Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Well that would be equally disturbing! We're never happy, are we?! There's always something to over analyse!

And welcome Scarf! Tell us your tales...

Welcome to the bitches... (well we try to be )scarf

tanya in that case well done on the post Christmas weight loss!

Thanks all.

waving yes, if I'd been out with a friend four times I wouldn't be upset that they had another friend. Have you done the shred every day 7 days in a row!? wow, there will be a big difference. I'm amazed how effective it is. I am doing a fast today (580 cals) but tomorrow I will do jillian michaels, 6w6p. I need to.

prizey I must be a bad case, I have listened to that clip and I feel like my heart is beating fast .

tanyadm this is how I feel. I feel relegated or something. Even though I never received a memo telling me I'd been elevated. Iyswim. But he was talking as though he was going to try and see where 'we' went. I felt like there was a teeny tiny fledgling 'we' yesterday and today I realise that there is no 'we'. Maybe H is just smoother than I thought. The date is still on for Thursday though, so maybe it's a good thing I've wound myself back in.

tanya - that could be a cause for concern, but scarf could be right. Don't panic.

He might be on to check if your on, checking if he's on

Woo hoo! Nice one pissed!! keep us updated!

Glad pissed is having a good time!

I've just had two whatsapp messages from H but I haven't read them. I'm going to have a shower first. I am not playing Bitch here. I seriously need to get a fucking grip of myself. I "miss" B's communications, I really do. I am withdrawing from the easy chit chat we had, even though I know it was on the road to nowhere. H, who knows. I don't know. I thought he was certain about me and now I'm playing over what he said about how if it's not right physically it's not right and I'm wondering if our height difference is on his mind. So, shower first, then when I'm clean and I've washed the days stress off I'll read them

pissed great news!

waving I think that's a great way to view this stuff. I message my friends and (sometimes) days later when they reply I remember I'd messaged them. No thinking in between. So what time are you seeing soho tmrw?
Well done you on the weight loss. I could NOT do that in a week (or month)

314 how exciting re the interview!!!

tanya listen, just like we say maybe we need to see a few people (especially in the early days because it is scary), boys are the same. Doesn't mean they don't like us, I'd focus on you and him and the next date. No more than that. I could have had the best date in the world, I'm not coming off Happn the day after.

scarf welcome to the thread.

Aside from waving who else has a date tmrw?

Re the men checking their phones etc etc. I can assure you they absolutely do when they like a girl. And they also miss us if they haven't seen us / heard from us. They are just as human as us. I don't think they are as involved from the first few dates..takes them a little longer.
The ones to watch are the psychos who have no emotion and are way too smooth for their own good.

Oh god, no, and I am not coming off anything, but am not as actively looking. Brain too full!

314 do you still have bears details?

Hello thread, may I join in? I'm not on online dating, but I do have a date tomorrow night...

I know I'm a total floozy but I think I have another contender-Teach is a newcomer but he's got potential. He's (obviously) a teacher, plays guitar and reads books (which seems to be such a rarity these days!) And he has a son so gets that children come first.

Welcome red! More details on the date please.

Lol gast you are on a roll!

gast I honestly don't know where you get the energy!
red welcome!
waving oh no!! nightmare! Why is she going? How soon can you get a replacement? Hate to say it but welcome to the world of trying to juggle dates and childcare

Tanya, as others have said, it may not be a bad thing. If I went on a wonderful date but was also chatting to other people, I'd message them again, even if it was just to let them know I wasn't planning to meet up with anyone else at the moment.

Gast, Teach sounds nice.

Waving, oh no! Will you get a new au pair?

314, have you read the messages from H yet? Are you ok?

Ha ha! waving I'd be the same!

OK now this goes against all the rules but .......... Bear is not a dickhead, he doesn't want a relationship but he's always been available on the end of viber/the phone/skype. So I really something like anxiety when I cut him off abruptly yesterday. I should have been embarrassed but I went back to him today and apologised for sending him the message and going offline. He's never lead me on. NEVER. He was a bit put out that I went off-line immediately after sending him such a final message, but we got talking again and he said some nice things. Nearly cried. Didn't. We're all good again, but this time he knows that I'm going to try not to contact him for a while so he won't contact me if I don't contact him. But he said nice things. He'd like to be naked in bed with me, but there are other types of relationships and he likes me and could be my friend if I could be his. So ......... bit of space. I will attempt to detach from him. I don't know how much of my feelings for him are borne out of that old pattern I repeat where I go back to somebody who doesn't like me quite enough to go out with me but seems to 'get' me and like me. OR, are my feelings for him just an objective judgement that we get on and he's good company, very emotionally communicative. Bit of both. Anyway, I feel better now for having made a smoother hash of taking a step back.

H's messages all light hearted. He's just keeping me running 'til Thursday I guess.

I am wondering if Bee likes the romance of the chase. So attentive before / during last night...

I hope you get somebody waving I only work part time and it's still hard making it all work. I'd want to go out more if I had an au pair traipsing around the house, so that'd be a good motivator!