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tanyadm · 08/01/2016 22:57

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin
  3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens
  5. Trust your gut instinct
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
  8. If it's not fun- stop
  9. Loo update is mandatory
10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.
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PrizeyPrize · 09/01/2016 11:10

Oh tanya....why do they even think that approach would work?

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 11:12

Aye, I'm leaning towards it that one too. Thanks ladies!

Match is very hit or miss, in my experience, reasonable numbers, but quite expensive, and the quality isn't there for me. But....I wasn't overly enamoured by OKC to start with, as the design is quite poor, but you just need to find the golden nugget at the right time, so maybe that will happen on Match for you. I think Match are doing a tenner a month deal at the moment, I got it last week, anyway.

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 11:14

I have no idea. If Bee is playing a game, he is playing it to perfection - long, beautifully written, very open messages, lots of questions, has the mirroring thing down to a T.

Who looks at someone's profile - especially of a woman who self identifies on it as a feminist - and comes out with that claptrap. Cockwomble of the highest order.

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 11:23

Though I did worry more about self-identifying as a horse rider, in case some pervs who like being whipped came out of the woodwork....

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Trills · 09/01/2016 11:37

Hola.

I am failing to get any dates, think I need to be a bit more proactive.

It's all very well to say "if they like you, they will chase you" but at this stage they don't yet know whether they like me. So all conversations seem to be trailing off, apart from one who we'll call Mr HongKong (because that's where he is right now, so no dates til he's back).

I'm going to go send some first messages. Wish me luck.

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Oh, but I have had an offer of a servant with a foot fetish... This was the opening message...

Hello, I'm Andrew. I will take a chance and ask what do you feel about having a servant for use as a tool at your discretion ? I am obedient, submissive and with a foot fetish and would love to hear back from you. Have a nice day and sorry for my interruption!

Trills · 09/01/2016 11:56

tanya I LOVE the top with the flirty shoulders.

Chattycatty · 09/01/2016 12:19

i had one guy who said "hey mommy" I actually replied to him asking if that line works???? Apparently he had a high success rate with it!!!

Trills · 09/01/2016 12:24

Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwww

MyGastIsFlabbered · 09/01/2016 12:53

Well I have a date with a new contender tonight MrItaly will report back later. Now I have to panic about what to wear!

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 13:10

Hooray, Gast, good luck!

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Trills · 09/01/2016 13:15

If we are doing fashion - what do you think of this top?

I'm thinking of it as a way to show a bit of skin without going cleavagey.

I haven't pulled it quite so far down my arms as the model has though it's more just as the top corner of my shoulders.

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 13:18

Oh, that's like my maroon one from Debenhams, you can wear it like that, which I don't, or higher up like you've said. It's really flattering.

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 13:22

My new jeans and body arrived, and they're v.nice. so it's the all black combo tomorrow, I reckon.

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MississippiMud314 · 09/01/2016 14:11

I wouldnt show off bear shoulders early on. That's my vho

i hope that doesnt sound too frank !

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 14:13

I never bear shoulders, but that is more about my physical confidence than dating etiquette. Outfit duly tried on, comfy and casual enough to feel good and not look try hard, with a degree of slink. Bring it on...

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 09/01/2016 14:38

I really don't know what to wear, because I haven't really flirted with MrItaly I do feel I can unleash my slink, but I don't want to just wear jeans and converse which is my standard casual uniform. Is there anything in between?

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 14:40

My outfit is mostly jeans and Converse! But with a slightly less casual top than I would usually wear, and nice undies (no, I won't be, just to make me feel good!)

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Trills · 09/01/2016 15:05

I don't wear it with the shoulders as bare as that - it's more at this level.

Totally agree about nice underwear making you feel more attractive and more confident, even when nobody but you is going to see them.

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 16:04

Bee is not making this easy for me! With a bit of a gear shift from what has been fairly intense and personal chat, to just openly cute flirtation this afternoon. Sigh.

To the point where I saw RedDrummer logged in to Match for the first time in weeks, and had zero reaction, and he was the front runner for actual months.

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PrizeyPrize · 09/01/2016 16:44

Awww Tanya any talk of meeting up yet?

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 16:53

With Bee? Oh yes, we have a date tomorrow evening. So it's un-nerving that he's switched into cute mode the day before it. It's like he's read the equivalent book of WMLB, but for men....

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 16:55

Like....Why women love cute, intelligent, creative men in touch with their feelings.... WWLCICMITWTF.... The abbreviation doesn't work QUITE so well. apart from the last three letters! Grin

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MyGastIsFlabbered · 09/01/2016 16:56

What time are people off tonight? I'm getting picked up at 8

Twiggy789 · 09/01/2016 16:57

waving - I have heeded your words of warning and said no to meeting My Blond tonight, but agreed to lunch. Need to make sure this works on daytime dates/without vodka. How was this afternoon - I sent positive vibes to you at 2pm!

All black is my go-to tanya, feel confident with skinnies and tight top, wouldn't mind bearing my shoulders though tart. Bought a whole host of new underwear before Christmas, being ever the optimist. Why do even the nicest of men resort to those cat and mouse games? Perhaps Bee is as nervous as you are, and wants to keep it lighthearted until you meet tomorrow. Bet none of them stress over the outfit situation the way we all do!

So exciting gast - love it when a new contender appears out of the blue! Any outfit ideas yet?

Can't believe you didn't put down your phone and run to Mr Foot as fast as possible trills; don't want him to get snapped up by anyone else Hmm

Three hours and counting 314....

Any update on Mr Teacher, chatty?

Feel bad, but have blown out Mr Pole for tonight - not literally Grin. He wants to rearrange but just left it at that. Off for an Indian with a DD tonight, will be a very welcome change from all the dates recently!

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tanyadm · 09/01/2016 16:57

Good luck, Saturday daters! Where are you going Gast?

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