Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

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We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

red when did you last hear from Foaf?

Well, I seriously need to chill out. I think a combination of some tough days at work and a rotten cold have led to me feeling needy losing the plot. He sent a lovely text this morning, short and very sexy sweet so I really do just need to relax. Your comments Sassy about the slow down of texting are very accurate I think.

I am going to treat myself to a Netflix binge and a pamper session.

I second this question! I'm going to hunker down and nurture myself through this cold.

Oops, the question was, Who's out tonight then?

Hi everyone!! waving I agree with sassy on the FB thing, mystery always wins!
So answer me this riddle. Curly and I still on WhatsApp, conversation is decidedly slow, boring really. He asked for more photos, given I have 4 and a full length one I thought and I rather sarcastically said why don't you send me some of you? He did.....loads of them looking REALLY fit. So I sent him a couple of me, and he sent more of him and now asking if I have more of me....WTF is all this about? Weird, feel like saying - how about a proper conversation sunshine?

Oh wow, just checked the last photo - him with naked torso....no face showing. Once again, acts all cute then 2 days into WhatsApp, trying to play table tennis with naked selfies....FFS! Block! Why does this keep happening to me???

I said to him to "put some clothes on for God's sake, its too cold!"

So,London didn't text until 11,30, so, I've only just replied and he read it instantly. But didn't reply.
Oh dear. Think I'm in his bad books. Ooops.
What do you guys think about us asking to meet them? For a first date? I'm sick of the waiting around. I'm an independent woman ffs! Haha.

Eloquent, he could be driving? I often check messages at lights and in traffic, but can't reply till I've finished driving.

If you feel comfortable then I'd say go for it, goes agains WMLB rules but they aren't necessarily for everyone.

He's in work. Gets the tube. He doesn't drive. He's pretty childish like this (same as I am haha)

I know I shouldn't have done this but I got an email from h earlier so I finally figured out how he spelt his sur name. I put his name in to facebook and up he comes. close to 500 friends. From three different countries, maybe more. Most of them women. And 62 of them added in 2015. That's more than one a week. Who the hell are all these people. It's making me suspicious, especially as he's not attempted to add me on fb. I don't think I'd want that. He was so lovely last night though. SO lovely. I am not going to snoop again. I feel ok. I can't wait to go out tonight with my DC for a burger and sweet potato fries. Tomorrow night, my friend. Sunday rest. Tuesday - H!

calm down it's all fine. i hate facebook

Just ordered the book.

Oh ladies I need some encouragement.

Date tonight with MrTiles, but feeling like I've been hit by a bus after the best-friend bust up. Been sleeping badly and literally look like the undead. Been for a run but hasn't helped. Never felt less like going out dating. But at the same time I have the urge to get out of this blinking annoying town. I have no mojo! Please help me with my mojo cos right now I just wanna stay in my jeans and hide on the sofa with my kids!

I've never added a guy I've dated to fb. O have to be serious for that.

However. Last week I was stalked on there by a psycho. Nearly calling the police kind. We met on the previous sat, alright date, got on well, but his eyes kept glazing over, I realise now he was probably on something. Anyway, he messages immediately after and I ask him what he thought of me. And he said
"not what o expected"
I asked how and he said
"meh".
And I said cheers, take it that's because I refused to fuck you.
He then tells me to top myself. Block him. He texts me constantly for hours while I ignore him. Tries calling me over and over. Eventually stopped half way through Monday.
I've kept the screenshots just in case.

Handy woman, put on some good music and wiggle that ass happy!

Handy, that would have upset me too. I don't care now, but if a friend had sided up to or palled up to my x (children's dad) it would be like saying ''i don't believe your version of events'' or, worse, it doesn't matter much to me that he verbally, emotionally and financially abused you for years".

that is totally incompatible with being your friend.

SO,,,, I'm not surprised it has knocked you.

ps, I think a few days of hunkering down in your pjs can be just what you need. Postpone mojo til next week. Delete that Judas friend from FB

handy, date first though, then hunker down in pjs. Mrtiles might giz you up

Wow eloquent! what a nightmare.

Oh blimey 314 I'd be a bit suspich too, you sure that is definitely him? I guess so because you've met him so you can match his photo etc, so sorry for being obvious, but just a thought. Don't feel bad for snooping we all do it

Thanks scarf yeah that is what I was thinking, he hasn't even asked me what I do for a living - I asked him where he worked and he said the town , blocking him soon but I'm holding out for another torso shot, that boy is FIT....but obviously not boyfriend material

eloquent further up this thread is a PDF of it (completely free) if you can stand reading it from a screen? I agree, hold out a bit more on the date thing, trying to think of some good hints to make, but my minds gone blank, I'm sure someone will have a great one for you.

Handy keep strong, try not to drink too much, however tempting it is, that will help with your sleep. I've been in the worse dark place for months leading up to Christmas, but I have found swimming as much as I can fit in, not drinking so much, keeping busy, plenty of MN has kept me sane, and I've also noticed a huge difference since I've been taking St Johns Wort....anxiety levels and depression seem to be really lifted. Worth a try?

oh it's him all right prizey I'm trying to figure out if it means anything. Maybe it's just that my first impression of him was that he was a tiny bit of a sweet nerd, wholesome man. He's actually an alpha male. He was showing me his personality type on email, a test he'd taken and his personality type was the commander. I guess maybe I can't believe somebody so popular would like me. Maybe that's all it is.

Oh scarf I've never done the reverse image search, sounds like fun

Or maybe he just meets loads of people through work, clubs, sports. The number of FB friends doesn't indicate his popularity, necessarily, I don't think.

Quick heeeeeelp: IKEA confirmed our second date at 2.30 pm and says we can do drinks for 2h or so but then he will go meet his friends... What would a bitch respond to that?