DRY 10!!!!

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Welcome! This is the thread for those of us who want to abstain from alcohol. We are all at different stages of our journey, and many of us have some hiccups along the way, but we are committed to an exciting, fulfilling, joyful life alcohol-free.

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Everyone is welcome!

Lou - that hungover paranoia is the worst and I always get it!

Move on from it - it sounds like it was a heavy night for everyone...

Hello everyone haven't posted in a few days as I guess the reality for me is not having a drink during the week is not an issue which is half the problem as by the time Friday rolls around I feel I fully deserve it! Was thinking about this habit today as I used to drink thurs to Sunday and recognised that I could easily put away a bottle a night if I continued the way I was going and I made the decision to knock thurs on the head and then Sunday which for the most part I stick to and if I do drink it's in moderation so what is it about a Friday or sat that I just can't get a handle on?? Anyway that's my musing for the day! Hope everyone else is doing well. I'm sorry I'm very new to the whole concept of posting on line and name checking etc seems a little beyond me yet!

Oh and I would have lasted about twenty mins at the wine tasting. I wouldn't give it a second thought. Given the culture within the company and that u actually abstained until after the tasting etc u were probably in a better state than most.

I will let you know how it goes Hurricane. :) It is during the day.....fits in with my lunchbreak. I am just going to pop along and see how it all feels. There used to only be a couple near me, but now there are new meetings on MOnday, Tuesday, Friday and saturday all of which would be able to be easy to access for me.

Marry are you there lovely?

I am a bit about a wine tasting being part of a work team building thing. It just goes to show again how ingrained alchol and over-drinking is in our society. But it is such an unfair thing to do for many people who may not be drinking for whatever reason..... problems, mere personal preference, early pregnancy, other health issues. I am really sorry you were in that situation lou. How are you this morning?

Happy Days Sober Warriors. Remember.... alcohol has so had its day. We are the New Revolutionaries.

I love that cheesy! I feel revolutionary!
Annoyingly so. Like one of those annoying ex smokers (I also gave those up in November but as I was a secret smoker I can't get evangelical about that)
I'm still here.. just plodding happily. Happy Friday all!
Hope marry is ok.

Urgh Day 8 of a flu like thing here and I feel utter rubbish. But at least I am sober, utter rubbish!

yes I was about a work wine tasting, tbh! And I would have caved in as well I think. Tbh I think something like that would be best avoided in the first few months of sobriety as being too triggery? But that is just me

Day 45 for me :) Happy Fri Sober Warrior Revolutionaries :)

had to miss AA this last week though - but nice to get texts from fellow members asking how I am :)

Hi everyone. Hope your flu gets better soon glad.

The AA meeting was really good, Hurricane. I was hoping to slink in and sit at the back. No chance... there were ony 10 people or so, and they were very happy to have a newbie and very warm, open and welcoming. Lots of chat. Lots of sharing of stories and lots of laughter. The whole experience was very positive, so I am definitely on for Monday and next Friday. :)

Thanks Cheesy, that's interesting....it's something I've toyed with doing....because for me..and this only applies to me, no one else, I do consider myself to be a alcoholic (I think!!) I've explained before that I've only ever drank at weekends, barring the very odd special occasion but that I've got completely trollied every Fri,Sat, Sun and had blackouts, the lot, for as long as I can remember, with no control whatsoever. I cannot get enough and only stop when I blackout more often than not. Again, for me, I think there are different types of alcoholics and that I'm my type. I suppose what I'm trying to say, quite badly, is that if I think I have a problem, then I have Do you think I would benefit, or even that they'd have me? Be interested to hear your thoughts too Glad...I hope you are over the worst soon

Cheesy so glad you found AA helpful! And for you for what's happening in your life at the moment xxx

Hurricane I have found them all (three different meetings each week with different people) to be welcoming, friendly and supportive. Am so glad I went! Some shares are more "rock bottom" than others - some I feel more similarities with than others _ but ALL of them make me think and make me glad I stopped and glad I went to AA. For me it has been an extra tool in my sober toolkit which has made all the difference to my attitude this time around (along with exercise and the lovely Andrew Johnson stop drinking NOOOWWW app!)

I remember reading that alcoholics are like fingerprints - from a distance, they all look the same. Up close, they are all different.

I met friends today who, like me, have a very unhealthy relationship with alcohol. They were amazed that I have not drunk during the week for a month. I told them that I have drunk over the last two weekends, though.

It is really hard, though. I love the peaceful sleep and the clear conscience, but I miss the kick of booze and really hope I stop missing it soon.

orange in my experience the trouble with not drinking in the week (4 days) but drinking Fri Sat Sun (3 days) is - we never get to build up a significant period of sobriety which sees us through the times we want NOT to drink . That is my experience, anyway. Although not drinking in the week is also fab!

