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I think I'm in shock. Has this really just happened?

259 replies

Isthisreallyhappeningtome · 29/12/2015 20:39

I've had a horrible year. A horrible horrible year. I escaped a violent relationship, was made homeless with a baby, tried to commit suicide and lost a family member on Xmas day.
Tonight my friends decided to club together and take me out for a night in a town we used to go to befire we all had children. My best friends his bad very kindly has taken my DD overnight. Please bare with me I'm rambling but I'm in shock.
I had a few drinks at a new bar and we decided to go to an old bar where I used to work. I was standing there when my friend who is the bar man places a drink in front of me. A gin and lemonade with a dash of grenadine. There is only one person in the world who knows I used to drink that and I just go numb. My friends says it's from that gentlemen across the bar and sure enough there stands my estranged husband who I haven't seen in 5 years.
He was shot a year after we got married and suffered terrible PTSD and it broke down our marriage. He left to go and sort himself out and I decided to try and move on. I never stopped thinking about him, never stopped loving him and now he's here, asleep next to me. I just can't believe this is happening and genuinely think I'm going to wake up in the morning and it was all a dream. I don't even know why I'm posting here I just needed to speak to somebody or someone to tell me that this is real!

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fidel1ne · 29/12/2015 21:26

I think it's more of an 'Ahem'.

But we need DETAILS OP Smile

DurhamDurham · 29/12/2015 21:26

Not necessarily, sometimes they come on to tell other people off for troll hunting.

SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 29/12/2015 21:27

OP he's been asleep an hour...why don't you wake him up and chat about things?

usual · 29/12/2015 21:27

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goodriddance11 · 29/12/2015 21:28

I am sure the friends you were out with earlier would identify you from the story, rather than your username!

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Isthisreallyhappeningtome · 29/12/2015 21:28

fidel if I'm being honest yes a little Grin But we have all night it's only half 9.

And that drink is something I haven't drank for years. I went off gin.

I'm quite happy just cuddling and this probably sounds really creepy but I'm enjoying his smell. He still smells the same.

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Tinklebinkle · 29/12/2015 21:28

do you drink in cupboards wahaaaaa Grin

Rivercam · 29/12/2015 21:29

I hope it all works out but I'd also like to urge caution. It's all very romantic walking into a bar and bumping into him, but it's five years since you have seen him. You both have led lives since then, and you have a child. Don't rush into things.

fidel1ne · 29/12/2015 21:29

Of course, riddance and then - if she hadn't NCed - they'd know her usual MN name. Which she doesn't want. So she NCed.

fidel1ne · 29/12/2015 21:31

Well elbow him! Smile What time are you picking littley up? Make the most of your time.

goodriddance11 · 29/12/2015 21:31

Ahhh, I understand

DecaffCoffeeAndRollupsPlease · 29/12/2015 21:31

I'd have to ask him where he has been - if he's sorted himself out now, as it seems, why didn't he track you down? Why did you have to wait until you bumped into him in a bar? What if you hadn't, did he have any intention of looking for you? If he had made contact sooner, he could have helped you through your difficult year instead of avoiding all of your difficult times and getting back in to bed with you when you life seems to be on the turn for the better. I'd worry that he is a fair weather husband tbh.

RJnomore1 · 29/12/2015 21:31

If you haven't realised, Olivia's post is a link to the talk guidelines, presumably in response to the troll hunting suggestive comments.

Op sounds lovely, please heed the advice here and go slowly though you have both been through a lot.

TheFirstNoelHeadbands · 29/12/2015 21:32

Ooh the evening with gin and grenadine sounded all exotic and sophisticated, but now it's changed to lunchtime boozing, I'm thinking Wetherspoons or Yates Wine Lodge.

It's lost it's shine if I'm honest

DurhamDurham · 29/12/2015 21:32

I couldn't even tell you what my husband smells of and I've been married to him for 18 years.
I suppose it's romantic ........ Unless he smells of fags and booze of course, there's nothing romantic about that.

SagaNorensLeatherTrousers · 29/12/2015 21:34

Good post from Decaff.

RJnomore1 · 29/12/2015 21:34

I know my husbands smell and would do anywhere. He thinks it's funny if he's working late and gets into bed when I'm asleep, I roll over and sniff him. I reckon it's my subconscious checking it's really him. 😁

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Isthisreallyhappeningtome · 29/12/2015 21:35

thefirst haha no! We went for lunch then to a cocktail lounge.

He smells like head and shoulders shampoo and gin. It's the best smell in the world.

OP posts:
fidel1ne · 29/12/2015 21:36

I'm feeling really crap that I don't know what DH smells of now.

I want to go and sniff him, but he's watching a boxset with the teenagers, so that might look a bit odd Sad

tootiredforthissh1t · 29/12/2015 21:37

shamelessly marking my place Grin

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Isthisreallyhappeningtome · 29/12/2015 21:37

Go and sniff him just incase you never get another chance!

OP posts:
fidel1ne · 29/12/2015 21:39

Hmm. Maybe really covertly while handing around popcorn?

Shutthatdoor · 29/12/2015 21:39

thefirst haha no! We went for lunch then to a cocktail lounge.

You said your friends were taking you out for the evening. Nothing about lunch etc story changing Hmm

Thornrose · 29/12/2015 21:39

I have no sense of smell. I never knew my partner's smell or my child's smell. It's fine fidel Grin

fidel1ne · 29/12/2015 21:43

TY Thorn, that makes me feel better Smile