Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Hello everyone where is Dee ?

I have a date tomorrow!! Woop!! MrTiles! He's been messaging consistently every day and seems to - care? Nice!

Got a couple of others on the go but not sure how keen they are.....

Waving I would definitely get online. You haven't had the exclusive chat so why not?? It'd be a good diversion. You never know...

I have a date next wed and next friday!

Best dust off the glad rags.

Teach has just messaged me...and stupidly I'm now grinning from ear to ear

Aw, MGIS is in lurve haha.

Has he said why he's not been in contact?

I;m currently having a discussion with london about rapists. As you do

Woo this is quiet.. How many of you are on dates???

Waving with 4 weeks off you should definitely enjoy OLD.

Gast yay! Sounds promising!

Soooo I think Ikea is going to cancel tomorrow since he said he has people over. He says it is very last minute and somehow I think he is being honest. Oh well. Anyhow in the meantime, read tonight I have been chatting to this guy who is just passing through and he offered coffee tomorrow. I think I am going to say yes, he could be my "getting back on track" guy.. Should I go?

Playing thread catch up.

Gast nice update. Any lead contenders?
Yay re teach!

eloquent no one on this thread has so far judged any other poster over what they are looking for. Based on where we are in our lives, we are looking for vastly differing levels of commitment! Good work on the dates!

waving yes I've met mr French. First date was yesterday. He's funny as hell and has been in touch fairly consistently since our date. This consistent messaging is a new one on me!
Re soho, I'd get back online and be active. 4 weeks apart is a long time and you've not had anything close an exclusive conversation have you?

tanya kudos to you on the bee situation. Nicely handled. You ok?

prizey bizarre. One profile photo on Happn today was of a man holding his baby (couldn't have older than 6 months) and his bio ready happily married man. wTF??? I think there are some people out there stitching up other people tbh.

handy I think you may be the only one with a date tmrw. Can you handle the pressure???

red my question of what do you do with them was to ask for what do you do with someone who messages you good morning and good night and it is totally unexpected????
It's poor form to ignore right? But I want to equally make sure that I'm not leading him on by replying all the time (because I'm not looking for a committed relationship). Does that make sense?

jolly are you free? I'd go of its easy enough. What have you got to lose?

jolly definitely go if your gut says AOK - back in the saddle with you!

Sassy I wouldn't hesitate to ignore 'good morning/good night texts' stick to whatever messaging you are happy with, no more, no less. Nothing to feel bad about.

My Saturday night in date with teacher has progressed into going out on Friday night as well. Was going to get my eyebrows done in the morning wonder if the redness will have gone in time!

Interview went well i think!
Now. The real business. Still great conpany. I met him and got a wine and he wasnt drinking1 i had another wine and then we came back here. Moose burger not delivered yet but the oven was put on. Moose mince rolled in to patties!
We have a date arranged for next week. He is as busy as ever tho. But i am happy now. Buzzing.

Moose mince rolled in to patties!

TMI!!

Sassy that does make sense. I agree with PP, ignore and reply at the rate you're happy with. Perhaps give gentle notice like, "busy start tomorrow" or "early night for me". (Part of me wishes MrFoaf was a regular texter).

Aye, go us!

Have not contacted Bee again, still get that stomach knots feeling when I scroll past his profile pic on OKC, but haven't as much as clicked on it.

Have two chats on the go, so plenty distractions.

314 well done on interview, and glad date was good!

Morning all. Today will be relaxing after yesterday. When I told H about the interview, he asked if I had any other interviews lined up and I said that no, I was busy enough, and here is where I delivered the moose burger really, I told him that I can only concentrate on one thing at a time, job, man,... he laughed and said ''I'm relieved to hear that". He didn't reciprocate with an assurance that he can only concentrate on one woman though! But at the moment I feel ok. Later on that evening he told me he really liked me. So for now I will relax. He's with a friend (definitely male) this weekend, and next week he's going home, so it will be mid week meetups once a week for the next two weeks as well. But I liked that he came back to my house.. We had tea, crept quietly upstairs and in to my bed for a little while. He could have been a bit quieter!!!! but the dc did not wake. We chatted as well and he said that he will just smile and say hello to my children but not try too hard. That's the right approach. So he's not terrified of meeting them. we talked about that. I said they hadn't met many of mum's ''friends'' and that they'd met none so far over breakfast anyway. So, nothing was promised to me. But I don't think he' outright mislead me. So I feel as secure as I can this morning

tanyadm it'd make you wonder what the heck Bee is looking for!? If he's in a complicated relationship with somebody else, well, he's a bit of a messer.

ps, re the now separated/divorced bride as a man's profile picture confused]

It's been a few days since I last saw MrFoaf (when we did similar to 314 and exchanged "not interested in seeing anyone else"s) and I'm slipping back in to Alone Status. He doesn't send many texts, which is fine at this early stage, but it does make me feel a bit vulnerable.

Weds date guy is either really shit at messaging or just isn't that interested. He always reads and doesn't reply for 12 hours or more!?
He asked me out with no nudging or anything from me,so I don't get it!

Sounds like the date went well 😊 314

Waving, you are wrong! Northerner is angsting because his date from Wednesday has gone a bit NC!

red and handy thank you for the advice.
Am replying to him for the time being. He's asked to see me again next week so in the process of setting that up.

314 great news on the interview! When do you hear back? Laughing out loud at the moose mince rolled into patties! The moose burger analogy is going to run and run.

scarf oooo. So date was good? How did you leave it this morning?

tanya good work on staying away from Bee. Keep to that line.

red when did you last hear from Foaf?

waving I'd do the total opposite and hardly post anything on face book. More mystery and they are left wondering about what you are doing. Works a treat, trust me .

Iron number 2 is also proving funny when we message and a 'drinks thing' is in the pipeline for next week. A few more irons and I should be set!

Re the messaging and time to reply. I think in the early days (pre knowing if you like someone), it's easy to message back and forth. There's zero expectations either side. Once you move into something a little more serious, then the messaging maybe tails off a little because it's now linked to something tangible. And people are cognisant of taking it slowly. So the messaging slows. Does that make sense?