Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

waving you guys have moved really quickly given that timeline. Have you considered taking a step back? Let him enjoy his holiday. Stop messaging and give you the headspace. And press reset on this face to face when he gets back.
If you and he are meant to be then a few weeks of cooling it are not going to hurt this. It must be utterly miserable thinking he is going to dump you when he gets back. You deserve so much more than that Hun.

Your EXH sounds like a piece of work. at the way he spoke to you!!! And I was at your other thread. My ex is starting to make noises about moving away for work so I think (just as I have done since separation) that he will do the bare minimum until the absolute is granted and then fuck off completely.

Welcome back dee, just a question. Do yu think he is married by any chance? Re men, They're on dating sites for a variety of reasons:

• married men are looking for sex
• men in LTR are looking for sex
• men rebounding from a LTR / marriage looking for sex (but not being honest about it)
• men looking for a genuine connection and possible relationship.

If you sift carefully, then chances are you will find most of the latter. There are lots.

314 how often does H leave before replying to you?

tanya nice approach with bee.

Sassy that's a great idea re cooling off period. Maybe that's the best thing for the Soho situation. Out of interest, why has he gone to Thailand alone? nosy Parker

MrFlight is messaging me from stateside - yum...

Toosassy, he just messaged me earlier actually. And I replied, so I'm back in the same boat again ! :-p ah, no, it's fine. It'll be fine.

Eloquent I'm so sorry lovey. You know that whatever happened, it was not your fault right? I hope you are getting lots of RL support and taking advice. Look after yourself and come back when you are ready.

Argh, what do I wear tonight? (On top of the new fancy pants I mean). He's coming here, I'm cooking a curry & watching a film so I don't want to be overdressed, but want to make some effort?

a plain top in a colour that flatters you, spend AGES on hair and make up. ie, "natural" :-p

Yeah, spot on, jeans but gorgeous top and amazing makeup.

Thinking of you eloquent, you're not alone.

eloquent I've only just caught up with the thread and I am so on your behalf- what a cunt ! Give yourself a few days, but then consider reporting him. Mostly give yourself a hug and know that we are all here for you .

Just heard from Cufflinks. And blown him out for tonight. Can't be arsed with the 'on what basis am i gonna be shagging you' deliberations. Dunno what happened jeez I'm a fickle beast!!!!!!!!

Will prob change my mind again next week. But hey ho.

2 hours to go, haven't heard from him cancelling yet so I guess we're still on. Had my hair cut today so I have fabulous hair, a fabulous new lipstick, gorgeous new underwear...Teach won't know what's hit him

Wine is chilling in the fridge, curry is smelling gorgeous in the slow cooker, what else have I overlooked?

Hoovering?

1 hour to go before I set off. Am showered and dancing around to YouTube in my underwear.

Nope, did all my tidying this morning !

Good luck Red!

Good Luck to all tonight!!

Is anyone else out tonight or is it just me and red? Good luck to anyone else too!

I'm going for my black lace blouse which can give surreptitious sneak peeks of raspberry underwear

Just wanted to update with my 2nd date with Mr Diamond..

He came to me yesterday (50 mile distance between us). I for presented with a bottle of wine and this .

We then went out to see some live music, and it was one of the funniest nights I've had with a guy.

He's a true gent and has said that he's looking for a relationship, but today he said that his job is getting him down (think 50/60+ hours a week) and he was contemplating going back to Wales (cheaper and obviously has connections there). My issue? Is he pre-warning me that it's not for real, or just saying it how it is?

The distance thing could be good and bad. I'm happy to see each other at weekends for now, but not sure how it could progress (if it does).

Gast good plan of action re outfit!

Good plan gast.

Lacoba the rose is a lovely touch. 2nd date? I'd enjoy the first few weeks for what they are.

Yeah, 2nd date but have to add that they've now both been overstayers .

He's a massive music buff, and I mean in a serious way-think previous tour manager style... We're not overly compatabile in that regard, but I get the impression that it's a biggie for him . I'm not planning to change my 'likes/dislikes' to accommodate, but he did endure 2 hours of stuff last night, that was not really him

3rd date has been arranged, so I think I need to chill...

Having sex early on would totally make me over-think everything.

So I'm ready, and I'm not going out until 6:40 (I offered to pick him up from the station). All I can do is fret now

Ooh, holding your hand gast

And yes red I may be over thinking because of the sex (pretty awesome ) but... I'm not sure if we are really more of a FWB, but don't know it yet? He's been 12 years out of a relationship (abusive, from what he's said).

I'm going to go and ponder...