i don't know if i can talk about it here?

[panele01]

hello everyone,
i am new here and i don't know,i am not sure if i can talk about it here? i am 20 weeks and 4 days pregnant
,but i am having problems in my life right now,difficulties,complications

Where have you lived for the last thirteen years? You were homeless after your friends house was sold (?) and now you're pregnant, but have you only just moved in with your mum after leaving your friend 's house? Could you join your friend again?

Noeuf,thank you

Hello everyone,i want those 2 posts to be deleted,i did how someone told me it could be deleted but it didn't work,can anyone help me please on this? The 2 post are written by me yesterday,at times: 14:16pm and 14:18pm,did you see them? Did you find them?

One starts like that=====> Noeuf,you have some of the things wrong,dear
1.It is not me who is trying to do Tax Return,its my mother,if you read the top comments posted in here,you will see
2.

And the second starts like that ======> I am sorry,i did it accidentally,i want to delete it and rewrite it

Hi panele

Don't worry about the posts that you want deleted

What are you doing today? Can you get to CAB today?

Melavali,there is a problem,i have difficulties getting out of the bed since i am pregnant,i am in such a deep state of stress that my mind doesn't listen to me anymore and i didn't do anything for myself yet,the problem is that i have stayed too damn long in my mother's place,i am really sorry,i am traumatised after sexual assault and i am pregnant,oh god,i wish i could just stay somewhere else for few days as long as i get that stress relieved,start feeling differently........hmmmmm,Noeuf,did have it wrong,it was me who blocked baby's father on the fb,the question is,why should i get in touch with him since he called me bad names,was horrible to me before?

Hmmm....i am really sorry,people will think that i am wasting their time,they are giving me advises,help ect and i am not doing anything in order to help myself.......and i haven't done anything.......oh dear

Correction *Melvali

Sorry, wrong way round. But the point was that in your list of problems, deciding on how to approach the question of your baby's father was one of them.

Where is your brother sleeping? You say your mums flat has two rooms and you are on the sofa? Do you mean one bedroom (your mum and partner) and one sitting/kitchen room (you).

Noeuf,it is ok,my mother's flat has two rooms,in a big one sleeps my mother and her partner,in the other one sleeps my brother,i sleep on a sofa........

Noeuf,it is hard to describe,it would be better to see........hmmmmm,no no no,the second room,is a room,it is not a dinning room or something else,it is just a room

What do housing say ? Do you count as overcrowded?

My mother's place.....hmmmmmmmm.......yes i could count as overcrowded,especially since my brother is back to live with us,from America,Noeuf,i haven't spoken to the housing yet,i explained in my other post earlier......hmmmmm,i am really sorry

Ok I think I'm confused. On 8th January you said you had a housing lady there (Croydon council) so I assumed you'd spoken to them.

I'm not sure what else we can suggest, you do need some real life support to get you actually making an effort to contact people.

Don't say sorry to us, Panele. You owe us nothing.

Say sorry to your child! The baby that will be born to a depressed and frightened mother, raised by a controlling grandmother, living in a crowded house with an angry uncle.

Or would you like this baby born to a mother gaining strength, with her own door that locks and with money for the things needed? With help and support, and with freedom?

If you can't get yourself to the CAB or the council office, then make some phone calls. Keep ringing Shelter. Phone the East European Advice Centre. Phone your friend. Keep trying!

Panele - been following your posting and it seems as if you're getting nowhere. You say your Mum is out all day at work, why don't you use that time to ring people and get some help? You don't have to leave the house (or even your bed!), you have everything at your fingertips on your phone internet!

You cannot continue like this. You need to have something ready for when your baby is born... And that could be sooner rather than later. Babies don't come exactly on time! You need to be prepared.

You can start being a good mother now, you don't have wait for him/her to arrive, do what's best for your baby.

GarlicBake,yes,you are right,i should be saying sorry to my baby,Noeuf,i do have a housing lady,but i haven't spoken to her yet,the last time when i spoke to her,it was before coming back to my mother's and finding out that i was pregnant that was many weeks ago,she seriously couldn't help me,the problem is that i am not eligible for housing assistance

Well we are all routing for you to do something, any chance of choosing one call to make and letting us know? Or try to use the weekend for your tax return, if you are registered as self employed you need to file it by 31 January. You need all your income from 6 April 2014 to 5 April 2015. Are you sure you were registered before the 5 April 2015?

Noeuf,i know,i know,i understand,but i feel terrible that i haven't done anything at all,i feel really bad,i want to correct you Noeuf dear,i don't remember when i was registered as Self-Employed,i am serious,my mother does all the papers for Self-Employment,since i have lost most of my documents,i can't even tell when i was registered and all other info

BlackDoglet,yes,i agree,i do have plenty of my time when my mother is at work,thank you

Yes I know your mother registered you. However you need to sort that mess out. Either by contacting HMRC yourself or talking to your mother and understanding what is going on.

the problem is that i am not eligible for housing assistance

But now you are pregnant! Things have changed. Tell the housing lady.

Look at this page to see how to contact the tax people. You should tell them you're not working now. Ask if you're registered self-employed, and if you need to do a self-assessment. www.gov.uk/government/organisations/hm-revenue-customs/contact/newly-self-employed-helpline

Noeuf,ok,i see,GarlicBake,ok,i will,thank you Hopefully,i will get a proper sleep tonight,i have difficulties falling a sleep lately and getting enough sleep.....hmmmm,Noeuf,i hate my mother so much now,i don't talk to her much,but i can try and talk to her......hmmmmmm

i do have a housing lady,but i haven't spoken to her yet,the last time when i spoke to her,it was before coming back to my mother's and finding out that i was pregnant that was many weeks ago,she seriously couldn't help me,the problem is that i am not eligible for housing assistance

You weren't eligible for housing assistance in July of last year, but your ARE eligible now because you are pregnant.

Please act on the advice I gave up upthread which was get a certificate attesting to your pregnancy from your doctor and take it IN PERSON to the council's housing office which, as you know, is in Bernard Weatherill House, 8 Mint Walk.

If the housing office tell you again that you are not eligible, go to Croydon Law Centre which is on the 5th floor of Davis House in Robert Street just a few minutes walk from the housing office and ask them to help you.

A large proportion of any law centre's caseload will involve housing in one form or another and law centres generally have contacts in the local council offfices who are able to resolve simple issues, such as those of eligibility, very quickly.

As said before, nothing will change until you take the initiative and make the necessary calls and visits. Please don't rely on the overburdened midwifery service to sort out your need for council housing as that's not part of their remit and you can easily resolve this matter yourself.