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I think I'm in shock. Has this really just happened?

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Isthisreallyhappeningtome · 29/12/2015 20:39

I've had a horrible year. A horrible horrible year. I escaped a violent relationship, was made homeless with a baby, tried to commit suicide and lost a family member on Xmas day.
Tonight my friends decided to club together and take me out for a night in a town we used to go to befire we all had children. My best friends his bad very kindly has taken my DD overnight. Please bare with me I'm rambling but I'm in shock.
I had a few drinks at a new bar and we decided to go to an old bar where I used to work. I was standing there when my friend who is the bar man places a drink in front of me. A gin and lemonade with a dash of grenadine. There is only one person in the world who knows I used to drink that and I just go numb. My friends says it's from that gentlemen across the bar and sure enough there stands my estranged husband who I haven't seen in 5 years.
He was shot a year after we got married and suffered terrible PTSD and it broke down our marriage. He left to go and sort himself out and I decided to try and move on. I never stopped thinking about him, never stopped loving him and now he's here, asleep next to me. I just can't believe this is happening and genuinely think I'm going to wake up in the morning and it was all a dream. I don't even know why I'm posting here I just needed to speak to somebody or someone to tell me that this is real!

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SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 29/12/2015 20:42

Wow! That sounds like a nice end to the year, but I guess you probably have a lot of talking to do? Why is he asleep so early? Grin

MakemineaGandT · 29/12/2015 20:43

All before 8.45?!

Isthisreallyhappeningtome · 29/12/2015 20:46

The plan was to go out early and go bed early to avoid the hangover!! Well, I was supposed to be out later but obviously bumping into the long lost love of my life changed the plan a little! Took him home straight away. Don't think I need to explain the rest!

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ivykaty44 · 29/12/2015 20:48

So are you still married to each other?
Is he over getting shot?

Tiggeryoubastard · 29/12/2015 20:49

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Itsallaboutme3 · 29/12/2015 20:50
Grin
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usual · 29/12/2015 20:51

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Shutthatdoor · 29/12/2015 20:52
Hmm
Isthisreallyhappeningtome · 29/12/2015 20:52

Still married just separated. I don't think anyone would ever get over being shot would they? He was a marine, sorry maybe shouldve mentioned that.

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FuckyNell · 29/12/2015 20:52

Lovely😀

Iggi999 · 29/12/2015 20:52

I think your friends must be disappointed you left so soon!

Twinklefuck · 29/12/2015 20:53

Is he your dd's dad?

Wow you'll have a lot of catching up to do Wine

Isthisreallyhappeningtome · 29/12/2015 20:53

I know this sounds like a crazy movie plot but this is my life so please don't try and "troll hunt".

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LaurieFairyCake · 29/12/2015 20:53

A British royal marine?

Floggingmolly · 29/12/2015 20:53

So he just rolled over and went to sleep afterwards? At 8.45?

Quiero · 29/12/2015 20:53

Can the last one to leave turn the lights out.

Nottodaythankyouorever · 29/12/2015 20:54

Riggghhttttt ok Hmm

Isthisreallyhappeningtome · 29/12/2015 20:54

No he's not Dd's dad. That was a man I met a 2 years ago. He was the violent one.

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SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 29/12/2015 20:55

Next time tell us you stayed up all hours making love and engaging in pillow talk. Asleep before 8:45 just suggests you watched the One Show and took simultaneous swigs from the economy sized Gaviscon bottle before turning in for the night.

LaurieFairyCake · 29/12/2015 20:55

He left and hasn't seen you or his child for years and you took him home with you Sad

What about your kid? This is a terrible idea, you've had a dreadful time and frankly
you don't need any more bollocks Thanks

Bubblesinthesummer · 29/12/2015 20:55

Right so you bumped into an ex, took him back to yours and your first thought is must post this on MN....

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Quiero · 29/12/2015 20:56

Was it Angie Watts?