Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Welcome pissed of course, the more the merrier!

Yeah! Thats a date alright pissed - go you!!! We definitely need a nickname...MrWellie?

Mr Wellie! Like it.

Had a lovely night in drinking wine with a mate.

Just popping to say: gast you are some woman! Like your style!!!!!

Are you having a date or are you being a wingman?

They are kind of opposites.

See how it goes pissed and have no expectations. The wingman thing may be a cover up to get you on a date. But it kind of puts you on a back foot to begin with tbh. Make sure you are wearing your Rhino hind. If he starts eying up other women, do one and get out of there, and move on, you deserve better.

So armchair is very, very sweet, not uneasy on the eye but didn't start any fires in me. I'll probably see him again as he's lovely to talk to. He's not looking to get involved so I'm not worried about breaking his heart. We had a snog & it was lovely.

Fell asleep at 10:30 in a sulk because my Netflix wasn't working you can't be single and have no Netflix it's too cruel!!! Just popped in to see if there were any up"dates". Glad you had a nice time with armchair gast. Welcome to you pissed

Well, we went out for a meal, one glass of wine each, coffee, he drove me home, he came in for a cup of tea and after a good chat, he's just left. Plan to go out on Thursday! We also glossed over (in a humorous way) some of our earlier dates, he said he had a fight about politics with one woman. I can't imagine it. Anyway, he knows that casual sex is not for me, and he actually wants both too. Mind you I did feel a bit intimidated when he said sometimes you like somebody and it's not right physically and sometimes it works physically but not emotionally. I feel like he is looking for it all too. So at least we're both looking for the same thing. He's so much bigger than me. Well my exes being six foot never caused a problem. I wonder if two inches more height difference will be problematic. I don't know if we will get to that point. We're moving slowly but I like that.

Now I will read all of your updates.

I think a Bitch would be too busy being fabulous to even ask him if today is still on Waving. I am glad I don't use WhatsApp, I don't need that extra layer of madness!

Yes, not long. So very nervous, but we have messaged this morning already, so no question of it being called off. :)

Ah, Waving, you like the bearded sort? I normally don't...

I don't know how you would broach the holiday question. Maybe a Bitch wouldn't and would essentially pretend he didn't exist while he was away. But I can see how that could present all sorts of mental torture. Maybe it will come up as a fairly natural question if you see him today and it's going to be the last time before his hol?

Morning all

waving the last time you met you said you ended up having a serious conversation and he used the word relationship. If I was in your shoes right now I'd be direct and just ask what you want to ask.

Something along the lines of 'so listen, we've been seeing one another for x weeks/ months. I like you. What is this we have?'. Feel free to precede it with 'this is a zero pressure discussion' or something along those lines.

Anyone with any degree of EQ and maturity should be able to answer that question openly without looking for the nearest emergency exit.
And he shifts uncomfortably / looks for the nearest exit/ avoids discussion then you have your answer.

In my view bitch mode is also about being very clear about what you yourself need and want and being confident in yourself to ask those questions. You're giving him mental, physical and emotional energy. You have every right to have this convo.

That's my tuppence worth any how's.

Have had a fair few matches on Happn and in process of arranging dates with two of them.

Right off to catch up on rest of thread. Have fab Sunday's all

Aye, that approach works, Sassy.

Just had a very eligible match on OKC, but not messaging as I can't deal with that today!

I feel your pain with Netflix chatty, what's that all about?!?

tanya I'm feeling all nervous for you tonught, how are you bearing up? Can see you don't want the distraction of messaging anyone else ftb.

waving I like to plan ahead too, I think maybe in the past that has come across as wanting to rush things, but I'd be quite happy if someone said I can't see you for X days but Y is a definite, even if Y was ages away. I do think people - men - don't think about how hard it is to juggle kids, work, family, friends etc. It's so hard isn't it - you just want to know where you stand, so you can move forwards, with or without Soho. But does asking outright leave you in a more vulnerable position because you're showing your hand?