I can honestly say that when I actually get 20 or 30 days solid sobriety under my belt it gets much easier to keep on going and not get de-railed. The longer you can do, the easier it can get (but keep adding sober treats and extra tools to the sober toolkit!)

orange keep on going. You had a shit weekend last week and I know at that stage I would have thought 'fuck it'!
In fact I said fuck it last night. My eldest son was being an absolute shit and I knew I had a bottle in the house so I said to myself I'm going to drink it.. I actually forgot to drink it! When the situation had passed and peace was restored I was quite amused to realise that I was intending to drink.
Its been a long process and I had to post A LOT to ride it out sometimes.
Keep posting if you feel tempted. You lovely lot are probably the only reason I am sober.

adds - want not to drink esp at weekends

I'm bloody bored tonight though. I'm not missing a drink but I am not tired and there is bugger all on tv. I guess this falls under having to feel your emotions? Is boredom an emotion?

Thanks Glad, I'm still mulling AA over, I'll give it more thought.....I'm sure if I just went I would enjoy it. I suppose I'm lucky in lots of respects as I've got "my tribe" so to speak and completely agree with you about the importance of exercise. I'm part of a very large running club/community and I've run for years. They are a boozy lot though, it's almost like we are alcoholics with a running problem!! Not me now though, not anymore!!

I also enjoy doing quite a bit of High Intensity training at home and can thoroughly recommend Davina's new DVD, it's her best one yet and she's one of us revolutionaries too, she has been sober for years. I think I know what you mean though about the longer you're sober as I think its as much about breaking the habit isn't it?
I love Andrew NOWWWW Johnson, I'm glad you shared that with us.

Orange I like what you say about from a distance....I think that's very true and a good way of putting it. (Better than I did!) Keep strong, I know what you mean about the "kick" but oh wow, the following day the hangover doesn't half kick the living shit out of you and some!
Donaj I'm bored out of my tree! DH is watching the footy....just for a change! He's also drinking Shiraz (my tipple) but I'm not bothered by it. I've got some reading to catch up on and I'm going have some chocolate in a minute.....I'm running in the morning so I've decided I can

I'm being subjected to Night at the Museum on dvd right now ( again, for the 5 x !) - it would be SO much easier to cope with, with a bottle of red wine inside me was my fleeting thought .... - errm NO IT FUCKING WOULDN'T was my immediate reaction as I would not be there for DD who is enjoying the film with me on the bed AND and would have a hangover tomorrow rather than getting up to go swimming with DD. But I will NEED a date with AJ and his scottish NOWWWWW later on I think!

Evening all! Fell off thread for a bit there - DD was in Young Voices at O2 arena earlier this week which was fantastic, but a long day, and I'm still trying to catch up! Hurricane thank you for the kind blog name check Today's has been popular - no idea why with this title: 'What alcohol does to your body after the age of 40'

So dona yes I think you could say I am SO bored ! And yes, it is an emotion and one that drug use ( inc alcohol) pretends to fix. But doesn't actually do so

Ride the emotion and just experience it and observe it and then let it slip away as something you observed but did not react to Says lovely Scottish AJ in the app :) ( note I have actually managed to listen to ALL 2 hours of the full x 9 therapy session of it, over the last 6 weeks , and can assure all there is NOTHING sinister in it, just loads of lovely relaxing, supportive messages about breaking bad drinking habits )

And I love his accent!

Lucy sounds FAB! Well done to DD!

Ooh glad what is this 2 hour session of which you speak? Is it online?
I just can't wait for bedtime. Unfortunately my children are allowed a late night on a Friday so I'm waiting for everything to be switched off before I can chill out with AJ

dona if you go into the AJ app settings on your phone/tablet and set therapy to x 9 it lasts for 2 and a bit hours :) - x1 sets it to 30 mins - so play with the therapy to accommodate how long you have to listen :)

I have just admitted I play with AJ on my smart phone :) :)

It was glad & I came over all moist eyed :) She had such a great experience & I would recommend to anyone who's LO's get a chance to take part. Would have been a bloody nightmare if I was still drinking!

Pah! We are all still awake! Can anyone recommend a blog obviously I am reading HOF but I'd be interested if there are any other good ones. Its going to be a long night I think.
I've just been flicking through yours lucy and one post about the booze aisle really struck a chord.
I wandered down the M & S one today and I had a mixture of emotions mainly happiness because I don't need it in my life but also shame and regret at wasting all that time and money.
Does anyone else ponder and wander in the booze aisle?
Oh and of course I have inward smuggery when I see people with wine in their trolleys which is probably misguided. They will probably have a glass and stop at that!