Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

gast nooooooo! That has to be meant for someone else surely? Has he read your message?

Like seriously. Are you sure? I'm in total shock so am thinking he has fucked up and sent it to you in error.....

Bloody hell gast.

WTF Gast?? I would be a lot less restrained replying to that text - well done you for taking the higher ground. What a massive asshole, block and on to the next guy!!

Sometimes OLD reminds me of the Yamz game, you know with having to check all those boxes before hitting the jackpot. Teach really checked the full twat one. One box closer to MrRight Gast!

On another note red I am loving your walk-of-shame update haha

I heard a text message alert whilst I was in the bath and I kept hoping it was him saying he'd sent it to the wrong person, but it wasn't and now I feel upset again. He hasn't even bothered replying. I honestly feel used and lied to. Not sure if I'm going to take a break from all this, I don't know if I'm strong enough to deal with rejection again. I'll still lurk on here whatever I decide.

Gast,know exactly how you feel..
Used,mislead,I say I'm going to take 6 months off now,my fragility might be damaging my future..
Be kind to yourself,you're worth so much more

Oh good god gast

Oh bloody hell.

Gobsmacked.

Can't think of what to say, I'm so shocked. Sorry this happened.

Another frog kissed, right?

Am impressed with your dates, Sassy ! Your parents 314 - wow. Love your dd.

I've worked literally every waking hour this weekend apart from the party. Feel exhausted and a bit - lonely. Cufflinks is in contact. Meh. Few lovely messages from MrFlight but no irons really. Bed and sleep for me.

Wow, Gast ouch. That is awful. Friends

I'd be tempted to send one back talking about him in the third person! like "I met this guy and he mislead me, made me think he was open to a romance, but he duped me..... " and then send another one, oops, that was for my friend.
Too petty!?

I am tempted to text back and say 'friends? You used me and lied to me, I don't take that crap from friends' but I won't.

I'm doing that awful thing of overanalysing every conversation we had, trying to work out what I said or did wrong.

FFS. I should just delete his number and move on.

gast my response would be to say 'you're rude and you know full well that your actions are out of order. I'll pass on the friends offer thanks. Please don't contact me again'

My less polite version that I would more likely send would be 'fuck you, you're a total Wanker' followed by alluding to his activity with blow up dolls due to his PIV issues.

Then I would block. Honestly you should have seen some of the blunt messages I sent tree after finding out that he was married.

gast you did nothing wrong. This isn't about you. That he didn't find you sexy / good enough yada yada. Unfortunately you just got played. Stay on the thread and take all the time you need.

This to some degree is why I feel 'meh'. My whole life I have been the type of person who innately trusts people. OLD (it is becoming clear) is the one place where innate trust has no place. And the 'meh' comes from a disappointment that there are so many people thinking it's ok to treat people badly.

I'll keep dating but one thing is clear. They are not making it into serious land until

1. I go back to theirs and see where they live, this visit will be relatively impromptu.
2. they show me their Facebook page.

I would have ZERO problems doing that with someone I liked and had gotten to know. If they resist / think I'm weird then that's their issue.

All the big deceivers on this thread so far (I think), did we get close to their homes?

tree nope, constantly angled for my house/ hotel/ trip away
dee yours met you halfway right?
gast did he come to yours all the time?

I'm livid for you. Just don't think this is you.

I wouldn't contact him again for a few days Gast. Set yourself a moratorium and see how you feel when you've reached it. In the meantime look after yourself really, really carefully. I wish I could help.

gast Totally and utterly not your fault, he had a game plan all along. He didn't want a relationship, no matter what he said, he lied. This happened to me on OLD first time round. It's devastating, but it does make you more cautious. sassy - great suggestions.

I'd be tempted to tell him it's a relief he'd broken it off because the sex really was not very good at all, more than likely due to the size of his miniscule penis, as you have only been used to far larger endowed men.

Yes I met mine half way,but he is on my facebook.
Was thinking Gast,I wonder if it was the sex thing,his pride?and thinking he better dump you before you dumped him?
Be good to have a mans view on this,as it seems very common,and by text,weren't you owed a phone conversation at least?
Yes I think a dignified silence is best now

Yes I wonder whether Teach is a prolific wanker, and as a result can't come from PIV, is ashamed of it and is running away from you as a result. Still makes him a spineless shit.

I think give yourself til Wednesday. Then compose your final message. Then block.

I feel exactly the same as Sassy with the trust thing. Cufflinks - lives in a shared house. I find that a bit odd. He must be quite nomadic going to women's houses and sleeping with them and never bringing them back to his house. I think that says a lot about him. I sent him a very long message last night, basically saying I don't trust him. I set out my stall and indicated my value and told him to come back after he was out of his phase of freedom and sexual experimentation never . I think the proverbial OLD 'thick skin' is an upfront needing to not actually trust these men until there is good reason to. I think the mantra is 'appraise, appraise, appraise' and don't let your emotional guard down til the last minute. But I also firmly believe you can't eat out all the idiots. It's just not possible. Hence some time for wound licking is appropriate but feeling stupid and analysing past conversations with these men should play no part.

Not heard back from Cufflinks. That's quite telling.

gast take the time you need but stay on the thread - absolutely.

'rat out all the idiots'

Oh tell me about it waving
I've learnt that the hard way and often think if I hadent,things might of been different

handy GREAT message to cuff links. Let us know if he replies.

waving am totally with you on the DTD unless I meet someone so wholly inappropriate and hot that I can't help myself . My absolute only saving grace with Tree is we hadn't been intimate in any way. Aside from some drunken public kisses. I don't think I ever told you what else I found out about him. Not only is he married, he had a baby pre Christmas. Yup, the whole time this man was messaging me over Christmas, his two week baby was with him. He still adamantly claims he is separated and texted me despite knowing how appalled I was.

There are absolute gems of men out there, but we absolutely need to wise up to how low some of these people are prepared to go in order to get their ends away.

Emotional guards up big time ladies.

dee how are you feeling?

waving & dee I could not agree more re sex thing. It really does change things massively, from both sides (we often like them more after sex, they often like us less).

.sassy at 2 week baby. What is up with these people??