Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

tanyadm yes, torture though it may be, I agree with the others. He is more than capable of arranging a second date, and I think he will at some point.... just not very good at staying in touch in the meantime.

I admire you for trying to replace him! I'm not sure what to do next. I wish my dc were a bit older. At the moment, every single time I go out, I have to find a babysitter, so I think I might just let the situation with H reach whatever conclusion it reaches and... tick off my other non men related goals.

Waving Any responses to your advert for a new nanny?

I am being crap at it because now I am comparing to Bee and completely uninspired by the selection. To be fair, he has an art class on Tuesdays so wasn't anticipating any messages.

My wee people are 2 and 5, so difficult. I have a wonderful friend who has them overnight occasionally, but I don't like to take the P by asking too often or for frivolous reasons!

You have your xh though!!

So lucky. don't want to out myself but my x doesn't even live in the country. So he only has the children about four times a year. I was having dreams I was in a prison cell last week.

That's true. And ex-h that I can now say "I'm going on a date, watch the wee people"! We'd never had the moving on conversation before!

That's a mare for you. Do you have helpful friends? x

Well, tbh, the friends who live near me are all married. I'm ok that I can afford to pay babysitters and I have just got a new one! two isn't enough any more. One has a great social life which is not an attribute you want in a babysitter!

My married friends aren't that supportive of my OLDing. I was briefly upset about Bear. And I don't know, they don't get it. I would have been so lonely in between xmas and ny without him. NO matter how it panned out i'm really glad he was with me at that time. I've been told ''it'll happen when you're least expecting it''. "don't try so hard". (I've only been OLD since August. Before then I was waiting 8 years for it to happen naturally :-p )
I think my married friends think that I should give it up because occasionally it's stressful! But meeting somebody won't happen if I don't make it happen.

prizey I haven't nicknamed this one yet. Let's see if the date is worthy and he shall be bestowed a nickname!

tanya well done you!! Seriously, get that app that locks their number away. It's good!

314 ok. Now I get the history.
So listen, I work in a very male dominated environment/ industry and as such get treated to some extent as one of the boys. If they say they don't want a relationship, they categorically mean it. Some of them can be openly scathing once they have told dates this and the women continue to pursue.

When they meet a girl they like, they don't mess around and boom, they're in a relationship.
There are of course exceptions to the rule but if I have learnt one thing with men, it's pay attention to what they say. Not what you think their actions mean. Because once they've told you they don't want a relationship and then sleep with you. Their conscience is clear. In their minds they haven't lead you on.

Now you know why even 6 dates in I (thank god) hadn't slept with tree. I'm possibly a little too cynical and the messages he was giving off were too confusing. I'm glad I listened to my gut.
When their actions conflict with what they say, something isn't right.

That's my view any how's (as a jaded old woman)

Please tell me someone else has a date tmrw. Loo update shall be posted by 2pm at the latest!

Oooo. waving he's hidden his profile???!

That's HUGE!!!!! How did you respond?

Waving, you have six children!? wow. You mentioned a 16 year old and a 3 year old so they must range in age! You have a few babysitters in there Although I'm sure you don't want to do that.

I know what you mean about the 40 year old men not having great bodies. I'm a bit worried about the state of my cha cha and I've only had two. The penniless artist fake buddist did say to me (after I told him his penis was too big) "but you've had two children". It was only later I thought, does that translate as ''you've got a very big baggy fanny''. so at the moment that's the part of my body I feel unconfident about. Too frank??? Jesus, thank god justaperve has left the building.

Wow, soho has hidden his profiles!?

I know toosassy I've only myself to blame. I think I thought "but what's he doing on a dating site". Just meeting people to sleep with I guess. I'm glad I never actually slept with him. And I'm glad I never cooked for him either. Sounds petty but he would have liked that.

Oh fuck, just seen my lovely, friendly (but not my type) postman on Tinder, swiped left, very very carefully incase I made a mistake, or my hand flinched the wrong way.....nothing like a bit of awkwardness to set you up for the day

Waving sounds like Soho is getting serious! That is quite a statement

Sassy good luck for tomorrow, excited for you!
314 still laughing at the fact you call it a cha cha

I've just managed to tear myself off MrFoaf, get him to leave and get to MN/bed.

We established that neither of us is interested in seeing anyone else and that this feels right so let's enjoy the ride. So to speak.

I think that I'm completely smitten.

Does the Gold Dance with waving

Prizey, the postman! lol. Ring twice.
That would have been convenient!!

"A combination thereof"

Im reminded of somebody

What 30yo refers to someone as a "young lady" or y'know, speaks like that in general?

For somebody who was stood up, the writer is very verbacious.

Im just a poor boy from a poor family.
mumsnet said better get off the thread as you are not dating.
It'll be easy to invent a date who doesnt show up sez he.

Prizey, also laughing at postman! When I did tinder, I only spotted a foaf, and the very married husband of another foaf!