Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Could somebody just remind me why I should only see him a couple of times a week rather than moving him in, staying in bed all the time and losing our jobs ?

Because Red, and I am loosely quoting WMLB here, you have to appeal to his inner hunter. Let him put on his hunter outfit, drive for miles on a gravel road, hike a mountain, track down the moose through the woods, fight off the bear, loose the moose, freeze at night in a tent, finally find the moose and shoot the bastard.

Remember it never ends well for the girl who delivers ready-made moose burgers on his doorstep.

Much as it doesn't appeal to my principles, probably true, and love the analogy, Jolly!

Erm.

Jolly. I think that analogy wins best post on this thread. And needs to join the bottom of the rules in the next thread.

Go Sassy!

SardonicYouth full disclosure my ahem, behind.

Just doing a 'drive-by', so pleased how things are panning out with Soho, Waving

tanya hang in there love....

My week of annual leave (meant to be getting on with loads of jobs) has been pretty much dominated by the best friend bust-up. The only date I look like getting is a date with my therapist tomorrow and boy do i need that!

Think my babysitter has changed the number on her phone so not looking good at the moment for a Friday date with MrTiles.

Not been on a date for five weeks

Depressed!

jolly - mooseburgers

Bwahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!

Jolly but what about me and my desire to eat mooseburgers? I want to eat moose and I don't want to wait whilst someone stomps around the countryside whilst I have a pack in the fridge! (Seriously, I read that book and couldn't stand it, didn't even finish it).

Sassy good work!!

But I know it's no good rushing things along. It's just difficult to remember that when I'm lying in his arms. Mind you, I also forget minor details like my name.

OK, my instincts about people are normally pretty good, and I don't think anything that Bee did or said on Sunday was not genuine, I honestly think he does like me BUT...

What's going on IMHO is that yes he likes me, but there's another iron on the go, much like our own situations sometimes. He texted me a little while ago, and it ended "Speak soon, and we'll meet for a drink or something soon. Xx" No actual "let's arrange something."

So that's where we're at.

What are you going to do? Wait and see?

Yep, just texted back a very bland "Ok, let me know when you're free.", which I know is anti-the-rules, but I'm going to leave organising something to him, as I can't get sucked any further in, for my sanity's sake!

It's complicated to explain, but because of how quickly we did connect, we talked about things I have literally never told anyone, and he's very much on my level and asked really insightful questions nobody has ever actually bothered to ask me, and it's opened up some rawness around my relationship with my family, and the events that led to the end of my marriage, amicable though it is. So I'm feeling a lot more vulnerable than I would like, so am backing off for my own sake.

Tanyadm, i think that is a good guess. It is my intuition with H too. Another iron in the fire. He is smoother about it tho.

Laughing at hand delivering the moose burgers!!

It's so annoying, isn't it, 314, because on one hand, WE would go for the one who most set our heart on fire, so that's what they should do, but you can't help having the tiny voice in the back of your head yelling "pick me, pick me!"

My state of mind not being helped by my 5yo's school sending her home with homework to do a family tree, which is literally two lines of boxes up from her name, I.e. parents and paternal and maternal grandparents. She never sees her maternal grandparents because one was a twisted, abusive, evil excuse for a man who I've not seen for 24 years, and the other can't forgive me for ending my marriage....

As if families are that linear and straightforward these days.

tanya I think you sent exactly the right text putting the ball in his court. Totally understand how this feels for you, you feel vulnerable and are now protecting yourself. Not anti rules. But anti mental breakdown. Try and distract yourself by looking for another iron for s bit. See what happens.

Thanks Handy, appreciate the solidarity, much needed today! xx

Tanya families are messed up, my two siblings don't speak to me nor does my dad. All completely unsupportive, bullying, selfish dickheads. Better off without crap like that in our lives. So you are not alone.

Waiting to go to a 'speed awareness' course, (for going 7mph over the limit ). Wonder if there are any illegible bachelors going too? Doubt it but one can live in hope...every cloud and all that.

You never know where opportunities are going to present themselves!

So on that note I put a bit extra mascara and lippie, did my hair, few spritzs of perfume......then the fucking postman knocks at the door with a parcel!! Hope he doesn't think I made the effort for him following seeing him on Tinder....oh man

Ah, the postie is fate!