I think I'm in shock. Has this really just happened?

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I've had a horrible year. A horrible horrible year. I escaped a violent relationship, was made homeless with a baby, tried to commit suicide and lost a family member on Xmas day.
Tonight my friends decided to club together and take me out for a night in a town we used to go to befire we all had children. My best friends his bad very kindly has taken my DD overnight. Please bare with me I'm rambling but I'm in shock.
I had a few drinks at a new bar and we decided to go to an old bar where I used to work. I was standing there when my friend who is the bar man places a drink in front of me. A gin and lemonade with a dash of grenadine. There is only one person in the world who knows I used to drink that and I just go numb. My friends says it's from that gentlemen across the bar and sure enough there stands my estranged husband who I haven't seen in 5 years.
He was shot a year after we got married and suffered terrible PTSD and it broke down our marriage. He left to go and sort himself out and I decided to try and move on. I never stopped thinking about him, never stopped loving him and now he's here, asleep next to me. I just can't believe this is happening and genuinely think I'm going to wake up in the morning and it was all a dream. I don't even know why I'm posting here I just needed to speak to somebody or someone to tell me that this is real!

Ah right, not his kid.

Ffs take care of yourself though. Don't forget he left.

I'd be waking him up for seconds. It's far too early to sleep surely? Presuming your in the UK of course!

Does he work shifts? Will you need to set an alarm for him?

Soo your eyes met across the crowded bar, then you legged it home and he fell asleep?

Did your friends set you up? It seems strange that your estranged husband just happened to be in the same bar.

As lovely as this might be for you I think you should remember that you have had a very difficult year so you are probably still feeling very vulnerable. Take it slowly and look after yourself.

Does he work shifts? Will you need to set an alarm for him?

Did your friends set you up? It seems strange that your estranged husband just happened to be in the same bar.

All very Casablanca

You're not your.

Usual asked who shot him.
It was Sue Ellen of the quivering lip fame, I do believe.

It could be a romantic reunion except for the fact that at 8.45 you're already home and he's flaked out asleep beside you, hardly the stuff of romantic fiction (although.......)
Surely he had something to say to you before he fell asleep?

I'm with ALaugh. be careful, you are vulnerable and this is a bit heavy/has moved very fast.

I've been out since 12 so it's not that much of an early night!
Ok I probably haven't worded things right? We was a royal marine, was shot on tour and sent home. That was when he started suffering with the ptsd. He needed proper help but we couldnt hold together our marriage at the same time so we split up. That was when I moved back to my home town and tried to move on and eventually met my daughters dad. Maybe my friends did set me up? Either way I don't really care! Yes we've talked. We got home to mine at about half 5. He seems to be in a much better place mentally. And yes he's asleep cuddled into me I can't control that!

Did you have a thread on here before, with a similar ish name? I'm glad you're having a nice night but be very wary as you're fresh out of an abusive relationship.

No I e only ever had one name which is my usual name but name changed for this as it's quite identifying. A few of my friends who I was out with today are mums netters.

Lots of talking for the two of you to do and perhaps some counselling or therapy if you decide to rekindle your relationship as friends, lovers, a couple, etc.

I can understand why you are so shocked. It sounds you have a lovely supportive circle of friends and I hope they can help you and your child come out of this situation happily, whatever that outcome may be.

You've confused us with your opening post saying your friends took you out 'tonight'
I guess you meant to say 'at lunchtime'

Sorry! Well I was supposed to be out tonight as well, I haven't been out since July so we were making a day of it, travelling an hour away.

And your dd being kept overnight suggests a late one rather than going to bed early to avoid hangover. Slightly confusing all round.

I was confused by the tonight/ today thing. Easy done I guess if you're writing it tonight.

I drink grenadine with gin as well

So he's in your home town, which is not where you lived when you were together, and happens to walk into the same bar you are in? I'd buy a lottery ticket for tomorrow, if I was you - it's a huge jackpot!

She's being kept overnight because I planned on getting drunk.