Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

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We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Sassy I'm not good,seems a terrible low after a high.
Feel an imposter on this thread now,but all your tales are keeping my mind off things
Oh and I have heard from him today,which made me cry again,but I'm staying strong

Fuck that Jolly.

I should put my PhD on my profile, make sure to weed out the people who would be intimidated by it.

DeeDee don't feel like an imposter. I have not been on any dates this year, and I can't ever keep track of what everyone is up to, but everyone is being nice to me anyway :)

Trills that opener about feminine and explorable - total boakfest.....

Where's the projectile vomiting emoticon??

Would it be wrong to amuse myself by replying to people correcting their spelling and then block them?

Not genuine spelling mistakes, that might be a little mean, but lazy usage of "u" instead of "you".

I would chat to an anyhoo-er.

always looks a bit sick to me.

Teach has made contact and we're trying to organise another date.

Aww, Gast that's brilliant news

Woop!

That's great news gast!!!

I had a random message from someone in America the other day saying that's I looked very wholesome and would make a good mother for his children!!

No dates on the cards for me so far this week, the sex midget has been messaging me on whatsapp though saying he will be back in the country next month and would I like to meet up again! I have managed to be very non-conmittal so far but I will probably be busy the whole time he is here
Have been chatting to an army guy at the base near us but we have both been completely upfront that it is purely a hookup so am quite relaxed about it all, just need to arrange something for when he is on rest from work

Too much has been going on for me to mention everyone xx

hookup thing - I so wish I was brave enough

Haha Trills you have inspired my response: fuck you. No actually scratch that - go fuck yourself. ^^ Very liberating. I would say we are perfectly entitled to become arrogant and snarky bitches after all the crap messages that are being binned on us every day.

Yay Gast that is great! Whoop whoop!

Lacoba sounds like you had a great time! And congrats on the "let's see where that goes" spirit!

Twiggy don't you dare leave the thread, success stories are needed round here!

Red fingers crossed your date is going well. Loo (or bush) update please!

Handy I agree that Skype seems to make some men go .. Overboard. But then you would want to know that before traveling that far to meet him so I say go for it. Dim lights, a bit of lipstick, a putting the laptop a bit higher than usual can do the trick if you are worried about how you look.

Sassy arranging a date is so complicated, rawwwr. Hopefully it will be worth it!

Dee stay strong & on the thread please! You will get back into OLD so at least save yourself a terrible catching up to do when we all move to #95.

I made the mistake of logging in on OKC last night and now I have a bunch of half drunk half dirty messages jamming my inbox. Damn.
No news on IKEA since we said we would reschedule. But that was completely expected. I don't know if he is not into me or just isn't that in a hurry to see me. He definitely is a goofball.
I am on holidays next week warmth and sun here I come so will deal with him when I get back. Hopefully we will do that second date before I send Popcorn the getting back in touch text.

Oh god I never thought about that re Skype! Am SO naive!!!!!

Not sure I could do Skype to be honest. Also, didn't someone say earlier that they thought that Skype showed your other connections/people in your address book? Or I may have made that up .

Mr Diamond works very long days and lives over an hour away by car, so it will probably just be a weekend 'thing' which is fine by me, but I won't be giving up any weekends with mates in order to fit him in.

Bless him, he messaged at 7.30pm to say he was going for an early night .

Twiggy & Dee I agree- you should stay on the thread! Whether dating or not everyone can still add valuable insight.

Trills, I was communicating for ages with a man who had a phd. I wasn't intimidated by it, I contacted him because I thought he had a very good profile. Even though I thought we got on well messaging on whatsapp, he didn't want to meet me! He lived near me and we could have met for coffee, but I hinted and he didn't take the bait. :-/ He was the one I reverse googled and found on linkedin. I tipped him off about this as his phd was in ''on line intelligence'' or something.

I don't have a degree but I've put that I have one. Excuse that lie. I wouldn't put it on my cv but it's one of those instances where telling a lie actually gives a clearer picture. Bear and H both have masters. So it's working, I think.

twiggy and dee I'm not up to much at the moment and I couldn't leave the thread!. But I'm going to try and pluck up the courage on Tuesday to ask H if I am the only person he's seeing. If he says no, I'm seeing somebody else as well, I think I'll back away. I don't think he is, but don't assume what you hope is true.

:o Phd in online intelligence, doesn't know not to use the same picture on LinkedIn and dating sites. Brilliant.

Lacoba66, I nearly sent this thread to bear on skype. I had mumsnet open and wanted to go in to skype and I clicked on the wrong 's', I clicked on the one at the top of the page! My heart clinched. I felt dizzy. Ten seconds later there was a THUD when

my heart finally started beating again.

I had exited out of the option to send contact the thread. I had to go and lie down.

Trills, I know! I couldn't resist! But I was really nice about it.

deedee You are right to have told him that there's no point being in touch if he can't offer you anything. It is a week since I told Bear I wasn't going to be able to chat to him any more. I feel so much better now.

Sunday's daytime date turned a bit evening date and night-time date too. Only just managed to tear myself away and send him home.

Casual intimacy and not-so-casual intimacy both achieved

red Great update!!!

Happy Monday to my fellow daters!

Liking the update Red . Any plans yet for a re-match?

Lovely news Red my goodness there's a lot of PDA going on this thread at the minute!!! Yey!!!!