Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

I'm sure you're glowing dee! I am excited for you. What are you wearing?

Phew (am relieved it is on neutral ground). Have a fab time dee and check in with us.

Any other dates today? (Sorry can't keep up with thread it moves too fast).

So MrFrench is one of those good night, good morning texters. He's also bloody hilarious, was crying laughing at our banter. I've never had a good morning/ good night texter. I replied out of politeness. What do I do with them? (People can do this without getting serious right?)

Aw that sounds lovely, I'm a good morning / good night texter I reckon.

What do you mean "do with them"?

Thanks everyone,and i will check in😏

Knee length black dress,with black swede thigh boots,with
Just a bit of thigh showing😉 👢

So a quick update (more for myself than anyone else!)

Am meeting Teach on Saturday for food and possibly ice skating! We chatted for an hour on the phone last night and he's definitely a contender!

Meeting J1 on Sunday (depending on whether he/I have a hangover). He's more of a casual thing but we've chatted about all sorts (not just sex!)

Armchair has viewed my profile on OKC a few times which makes me a bit . He's very sweet but the kiss wasn't that great so not sure about him now

Still texting MrIT but he's not made any mention of meeting up yet so not really sure if it's going to happen or not.

I've let NiceTits down nicely, he was very sweet but I just didn't get that endorphin rush when he messaged me.

Still occasionally message Para but it's usually me who contacts him so I'll probably just let that die down (until I get bored again!)

J2 has gone quiet and I'm fine with that.

I'm seeing Sparks in a couple of weeks, he's the most local to me, we've exchanged flirty (and non-flirty) messages but I can't see him until the next time I'm child free.

I'm still in contact with TheSwinger, it's purely a sexual thing but he is so good looking it's hard to ignore. I'm under no illusions that he thinks I'm in any way special though.

Stripper has been back in contact- yes he does do the full month!

I've exchanged a couple of messages with Tatts but mainly about tattoos so I'm fairly convinced it's not going to amount to anything.

Hi all,

I guess i should introduce myself properly!

I'm 28, split up last march as my ex was on a gay "hot an horny hook ups" site. He claims to have never met anyone, but he was always late home from work etc. I gave it a go for a year, but i couldn't do it. I believe he's gay. He says not, but we were together 8 years and he never wanted to have sex, i'd cry myself to sleep at times, the rejection was awful. But i'm over it now and the sites he was on were not bi.
We have 3 dc together, he stays at mine with them at weekends and i go to my friends (this causes massive arguments, i want my home back!)

So since march i've had a few things. Slept with 4 guys, all turned out to be dicks, but i wasn't looking for serious anyway. One was a complete psycho, stole my shoes, was addicted to drugs and seemed to have narcolepsy. One, was a nice guy, but no chemistry for me and he was terrible in bed, but i found out a couple of weeks ago that he fell for me and went on this tour to "get over me" (actor). Others not really worth a mention.

There are 2 guys in my life that i can't seem to let go of. First one travelman we'll call him is the one i mentioned earlier on in the thread (you guys are gonna kick my ass about this, but i need it). We've been chatting/sexting since April. Have met once for half an hour at mine and had the most amazing kiss I've ever had, it was always the plan to just kiss. We both keep trying to end it, but one or the other always gets in touch, It's like an addiction. We're both emotionally involved, things had cooled off, but we're back in touch again. He is separated, but i think he's not telling me the whole truth there.
The other guy is London. He doesn't want a relationship. But likes me and chats with me all day everyday and all night. We both really like each other, but he says he's not ready and tbh neither am i, unless with him. We chat about everything and anything. He gets jealous though, knows he shouldn't and if i'm honest, i do sometimes try to manipulate him and i know that's terrible. But i need to be honest about all this somewhere!

This thread has been good for me. I've been wanting to admit that i'm only looking for fwb for a long time, but thought i couldn't, you guys have helped me realise it's no bad thing! I have serious mental health issues, no diagnosis, as i don't fit in any box exactly, i fit both bipolar and borderline personality, i'm not receiving any treatment at the moment.

My god, that turned into some kind of confessional, can i go now priest haha.

Pitch in? With the grunt work of own children?

Ha! Unlikely! Hope I'm wrong though....

Eloquent, you have two bears on the go! Nightmare.

Bears???
All this lingo is new to me!

There's me thinking i'm all young and hip!

I've just counted and i have the total sum of 16 guys i'm talking with... time for a deleting session i think!

You go Eloquent!

Quick update from me, MrIT has come through and asked me if I want to go for a drink. Trouble is I don't know when I can, shitbag ex only has the boys every other weekend.

FELLOW DATERS. I just "friendzoned" Bee. You would have been so proud of me.

I'm sorry Tanya,its shit!getting too old for this😏
Having a quick g&t just to settle the nerves

16 eloquent I'm impressed😏

One hour to go arghh...

So did I, but I have extremely good instincts about people, and know when I'm being messed about. I think he's maybe on/off involved with a woman he's doing an art project with, and I want no part of that. He's been single for a lot less long than I have, and I don't want to get dragged into anybody's nonsense, however lovely they are.

Did you tell him tanyadm or do you mean in your own head. He's been moved from one column to another in the giant spread sheet in your head.

eloquent, my 'bear' was the easiest most emotionally communicative person I've ever struc up conv with but he did not want a relationship. i got too close to him. It wasn't good for me, because it was an illusion of having a relationship when there was nothing real there. just a lot of energy and time spent texting him and responding to him when I should have been trawling the net looking for men who DO want / would be open to a relationship. That'll always be a bear to me.

Nope, I told him.

Well done Tanya! I think following your gut is always the right way to go.
Has anybody ever had their gut proved wrong?

Deedee, you'll be fine, i wish i could meet during the day in the week. Guys don't seem to want to meet at weekends!?

MGIF just be honest and tell him when you're available!

Does anybody else feel like a dick when they are available a lot? Like they say "when are you free" erm... ALL THE TIME BECAUSE NOBODY LOVES ME!!!

I said: "You know what....I get the impression you have plenty going on in your life right now, so let's just agree to be friends, as I do think you're great and lovely company, but I have no wish to be an additional complication."

314 How right you are! That rings so true it's unbelievable! I know it's not right for me, but i can't stay away.

Tanya go you!
how do you feel about it now? Has he responded?

He agreed, thereby confirming my instincts. "but it's no reflection on you". No, you're right, buddy, it's because you're trying to juggle options!