Step inside, it's the Dating Thread 94

[tanyadm]

We don't have get through these at speed....

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread 11. Read Why Men Love Bitches.

Tanya, have you and Bee not been in touch much today, then?

Waving, wow, 2 weeks isn't much! Can you insist on her staying for 4 weeks if that's what she's meant to do?

314, it must have been difficult to go back to Bear and apologise, and you sound happier about things now. Hopefully you'll be able to detach from Bear a bit but in a nicer way. It's hard though when you enjoy chatting to someone and 'get' each other - I should take a leaf out of your book, as my ex and I still message each other and i wonder if it holds me back from meeting someone else.

No, a nice text at 10ish, including "We have to meet up soon". But nowt since.

Knackered so going to sleep and forget it all!

Waving hope you find someone new in time

314 at least things are on your terms and you both know where you stand

I am guilty of whatsapp stalking today! Have not heard anything from mr rugby since he left on Saturday so messaged today, just a simple "how was the rest of your weekend" which has been read but not replied to. Feel really bad but had a quick Facebook peek and his cover photo was updated yesterday to a picture of (what he said was ex) wife and daughter!! I feel like such a fool but it's not like it was just a random hookup, we had been talking since November! Right at the start he asked what I was looking for and I said I had been single for almost a year and wanted to meet someone for a few nights in/ out and see how things go. He said he was the same so never questioned him on it really. On Friday he was talking about his 1 bed house that he shared with his dog!

Oh well looks like it's back to the drawing board

Oh no choccy, Updating his fb photo to a picture of his xw who'd do that!?, so I think you're right there to smell married. What a disappointment.

Oh Choccy why do people do it?

Tanya I'm hoping Bee is just busy, he was our main beacon of hope that there are good guys out there.

Teach is 8 years younger than me, does it really matter at our age? (I'm 41)

Thank you for the warm welcome.

I've put an advert out now. Hopefully can get someone soon

I didn't realise that you were talking about an au pair at first

Tomorrow night I am seeing MrFoaf (friend of a friend) for date #4. It's a school night, so it won't be a late one. Honestly.

RE the age gap mygast Good question, the penniless artist fake buddist was ten years younger than me and it wasn't what split us up. I didn't meet him on line though so I felt like there was a strong connection before we ever knew what age the other was. But then, he did turn out to be a bit.... not childish, but put it this way, he thought he was self-aware but he wasn't. He thought he was a Buddist but he wasn't. He thought he was over his x but he wasn't (he may not have cared about her, but he was attributing some of her negative attributes to me, and so on) I wouldn't do it again, but that's down to the age I am now. I don't want to end up single again, back on pof at 50 because a 40 year old bf has decided, actually you are too old for me, and I've met a 35 year old!

waving well done! can't believe you did it as well as a fast day. I never do both. But I will do JM's 6w6p tomorrow! You're inspiring me.

We're all very similar!

Kondo-ing, shredding, fasting, several of us have abusive exes! wow.

Hi there. Been one of those days at work and just catching up with the thread. DD1 has pinched the laptop and struggling to post using my old and cracked phone, so will post properly later.

All okay with Mr Blond - so far so good .

Waving don't worry about whatsapp! I've a friend in Spain, we're always whatsapping, my mum is on it!

Hey all, thread moves so fast but think I've caught up. Thank you for the earlier posts with good advice and for making me feel welcome. Tanya am so glad the date went well, I wouldn't be alarmed at a bit less contact today, probably quite healthy, could be many reasons, focus on how well the date went. Hark at me giving advice, with my 'one date' experience behind me!! Reading the posts the most annoying thing for me is realising I just don't have enough childcare to get out there and seriously date. Ex sees the children loads but not able to have them overnight and my other options are limited. So for now I shall live vicariously through you all!

Haven't got the WMLB book yet but read an article this eve (well Piers Morgan column - is that an article!) about Frank Lampard and Christine Bleakly in which he says the day after they met they talked on the phone daily for a week for up to 4 hours at a time. So that kind of thing does happen, and can be OK!! I live in hope!!

Anybody work in HR by the way? Anybody work for a charity?

Piers morgan is very invested in to the great love story of frank and christine. I'm not being cynical. Or am I?!

Oh choccy !!!! WTF! You spoke to him are ages

My day has been taken up with my mental 'best friend' who, as expected, hounded me then turned up on my doorstep and refused to leave. We have the beginnings of a reconstruction of friendship. I remain on my guard. Cripes she's in a mess though

MrTiles is Whatsapping me this evening. Nice but he may be a bit staid. But right now I don't care! Seeing him Fri as long as I find a sitter!!!!!

After the day ive had am reaching for the

The reason I ask is, I have a black pair of 'skinny' work (ish) trousers with a kind of piping down the front. They're nice. If I wear them with a plain black fitted top, it is very suitable for work without being workwear, that way I can tread that fine line of not knowing whether I'd be ruled out for not dressing in a suit, or considered not a good fit for turning up looking too suity. I used to work in the City and I could just about have worn the outfit to an interview in the city, it's that neutral. (on the fence between two fields!)

Handywoman, enjoy! tomorrow I will have one

I haven't found a babysitter for Thursday yet either/ argh.

Hi all
I'm slightly excited because I'm going on a date on Thursday (yay!) with Mr typing, we've already spoken on the phone tonight and he's got the sexiest voice ever!
Now to try and catch up with the thread that moves at lightening speed

Ooh Tea how exciting!!!

So I have a date with Teach on Saturday and a date with J1 on Sunday

Woop! Lovin your work Gast

I know handy we only started chatting yesterday, then he phoned today, and we decided to meet up!

I think I'll join you in that and I hope you manage to find a sitter for Friday, even if MrTiles seems a bit staid over texts, you never know he may not be IRL?

oh, choccy that's awful!