Step inside the dating thread, 95

[MissPiggySeeksFrogwithGSOH]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches, and take from it what you will

My problem is almost the opposite, Teach said straight away that he wanted a girlfriend, it's me that's terrified to let my guard down. He's not big on texting but if we talk on the phone it's always for an hour or more, and we talk about all sorts of stuff. I don't necessarily want to scare him off by talking about not dating anyone else, but at the moment I don't feel right going on dating sites & talking to any new irons.

Wow, that's a massive intensity shift with Soho Waving.

Told Bee I was way to preoccupied with work over the next week or so to see anybody. And if we do meet, it's to discuss a professional project, not....anything else...

I may have made a real tactical error this time! I messaged H last night, three in a row, to match his one and now I'm slightly over thinking the silence. But he is away, so I can press hold on this one, this time. But I'm also aware that Bear would have laughed his ass off. So if H didn't laugh, then I can't push water uphill. H has told me he isn't scared NOt sure what to make of that. But if he were saying that (or another man, later) I think I'd need to know if it's their own inconsistent feelings that scare them. I've been scare before but what I'm really scared of is my own flighty feelings. I felt that with fake buddist broke artist.

*I can't say what I did/said/sent as it would out me if my friend is reading this. Or worse, if he mentioned it to somebody. I'd love to pm it though..... No replies required. Just two sentences to get it off my chest.

I don't know what to say really. I don't want to bring the thread down, I think I'll leave the thread.
I'm stopping dating after last night.
Please look after yourselves. Be careful at all times and make yourself heard.

Thanks waving!

Personally I think that level of honesty is who I've always been with him, and rationally I know he's away. I was in Lorca after date three with Bear and I hardly gave him a thought, which was why that trip away was so good for me. Clearing my thoughts.

He assaulted me (according to the nurse)
Nothing violent, I'm not hurt physically.
Just violated and hurt mentally.

Waving, did you get it?

Ah, I didn't realise that the purpose of his trip was to find himself. Wow. He is on a journey isn't he?

Eloquent hope you're ok

Tanyadm, glad that you've got another date with Bee. I wonder if he's tidied up his back yard a bit.

I haven't and I won't. But he's admitted it over text, so I have proof if I change my mind.
I'm going to see my cousin. Good distraction.
And thank you x

Oh my goodness, Eloquent, are you ok? Obviously not, stupid question.

Don't leave, let us support you.
xx

314, it really, genuinely won't be a date with Bee, it's a work-related thing.

Morning Ladies,

Hope all is well with you,im still not good a week after my lovely date,we have been in contact,but now wants to leave me alone for a bit as he doesent want to get my hopes up,im saddened,we were in touch every day,several times,the loss is huge.

Eloquent...im thinking of you and hope you are ok

everyone else with dates tonight good luck

oh i have a question.... why are these men on dating sites? is is as they want hook ups?? or is it theyre way of saying theyre not into you if they dont want anymore?

Eloquent I'm totally shocked and appalled. You poor thing, keep company around you for the next few days try not to be alone. I just can't believe it. Please don't go from the thread. Make sure he doesn't get away with this. Report him to all the dating sites too. Fucking bastard......

Gosh Eloquent, so sorry, hope you're ok. Huge hugs X

Dee, I have had the same experience with Bee, and it's really difficult to go from having built what seemed like a quick bond with someone to be almost rejected. I think it's the sweetshop mentality of online dating, and people having a dream ideal in their head of what they're going to find, so even if they do like you, they're hanging on to a childish ideal.

Report it if you can handle it eloquent
Do you know his real name?

Is this the guy who came across as ''sweet''?

Take care.

eloquent when you feel able, please report this nasty bastard to the police and the dating sites.

In the meantime don't be alone, keep people with you. Do what you need to do. Staying on here will probably be very hard? I'm at a loss to know what more to say. Devastated for you.

Thank you all.
Yes. He was lovely and sweet and charming. Even after the fact.
I'll catch up with you all in a few days.
Take care x

eloquent I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. If you can face it at the bare minimum consider reporting him to whichever site you met him on.
Whatever goes through your mind in the next few days, just know that NOTHING justifies assault. and come back whenever you want to. You won't bring us down.