Totally ruined my Christmas

[Clarkey2345]

Well as always he ruined my Christmas i spent half hour with our children on christmas morning and didn't get to see my children open there presents because he wasent ready to go and see them after seeing our children we went to his parents house to have Christmas dinner and was there over an hour, then after dinner we went home and he spent the rest of rob night sleeping as usual when i could have been down with my kids watching them playing with there toys and having fun he also said i am ungrateful because he bought me a very expensive phone for Christmas and all i spent was £20 on him for presents.
He also keeps on at me all the time for sex and when i said no he gets angry and says pack your things are f**k off down your mothers house, yet if i tried to leave he would stop me so why tell me to leave in the first place????

Fuck getting angry... That's a threat. That's where the police come in.

Do your family know about the threats to you and to them?

Why the fuck are THEY not calling the police or getting you out of there?

Second thoughts, don't answer that, most abuse victims come from families that don't help or protect the victim.

Call the police. TELL them what is going on. Speak to WA About getting out and getting non molestation orders to protect you and your family.

What this insignificant little prick has done already is a criminal offence. So report it.

Nothing is stopping you except yourself.

Thanks Hissy but i am going to ring Womans aid later and have a chat with them it's time to get a plan sorted.

What have the police said? If you and your family have been threatened the police will have a record of each time it is reported - this will help you get a restraining order so that he can't contact you or your family.

Ring the police. Believe me they WILL help. Do it today.

Hi Renarde thanks for the offer to help with my dog i have already spoken to a charity who works with Womans aid to take in dogs while people are in refuge but at the moment they are full so cannot help me i am from the United Kingdom and the refuge said they cannot take animals so would need to find temporary foster for the dog

I have just read your other thread Clarkey and what baffles me is why do your parents think they have your children? They must know you are in an abusive relationship otherwise they wouldn't have your kids.

You have had stacks of advice from great people - I just hope for your sake and the sake of your kids, you take it.

Hi ThreeRuddyTubs i have only chatted with Womans aid

Hi Hissy the only people who know about the threats he's made is Womans aid

Hi Parker231 i have only chatted with Womans aid

Hi Lazymoz yes i am going to speak with Womans aid today

Why haven't you involved the police?

Hi Crispbutty I am going to chat with Womans aid today

I have read your other threads, I grew in a domestic violence situation. I know that it is hard and that you are scared. Your CHristmas may have been ruined but your children's lives are being ruined because you are overly concerned about your dog and your public persona and you are refusing to leave this man.

You may feel like you don't deserve any better than this man, your children do deserve better.

Second thoughts, don't answer that, most abuse victims come from families that don't help or protect the victim.

Completely disagree. Such sweeping statements help no one.

In this case the OP family actually have the children otherwise there is no doubt they would be in foster care!

Hi Twofalls there are other reasons as to why my children are with my parents but it's also because of my partner aswell they don't know about the domestic abuse

Why do your parents think that the kids are living with them?

Hi Philoslothy I am going to chat with Womans aid today

Why haven't you told your parents about the abuse?

please listen to people. No more chatting. Phone the POLICE, TELL THEM ABOUT THE THREATS HE MAKES TO YOUR FAMILY. TELL YOUR FAMILY HE HAS THREATENED THEM. I would imagine even the most lackadaisical family would be concerned if they were under threat. And if you do decide to "chat" to WA again, for gods sake listen to them, because I cannot believe they haven't told you to get the police involved.

Hi Shutthatdoor they care a lot about my children and me but they don't know about the domestic abuse relationship i am in

But you have told us you won't get them back whilst you are with him and they will know this as well so by default they know he is "not a very nice man". However he seems to have access to them when he wishes, as do you, so I am a bit confused by the situation.

All that aside he has made threats, you need to talk to your parents, it's hardly going to come as a surprise, and phone the police. I am not sure what else can be advised.

Hi Parker231 i don't want them to know about my domestic abuse relationship

Op please do something today. The Police will help you. Get your handbag, if you can grab any important documents, passport, diving licence, etc, do so, and leave. Get to the nearest police station and tell them everything, all the threats to you and your family; don't leave anything out. They will help you sort out temporary accommodation - they can talk to your family for you if you don't feel ready. Do you think your parents would let you sleep on the sofa for a few nights?

Today could be the start of the rest of your life

Hi TheSpectre i haven't been able to chat with Womans aid for very long but will be ringing them again today