i don't know if i can talk about it here?

[panele01]

hello everyone,
i am new here and i don't know,i am not sure if i can talk about it here? i am 20 weeks and 4 days pregnant
,but i am having problems in my life right now,difficulties,complications

Maybe that's not what's happening here, and the confusion is a language barrier thing

I wonder if you are used to a very different bureaucracy and support systems, which is causing additional problems.

I read the 'it's confidential' part as the GP having assured the OP that everything they talk about together will be treated confidentially, and the OP completely misunderstanding that and thinking that she is not to talk about the topics discussed.

Apropos of which: OP, you are free to talk about anything you discuss with your GP with anyone else you choose. It is only the GP that is obligated to keep anything confidential.

goddessofsmallthings,i see there is a misunderstanding here,i do have a passport and i haven't lost it,i had it all the time,the passport that i have,it is not British,it is Lithuanian,when i said to Offred,about what i have spoken to GP,it was about something else,not relating to CAB,Council,Job Centre Plus and financial things,it was about me and my baby and my mother,because since i am in a deep stress state,i was really worried about myself and the baby(pregnancy),the reason,why i didn't go to Job Centre Plus because i want to sort out housing,for me and my baby,see if i can get any help,i have lost most of my documents,yes,it did happen,but i can try and get copies or original of those ones somehow......hmmmmmmm,i am really sorry,i will be trying to sleep now

I do have difficulties understanding English language,i do,i will be honest with you,but i do understand most of it what you type in here and put in this thread,i really appreciate for all your help,i will try to do my best and help myself to get out of this deep stress state,it is really,really bad for me and my baby

Goodnight to all,sweet dreams,all the best,good luck,take care,bye

Night panele

The baby will be ok. Stress might affect your labour - make it longer/more painful but if you can get out of the bad environment you are in and into a calmer home of your own before the baby comes everything should be fine.

Try not to worry.

You will need to claim a benefit for income for yourself first, you should take some advice (from CAB) on what is best, and that will make it easier for you to claim housing benefit for a rented home.

I hope you can get some sleep.

Hello everyone,I hate my mother,i seriously do hate her,hate is a strong word,but this women is just gonna get on my nerves to much and she might cause me problems with sorting out Tax Return..........she now is asking me,call to my Employment agency for which i have worked last time and ask them to tell me what does it say on P60? Figures,Numbers,is she insane or what?

It sounds like you've mother thinks you are vulnerable and is trying to help.

You will probably need that information for the tax return, yes.

well, you have a lot of stuff going on and you are going to have to take charge:

1. Why are you doing a tax return? Is it required (can't see why if you've only had a small amount of agency work) or is it claim tax back from the period you worked, in which case there's a different form you can use. Talk to CAB and find out when they have financial advisers in.

1. You live with your mother who you say is controlling, capable of beating you, and has a pervy partner who looks at you. You are 24 weeks pregnant roughly. You need to talk to housing again.

1. You need to be referred to a midwife rather than the GP for pregnancy stuff unless there's complicated health stuff.

1. You need to make a decision about the friend who fathered your baby and how much information you will share with him. At the moment he's blocked you - how will you / will you let him know about the baby?

1. Can you speak to your GP or the police about the sexual assault by your ex?

Vixxfacee,no,the way opposite,maybe my mother thinks differently,she is sick,not normal in her head,instead of trying to help me,she will cause problems for me,i have a bad feeling about this......hmmmmm,baby's mother's heart senses it,i am talking about myself.......hmmmmmm

The current tax year runs from April 6 2015 to April 5 2016.
The current personal tax allowance for those born after 5 April 1938 is £10,600.

If you have earned less than £10,600 between April 6 2015 and 5 April 2016 any income tax you have paid on your earnings through your employer's PAYE scheme will be repaid to you by cheque from HMRC sometime after April 5 of this year.

As HMRC won't repay overpaid tax for this current tax year until it has ended, all that needs to be done is to ensure that they have your current/future address on file before the tax year ends.

With reference to one of your earlier posts about your dm, if you enter the appropriate responses here www.gov.uk/check-if-you-need-a-tax-return it's probable that you will find there is no requirement for you to complete a Self Assessment tax return and therefore you shouldn't be penalised with a £100 fine if you haven't done so by the end of this month.

Ok,i see,thank you,i don't understand those things about Tax Return,i don't know and i don't do it,so its my mother who is trying to do it,not me,godessofsmallthings

Correction: goddessofsmallthings,is it possible to delete the post i haven't completed yet,which i was writing to Noeuf???

I am only thinking about a place for me and my baby,the money can be sorted too if it will be possible,staying under my mother's roof,getting into a deep stress,depression,not being capable of thinking,concentrating,feeling happy,it is not a life,it is a nightmare,a mess,i am talking about myself.........hmmmm

Another thing is,while i was staying/living at my mother's place before i was pregnant,she has registered me as a Self-Employed,she dealt with all HMRevenue papers and everything.......hmmmmm,my mind cannot remember small details anymore,i can't even explain that word "everything" i am really sorry

Have you managed to get in touch with cab? I would make notes everything you want to discuss with them do you don't forget anything. Read through this thread again.

Click on 'report' to ask mumsnet to delete any post you've made here or elsewhere on this site.

When you were working at the job you left in or around July of last year, did your payslips show that tax and national insurance contributions had been deducted from your gross salary? In other words if, for example, you were told by your employer that you would be paid £500 a week did you take home that amount, or did you take home less than that amount because tax and nic had been deducted?

Using the above example, if you were told that you would be paid £500 a week and that is the sum you took home, it's probable that you were on your employer's account books as being self-employed in which case you may be required to submit a tax return by the end of the month.

Please call or go to Croydon Law Centre or your nearest Citizen's Advice Bureau as they can help you with your application for council housing and with claiming benefits.

I'm sure you'll be able to think more clearly when you're away from your dm's home, but only you can can make that happen.

Ok,i see,goddessofsmallthings,thank you dear,i will

Correction of my post which i wrote today at 14:54pm ======> I am only thinking about a place for me and my baby,the money can be sorted too if it will be possible,staying under my mother's roof,getting into a deep stress,depression,not being capable of thinking,concentrating,feeling unhappy,it is not a life,it is a nightmare,a mess,i am talking about myself.........hmmmm

Melvali,no,i haven't managed,but i am not gonna give up,seriously,i will need to go and see someone at CAB

Your mum registered you as self employed? I really think you need to find some sort of advocacy or support service as there appear to be a lot of things done TO you not WITH you. If you have mental health issues you could try Mind (I'm not saying you have, and you don't have to say) or please try CAB again. At the moment either you are very vulnerable and your mum is trying to support you but you don't understand this, or you are being controlled/ manipulated.

Goddess has cleared up the tax return stuff, my question was why would you need to file one ( even if your mother is doing the legwork).

Noeuf,i am a having a difficulty understanding your question,i am sorry,it feels like i am stupid right now............