Can I get a male perspective on porn?

[Lepetitechat]

What part does it play in your life? If you're in a relationship do you still use it? Do you hide it from your partner? I'm just interested to know , and this is to do with my own self confidence - do the women in porn 'stick' in your head, or are they just images that you forget about moments later?
Do the women have to be stunning or is it more about the bodies and what's happening?
How does this affect how you feel about your OH?
I know how I feel about it, I don't watch it but if I did, and I have done in the past - the people in it made no difference to me, I couldn't have cared less but I know some people take it more seriously - having favourite stars for instance..
Sry for all the questions

I don't think anyone's branding anyone a rapist voyage are you really that scared to share your views? I'm only asking simple questions

What part does it play in your life?
Means to an end. There are times when sex drives don't mesh, either me or my partner is tired or whatever. So it offers a 'release' as it were.

If you're in a relationship do you still use it?
Yes

Do you hide it from your partner?
No, if I had to hide things from my partner then she wouldn't be my partner.

do the women in porn 'stick' in your head.
Not for me, for some people they do, its how the actors get fan clubs, awards, earnings etc. If it wasn't for the fans then the AVN Awards wouldn't be over 30years old.

Do the women have to be stunning or is it more about the bodies and what's happening?
It's more about the situations and the fantasies involved. Kind of like the stereotypical romance novel with men with flowing hair, rippling muscles and rolling in the hay or the beach etc. It's not so much the act but the idea of the acts.

How does this affect how you feel about your OH?
It doesn't affect how I feel about my OH, why would it?
My GF isn't a porn actress, she's a person, watching porn no more affects our relationship than watching a romantic comedy with Drew Barrymore.

There's my tuppence ha'penny.
Enjoy.

Have this moved to the sex topic Lepitite so that we can be sure that you're not a journalist

I think that's where a lot of the difference lies -nottoday I haven't grown up with it myself, I was certainly doing, what is consider more productive and fun things at 16, like enjoying relationships with human beings (not necessarily in the romantic sense)
So I didn't learn about sex from porn I learned about it with someone I loved.
So I'm trying to get my head around how someone I'm in a relationship with might feel about me, and my body and the intimate things we do, if they grew up with porn as their sexual partner... That probably sounds a bit out there..

I'm not a journalist and not sure I want to attract purvey comments in the sex section. Thanks for the input seeyou :-)

purvey comments
That's a bullshit reason
I don't believe you

I actually take offence to that. At 16 I had also been in a relationship for 18 months that went on another 15 years. I was very much finding out about sex with someone I loved. I just enjoyed porn when we were apart.

seeyou - do you know that it is all acting/fake?? If so how do you get around still getting off while having to imagine that they are actually having a good time and enjoying themselves? That's what I struggled with when I dabbled in it.. Hmm..

I use it, my partners have always known, most have either had no problem with it (if they're not present) or actively participated. There are some performers and producers I particularly enjoy (and some who I do not trust and avoid), but I don't think much about unless I'm looking for something to watch.

It's just an art form that acts as a tool to inspire sex, either by myself or with my intimate companions. That being said, one of my favourite memories is an impromptu sex education session where myself and a mixed group of friends went through one of our porn collections, discussing what was realistic, what wasn't and what was just downright hilarious. I think it was eye opening all round. Other than that, I don't think it has done much to shape my sexuality.

Porn is such a very small part of my life but I do enjoy it.

I get this overwhelming feeling that a lot of MNs think if you like porn you sit in front of your phone/laptop/tablet constantly, hide it from loved ones, wrack up huge bills on live shows etc...

I use porn when I feel like it and can happily get off without it.

Lots of people fall into habits of abuse

I can have one whiskey on a Friday night whereas someone else would go on a 3 day binge if presented with one.

I can put a bet on the Grand National once a year and not even think of the horses till the nest time it rolls around. Some people have crippling gambling habits.

I watch porn with my partner. I make porn for my partner. She makes it for me. It doesn't have to be an unhealthy thing.

In regards to the fakeness that is why I use amateur porn. Real couples. There's also some really good companies directed at women, who use just women and it's a much more loving set up than some of the rougher man/woman things you can stumble across.

Something smells fishy, are you sure that you're not a journo OP?

do you know that it is all acting/fake
Not the same thing but, Corrie is fake too, millions enjoy that.
Corrie is supposed to inspire debate and entertain, porn is to inspire other things but fakeness doesn't detract from its purpose.

The thing with porn, I believe anyway, is that it's like just about everything in the world. If you use it in moderation then its fine, abuse it and it becomes an issue.
Same as alcohol, drugs, exersize, gambling, shopping, eating etc.
If you do anything to excess it becomes your master, do things in moderation and you keep the whip, as it were.

I would also like to point out that I don't watch porn very much really, probably about 30seconds at a time.

Prove you're not a journalist OP, post something on a topic in the sex section.
Failure to do so will be taken as proof that you ARE a journalist

See you. ...that made me laugh 😄

suzanne not necessarily, she might very well be a long registered journo that uses a few names across various boards depending on the type of article she needs to write.

My GF isn't a porn actress, she's a person

Porn actresses are people too you know.

True Inthebox, in any case it's obvious from the way things are phrased and written that the op is using us to provide material or content that he or she can use for some other purpose

Agreed suzanne. Not even a stealth attempt.

Not sure how I move the thread on my phone but I wouldn't want to anyway, since this isn't a sex topic, but posted in the sex section anyway, I don't know how this proves I'm not a journo? Oh well

Lol @ seeyou's 30 seconds...

I'm still chuckling over OP's assertion that porn isn't about sex and therefore it would be inappropriate to post in the sex section.

Is it strange for me to think that? If so I'm fucking shocked.
Sex is about real people. Not wanking to images on a screen. If you don't believe that then I suggest you get your head checked

Sex is about real people

Once again, porn actors are real people.