we're all busy .......... jobs, kids.....
No reply from H. I don't care. I feel like it's a clue in the bigger picture so I'm not berating myself for not having waited 'til this evening to see if he texted me first, blah blah blah. That's all so tedious.

Sounds promisingsassy

Glad you had a nice lunch Sassy- deffo know what you mean with the ages-and-stages of parenthood/levels of freedom. I guess if he is a good'un then it'll just work. Bleurggh! There is SO MUCH to consider!!! Arrrrgghh!

There is, isn't there! so much to consider.
ARgh

OMG I have just found my primary school crush on OKC's Quickmatch!! Small world, huh.

Glad you had a lovely time Sassy!

Oh sassy nice,
Kids mine are 19 and 16,so I'm quite free,its the men that haven't been

Right, the next two dates are planned. But I feel much more comme ci comme ca about it all. (can't do cedillas). It'll either be great or it'll be OK and what I want matters too. I went for a job interview recently and they haven't got back to me. That job might be the perfect job for somebody but I don't even want that job and it was just interview practice. I feel much more on an even keel now than I did earlier. I blame my parents! :-p Particularly my Dad. He is so annoying.

I feel like I'm falling apart, sorry to bring the thread down. I think this latest rejection has just tapped into all my past issues. I feel like the only thing that will make me feel better is to get straight back on that horse, but I also know it's not the answer. I'm bored of sobbing, desperate to find out what changed Teach's mind and still desperately hoping it's all a mistake.

Wow, DeeDee47, the freedom you must have. My eldest is not yet 13 (although not far off).

Jolly oh I'd love that. Did you send a message?!

Waving Yes, both with H. Is that boring?! I don't mind. I have been anxious this weekend gone by but it has been more to do with my fucking parents tbh.

MyGast, stay on the thread. I've prattled on about my parents trying to talk me out of driving so we can be more than just listing off dates. I hope!
I'm not surprised you feel hurt, and upset. I would feel the same in your shoes. He mislead you and he lied to you. He is a piece of crap. Don't you start feeling crap. Or at least, try not to. It's so hard.

I know I'll be fine in a few days but it's getting there that's hard. No I haven't texted him, I don't really see the point. I've been shouty at the kids all day when all they're trying to do is make me feel better so I'm also crying at my apparent failure to parent. This is all my shitbag ex's fault really, Teach isn't really the problem.

List off the things that were weird about him. LIke, did you say he liked blow up dolls or somehting? whaaaaaaat? He's too weird for a normal girlfriend

gast I hesitate to suggest this, but have you tried counselling?

you're not bringing the thread down. We're all here to support each other through the good and the bad, right?

Come and vent here! I know I've snapped at my kids too Gast, for many reasons, but sometimes when they're not doing anything wrong, just asking questions that require a lot of thought and listening and my head is full of private thoughts.

Oh Gast so sorry you a feeling like this. Stay on here, I've no dates planned nor any irons...whatsoever. Still nice to stay on here. You will feel better bit by bit, day by day, just know this feeling will pass. Don't overthink the whys and wherefores, hes just a wanker.

I'm seeing a counsellor/therapist. This was all just meant to be a bit of fun, it wasn't meant to make me feel like this.

No, he wasn't into blow-up dolls, at least not as far as I know, that's just something extrapolated from what I said about the sex.

Who's in for seeing how many dates we can do with same guy without DTD? Believe me it's been a L-O-N-G time, and historically have never had any enough restraint so I don't hold much hope for myself but I will give it a go.....

I would wait about 3 weeks / 6 dates, something like that.