i don't know if i can talk about it here?

[panele01]

hello everyone,
i am new here and i don't know,i am not sure if i can talk about it here? i am 20 weeks and 4 days pregnant
,but i am having problems in my life right now,difficulties,complications

No, Shelter is a housing advice service. england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/how_we_can_help/housing_advice_helpline

Also, don't knock shelters & refuges as some are very nice!

You are thinking of homeless hostels which can be run down and pretty dangerous. Shelters and refuges are something else, they are a safe place. But Garlic is right that Shelter is the name of a homelessness charity who might be able to advise you.

Ok,i see dear hmmmm,thank you so much

Seriously,my mother gets on my nerves time to time,always asking me,why am i not going to fix my teeth since i am pregnant i can get it fixed for free,excuse me,i am in too much stress and i am not happy living in your place right now,i wish she could shut up and leave me alone,i am really sorry for swearing She asks me lots of questions,which are not for her concern and its not her business,i know she is trying to help and advice me,but she doesn't know what i need and what i want,what is best for me at all Again i am really sorry for swearing

My mother is trying to sort out,so i could get benefits for me and the baby when i should be doing it not her,but she is saying i am not doing anything,god,she is a pain,she is doing nothing else but annoys me and gets on my nerves hmmmm

Hope you feel better soon panele. If your mother is doing it for you that's perhaps not a bad thing? Maybe you can focus on something else like finding accommodation?

It does sound like she is trying to help a bit, maybe if you don't like her trying to sort it you could go to the council offices yourself or call them, then it will be in your hands.

Hmmmm........yes i know,i understand,she is looking after me,but i am 28 years old and it does gets on my nerves,whats gonna happen to the baby since i am in a lot of stress right now? It could cause serious problems But my mother doesn't know whats best for me or what i want,she is so stupid,stubborn ect,i am really sorry for talking like that

Thank you so much dears

If i record and translate my mother's conversation with her partner's some of the times,people could think that they are not ok in their heads or something like that or maybe something different.....hmmmmm,i am serious......hmmmmmm,i am really sorry,is it bad to hate your family members? your family?

Well instead of focusing on being annoyed by your mother maybe make some calls to the council or to shelter or someone who could make some positive difference.

Ok,thank you much dear,i will

Please click on this link: england.shelter.org.uk/get_advice/homelessness/emergency_accommodation_if_homeless/emergency_housing_from_the_council

You are entitled to emergency housing from Croydon council as you are "in priority need" because you are pregnant.

I suggest you get a certificate stating you are pregnant from your doctor or midwife and take it in person to the relevant council office together with a letter from your mother stating that she wants you to leave her home by, say, Monday 18 January or another date of your choosing.

If the council are not willing to fulfil their statutory duty to offer you accomodation, I would suggest you make contact with Croydon Law Centre www.swllc.org/Croydon.php

Fwiw, your mother is right to be concerned about you and you can't expect her to know what you want if you don't tell her. Are you receiving benefitds or is your mother paying for your upkeep?

Panele, sorry you are in difficult situation at the moment. At the moment the best thing you can do is as suggested by other posters to go and speak to council people. You are 20 weeks pregnant and still have time to get things done. Living with your mom doesnt sound very easy and i think you need to try to get council housing for your own and your baby's sake.

Thank you very much dear I am 22 weeks and 4th day now

I second the poster who mentioned CAB, I work for one too, they can check what benefits you may be entitled to, help with housing and filling in forms, they may be able to arrange counselling too if you feel you would benefit from that
Please try and see them

Ok,i see dear CAB is open Mondays to Friday,today is Saturday.......hmmmmm

Thank you very much dear,i have all the contact numbers and i have addresses and i know where abouts it is CAB

You have gotten alot of good advice on this thread.

Have you taken any of it?

Hmmmmm.......yes i did,but not much,i haven't done much for myself yet

I am really sorry,i am so sorry

This morning my mother said to me,if i leave her place and go somewhere else,she disallows that(she strictly doesn't allow that) if i do that,she will report me to Social Services and take the baby to herselfWhat shall i do?

Ignore her.

She can't do that and social services don't just take babies away on the whim of a grandparent.

does she feel you are not able to look after the baby?

Yes,she is saying that i don't know how to look after babies,i have no experience ect,thats what she is saying