Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Twiggy, I am nervous to the point of nausea/shaking!

I have a flat to clean and an article to write, so will try and keep busy in the meantime!

314 there's ten inches between me and Mr Blond - no, not those ten inches - and I felt little on Thursday, but he didn't seem to find it an issue. Guess it will be heels all the way to the carvery this lunchtime! Really hope he stacks up as a daytime date as well.

Sometime you like somebody and it's not right physically and sometimes it works physically but not emotionally. I think this is so true, hard to put into RL terms though - if you DTD too quickly there's a whole raft of issues ahead, yet if I waited too long, really built up an emotional connection but the sex was then awful I'd be gutted.

I'm 5ft0 and most of my dates are over 6ft, it's not anything I've deliberately gone looking for it's just how it is.

Armchair was really sweet, would love to be his friend but not sure if there's anything else there. Will probably meet him again if he's keen to see.

I think CheekyChef is attached so he's blocked.

Whilst I was waiting for Armchair last night I was bemoaning being stood up to someone else and they asked if I wanted him as an alternative!

I'm going to have to hide my profile on some sites, I've actually lost count of how many irons I've got in the fire. The problem is fitting them all in, the boys only go to their dad's every other weekend.

Ugh waving I feel your pain I'm exactly like that insecure when I don't hear from teacher but then when I see him I'm under no illusion that he likes me, what is that about.

the longer I don't see him the more I worry about things. I so know this feeling from my time with Coffee - absolute carbon copy of Soho.

Sure someone said something on one of these threads about 'if it doesn't make you feel good then don't do it' - does Soho make you feel good, or does the anxiety outweigh the good times?

I'm 5ft0 and most of my dates are over 6ft, it's not anything I've deliberately gone looking for it's just how it is.

Lucky you!

I am 5'7 and have to pay attention to people's height. I don't necessarily need to feel "Little" but I don't want to feel like I am the larger person (which is easy enough if someone is 5'10 and skinny).

gast pleased you have identified a possible friend in armchair, I've never felt like that about any of my dates.

I think the anxiety unfortunately increases the more you feel like a good thing could be at stake. So the "doesn't feel good" rule has to be applied on a case by case basis... . Plus the nerves so often have excitement and anticipation underlying them.

Not that I am projecting or anything...

choccy happy days re MrRugby - yey!

gast nice to have met someone with friend potential.

tanya so exited for this evening. Hope today passes quickly.

waving I mean this very kindly, Soho may have said the word 'relationship' but still isn't offering anything of anything of substance. Still has you second guessing. Info think he's a player and am hoping someone lovely pops up while he's away who is able to meet your requirements a bit better.

Twiggy have you been in touch with your chap? (sorry, forgot his name) ???

I've heard nothing for a couple of days from MrCity, although we had a vague plan to meet Tuesday evening. Was a vague plan to chat by phone yesterday evening but spent the evening with a friend instead.

I have been chatting to another guy, MrTiles who is keen to meet this week. Might channel my inner Bitch and ignore MrCity and schedule in MrTiles instead!

That's true tanya, but for me there are different types of anxiety re contact. Or lack of it!

With Coffee I was willing myself not to look at my phone because I didn't want to know he hadn't texted iyswim.

With Mr Blond it's more of an excited anxiety because he doesn't make me feel insecure.

handy - it's Mr Blond and we're off for lunch soon. Exchanged quite a few nice flirty texts and I'm all warm and excited now

Yey!!! I wanted to say MrBlond! Hope it's a really lovely lunch with afters

I have a cold at the moment. I can't actually meet anyone in this state!

So do I handy

Waving I think you are right, he's probably not deliberately "acting", he's just doing what comes naturally to him.

Morning everyone.! tanya and twiggy today's the day - Bee & Blonde! Yay. Good luck, don't forget to update. Are you nervous?
I think I need to not log in for a while, not getting anywhere and its becoming a bit addicting to keep checking the sites. Doing my head in, for want of a better phrase! Contemplating Match or eharmony, I'm on OKc at the moment, Tinder and Bumble. Is it worth paying for sites IYE?

My experience of Match is that's it's completely pants. I wouldn't bother.

Bumble is quiet. No idea re eharmony.

I'm so nervous. Even though he said there is no need for nervousness, then followed it by "said the pot to the kettle". He's quite a sweet, heart on sleeve type. If it works in real life, it could be amazing. But I keep telling myself real life hasn't happened yet.

Oh tanya keep saying it's just a date, it's just a date. If he's not what you expected then you are no worse off than when you began OLD, if he does turn out to be as you expected and the spark is there then it's all been worth it! Yay! Don't blame you for being nervous though, first dates terrify me! They terrify most people. The nerves will go 2 mins into the date.

Just a date, just a date, just a date, just a date. You know what though, even if there is no relationship potential/spark, I think we'd be awesome friends, so I'm just going to think about it as meeting a friend for a drink.....

Good luck Tanya hope it's awesome

good idea! tanya

Tanya, I'm not surprised you're nervous. When you really like someone before you meet them, there's so much more at stake. I hope Bee's as lovely in real life as he has been in his messages. Can't wait to read your update later!

Prizey, I used Match a few years ago and met someone who I had an 18-month relationship with. I might join again in a couple of months if I have no luck on GS. But overall there weren't many people on it who I liked the look of.

Waving, if I'm seeing someone, I like messages every day too. I had a relationship with a man who didn't text often, and it made me really anxious. Good communication is vital for me.