Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Thanks, I'll be getting a relatively early bus home, so I promise a 10.30 bus update!

tanya look forward to your update.

I'm so nervous atm. Even though there's no reason to worry (yet). Date planned for next week.

I've realised that what I normally do is feel connected to somebody like Bear who quite likes me, or likes me but doesn't want a relationship (bingo) and then I go about trying to make them like me just that little bit more. This is what I've always done. It never works. But it's a familiar dynamic for me.

H on the other hand seems to really like me already and that's terrifying me. Normally with men I have this erroneous belief that if they get to know me better, they'll like me more. Ha ha. With H I'm afraid that the more he gets to know me, the less certain he'll be about me. He's so together.

Also of course in his own way, he has raised the physical compatible concern that must also be on his mind. I fancy him a lot! But what if his great big willy impales me.

So a couple of things to be nervous about. But it's time for a cup of tea. that always helps..

waving I know it's embarrassing and I got my answer but I told bear straight out that he was "not what I was looking for". This took him aback, and the conversation led on to what I was looking for. As you know, it didn't make him step up but I did get my answer and I did feel like I had integrity or something. I felt less apologetic about wantinng what I want than if it was all left unsaid. I hope you get answers from soho today. Although Mrwriter sounds better!

Remind me how tall you are again, 314?!

I'm off the proper tea today, just herbal! On account of no gin handy.

A whole foot taller!

I didn't go looking for this height difference. He messaged me and I really like him! so I'm not going to hand him back :-p

Aww, you're dinky! I don't think height is a thing to be worried about really. Not really, really.

The penniless artist who I mentioned upthread, his willy was enormous, it was ridiculous. I was in bits and it wasn't funny. He was only 5'9" and his was easily the biggest. If H's is to that scale, I don't know... :-p sorry to be so vulgar.

My ex-partners have mostly been around the 5'10" to 6ft height, and similarly endowed, but don't think that's evidence of it being proportional.

Bee is a 5'9" artist..... With a day job though!

I know plenty of couples with big height differences and they seem to manage without problematic impaling :o

Suppose I better think about cooking my wee people's dinner and getting ready. Have been procrastinating by doing work!

The day job makes a big difference! I ending up subbing Mr Artist/fake buddist.

bear messaged me and I just told him I had to break my old pattern of hankering after people who don't like me enough or don't like me in the right way, so, ''bye :-(" and then I quit skype. I have his number but I don't think he'll contact me again now I've quit skype.

Feels like cutting a cord. No going back.

Now I have to do some exercise.

Shred level one waving it's been so long. I remember it starts with push ups. Only Jillian Michaels, level one ! the first shmooov is push ups.

I've just worked out I have 6 irons in the fire not including the now silent MrCS who was my top contender but sadly not anymore.

Armchair has messaged me today telling me I'm awesome and asking when he can see me again.

There's MrIT who it's all quite laid back and unflirty with, not sure if any of it will go anywhere but we've got a lot in common so we'll see.

Then there's NiceTits who seems very keen, his profile is lovely but his pictures don't really do it for me. Am I really that shallow? Plus he's nearly 2m tall so will absolutely swamp me.

Then there's Para who's only really interested in a shag, but he's very, very fit so I'm tempted .

Then there's J1 who I think I'm meeting next week. He seems nice and at 5ft 6 is much closer to me in height.

J2 is a bit of a boy toy but might be fun.

I've also got to organise something with Sparks who seems nice, had a few flirty exchanges, nice looking, local to me, could be a winner.

I've also got TheSwinger making overtures at me, he is amazingly good looking so what the hell does he want in me. I'm not really sure swinging is my thing but it's quite interesting chatting to him, not in a serious way.

I think I need a spreadsheet! That's more than 6 isn't it

To be honest I'm not sure I can keep up with it myself, but it's nice to have options for a change. After 6 years with an emotionally abusive arsehole of a husband I think I deserve it.

Wow Gast, absolutely, why shouldn't you have some fun!

Well done, 314, know that couldn't have been an easy step.

I only have one iron in the fire right now. But I have to start driving and I have a job interview later in the week. seriously, no more poking the fire for more men right now. Will I be kicked off the thread!?

tanyadm yeh, I couldn't believe it when my finger pressed 'quit skype' but it's done now.

mygast my x was abusive (over 8 years ago now) and althoguh I'm good at keeping assholes at bay now, I still find it a bit 'intrusive' to have somebody be really interested, kind, generous, thoughtful and nice to me. Can't explain it.

314 that part about feeling a connection only with someone who isn't really into me is my dynamic too, good for you drawing a clean line under Bear.

I love the phrase 'problematic impaling' trills - we all need to try and get that into a work based conversation tomorrow!

gast lots of irons definitely a good idea, stops you getting too hung up about any of them. Although I don't recommend back-to-back dates!

So excited for you tanya - big breath!

Just got back from my lunch date with Mr Blond. It was very nice, lots on the menu , plus some good conversations about the 'R word'.

Evening all

Looking forward to tanya update.

Is waving also seeing soho today?

Anymore dates?

314 go you! That can't have been easy. You ok?

gast I like your style. I think my optimum number is 2 to 3 max.

lazy welcome to the thread.

tree messaged me despite my asking him to not to. He got exceptionally short shrift and is now blocked. He claims he can prove legal separation to me. Too little too late, trust is blown unfortunately and just not going there.

I have a new date confirmed for this week. Wednesday lunch with MrGiant (he's 6"5'). His manners are impeccable and I'm getting clear signals he's an alpha male. Bring it on.

I'm also trying to get another one firmed up for next weekend. Lets call him mr blueeyes (think that one is self explanatory)

Phew. It's like having a second job!

Ooooo. twiggy spill!!! What was said?

Oh wow, go Twigs! And Waving has gone suspiciously quiet.

Ok Bitches, I've not heard from MrCity who said he was going to get in touch this weekend to confirm our Tuesday Eve date. He was going to get in touch by phone. Last I heard from him was on Whatsapp at midnight Fri - he replied 'ha!' In response to something I said.

I should sit on my hands, right?

I do have a date organised for Fri Eve!!! Woop!! With MrTiles. I like him because sounds pretty sorted and functional and is a great cook and is busy. And complimentary. And he suggested the date. Woop! Getting somewhere! Finally! A date! It's been 4 weeks!!! Must organise babysitter...